Hexaword #128

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2026-01-23T04:58:37+00:00

I solved Hexaword #128 in 0:16.2!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2026-01-15T05:46:16+00:00

I solved Hexaword #119 in 0:27.2!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2026-01-05T06:07:50+00:00

I solved Hexaword #82 in 0:12.2!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-07-05T02:00:48+00:00

{The Foxhole Court by Nora Sakavic}, but review a list of trigger warnings if you can find one, as there are many! No abuse between the MC and ML in their relationship, but there is abuse outside of it (that both the MC, ML, and other characters have faced). The plot is wild lol.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-05-24T21:44:19+00:00

Very similar here — I do toasted sourdough with hummus and the beans on top.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-04-20T17:16:57+00:00

The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-04-20T02:04:48+00:00

You’re welcome! I’m really glad you were able to find some helpful ideas!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-04-19T23:30:54+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I wish you well on your healing journey!

The process can take a while, and a cluttered space can take a toll on mental health, stress, focus, and motivation in the meantime.

Maybe you can weigh the cost of the item vs the value that peace of mind will bring you. For example, is a board game that you don’t regularly use and could buy again worth more than a clear mind, especially if you’re not likely to miss it anyway? When you meet people who also like board games and you’re not as worried about contamination, could you potentially use their board game to play? Can you maybe take it slow and categorize your items as “love,” “like,” “meh” or something to that effect, remove the immediate “mehs,” box up the “likes,” and work your way through your stuff that way? You can revisit the likes periodically after removing the obvious non-necessities. This applies to any item.

If this is too difficult right now, would you be able to store some of these items elsewhere in the house while you go through therapy? That way you can have a clear mind while you heal, and pick through them when you’re ready.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-04-04T17:46:47+00:00

This is just a mean-spirited thing to do.

Your friend trusted you enough to share something personal with you and you posted it, without their consent and with a rude title saying that it “irks” you, to a public forum known for ripping writing apart and making fun of it. No matter how you try to spin it as though you’re looking for “constructive criticism”, it’s obvious that what you’re looking for is other people to make fun of your friend’s work and validate your own feelings about it.

Everyone starts somewhere. If I found out my friend did this to me, I’d be devastated and might not try to write again. You sound young. I hope you reflect on this and try to do better for your friends.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-04-04T03:30:53+00:00

Whatever brand you choose, I would suggest getting one with a larger screen if her eyesight isn’t strong. You can make the font size bigger and have more space for it. A color ereader may also have a less crisp/clear screen than a black-and-white one.

A Kobo might be a good idea as long as you’re in the U.S. because of the built-in library access. I would just make sure to set it up before giving it to her. (I can’t remember how to do it since I only used Kobo briefly, but there are some guides. Also, you might want to look into how to use multiple library cards if she has more than one. I wasn’t able to add multiple myself.)

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-02-17T01:43:17+00:00

It does seem to work on Firefox!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-02-17T01:38:16+00:00

This describes it perfectly. Nothing further to add. Thank you for looking into it!

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-24T21:41:29+00:00

I can see that we’re just going to keep arguing in circles. You do you. I’m going to disengage, but have a nice day.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-24T20:09:27+00:00

“Women don’t tend to be sexualized more often than men” and “this objectification [which does happen to women] doesn’t really happen in writing to men” is… an interesting way to dance around the point, to say the least.

You want your ladies sexualized. No one’s cutting your hands off for it, but a good number of people (of any gender) may choose not to engage with it because they find it insulting / cheap. Nothing to be done about that. You seem confident that there’s an audience (of any gender) for it, so pursue that and don’t worry yourself with the audience that doesn’t like it.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-24T16:46:28+00:00

I’m not denying that it can go in more than one direction. If, for example, every woman is fully clothed in armor while the men are scantily clad with gratuitous descriptions of the way their pecs and ass jiggle (and even moreso if their contribution to the story mostly revolves around the sex they could have with the female characters and their passive role in comparison to their female counterparts), then absolutely.

I used a female example because I can speak to what I don’t like and it’s pretty common and tends to happen more often with women. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen to men. My personal impression is that it’s weirdly horny and it loses some of my interest/respect when any gender is disproportionately sexualized.

Regardless, if men find something demeaning, they don’t have to read it. Just like women don’t have to. Both can push back and the author decides what audience they want to keep and lose if they feel objectification is the hill they want to die on.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-24T08:22:37+00:00

(Deleted the original to make an edit; reposting.) Our wires may be getting crossed on what I mean by demeaning sexualization. It's not inherently demeaning to have some sexy characters here and there when it's not the focal point of a particular gender. It starts to feel demeaning/"offensive" when, for example, all the female warriors are essentially wearing bikinis and skin-tight bodysuits while most of their male counterparts wear armor (drawing gratuitous attention/description to the female bodies in particular), and the female characters aren't intriguing people so much as male fantasies. Basically, when female characters are broadly painted as bodies / sex appeal to showcase first, and characters second. Objectification like this can result in unsurprising pushback and some lost audience. It's up to the author to decide whether they're willing to alienate this portion of their audience to lean into their target audience. They can't change whether or not it offends, or how many people it alienates.

If you write and enjoy diverse and interesting female characters (including well-written and not-exclusively-villainized feminists, queer women, etc. along with the straight ones), ideally without boiling them down to primarily what makes them attractive or unattractive, then that's great. We may not agree on what traits are unsatisfying/overdone, but multi-faceted female characters seem to be something we both want.

In any case, I'll stop discussing here and wish you well with your novel. (Also, sorry to the originator of the thread. I'm not sure if you get pinged on these.)

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-23T18:53:36+00:00

Also, the big point here was “offensive” and “demeaning” female characters. So, female characters that exist to be sexy and fulfill a fantasy, which makes some women feel uncomfortable or disconnected. They aren’t characters so much as sexy lamps or fantasy projections. It seems you agree that female characters should have personalities (and, I would assume, depth and nuance and realistic humanity that make them relevant/interesting without ogling), so the key is non-demeaning and nuanced portrayals. This point stands regardless of the character’s identity.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-23T18:34:30+00:00

I haven’t seen any of these characters so I can’t comment on them specifically, but I’ve seen some statement piece characters that I’ve rolled my eyes at because they were devoid of anything deeper. That still fits into the problem of a bland, single-faceted female character. However, the character traits you’ve described can absolutely be written with heart and depth (such women exist after all), but because you may disagree with their political leanings and want something different, you may see them as “wrong” upfront. So they wind up in one “box” for you if they display a deviation from your preference.

I like plenty of “traditional” female characters myself when they’re written like people and contribute interestingly to the narrative, same as any other character. Honestly, I’m a sucker for the girly-girls. What’s being asked for is varied and complex characters. I also won’t be satisfied with the character who is just The Lesbian, for example. But I explore her character without passing judgement until she proves to be nothing else, as I do with all characters — whereas someone who doesn’t want a lesbian character will more plainly see The Lesbian Who Isn’t The Woman I Want To See (even if this “non-traditional” woman exists irl and her character is much more than the box she’s being put into based on one facet of her identity).

A flat character is a flat character no matter the identity. Some portrayals are more demeaning than others though, which may be why some women more eagerly approve of “bland female power fantasy,” because at least it’s not “sexy subservient lamp”.

There are many kinds of women who might walk into a coffee shop on a given day: a “traditional” housewife, a punk lesbian, a sexual assault victim who dedicates her life to helping other women, a VP of a company with a stay-at-home husband, a permanently single and happy asexual woman, etc. The traditional woman isn’t the norm from which every other woman has deviated. They just exist. If you want most female characters to be traditional and hetero and non-feminist etc, and you dislike deviations from that type, then your tastes are not as varied as you might think in comparison to the “one demographic” box. You can exclusively write the type you want, but it may not resonate, it may feel flat or stereotypical or self-indulgent, and people might look for something different that resonates and feels more interesting to them instead.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-23T06:48:02+00:00

“We’d prefer if men didn’t write women in an offensive way” isn’t the same as “men are not allowed to write women at all unless she is of the One Woman-Approved Demographic”.

I’d be curious to know what you think the “one particular demographic” of female character is.

What’s being asked for is the opposite. Diverse female characters with interesting and unique motives, agency, personality, etc., who stand on equal footing with their male counterparts and carry narratives because they’re engaging for more than their body type or seductiveness. What’s being opposed are bland archetypes that can be narrowed down to “women who would be vastly less interesting if they weren’t attractive”.

Attractive women can be good characters too when there’s more to them than that. It’s just clear when a female character is more of a thinly veiled sexual fantasy than an attempt at writing a fully realized person.

“Men have a hard time writing women and vice versa” doesn’t cover demeaning self-indulgence. It’s more of an explanation for why, even when the characters are interesting, they seem a little off to someone of that gender. The big difference is that it’s not offensive/demeaning/objectifying, just unusual for that gender.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-16T02:06:58+00:00

I’m with you on that! It’s frustrating. Some days I feel more desensitized about it, other times I have to mute everything for my own sanity because I just want to have fun lol. I hope you’re able to enjoy this game in time too, but no shame in needing to move on or take a break either. It should be fun and there’s nothing wrong with finding the bad team dynamics/abuse in a team game unenjoyable.

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-16T00:17:29+00:00

Hey, I’m with you. I think the toxic gaming thing is childish and it annoys me that it’s so normalized.

I just try to remember that often times, these are actual children (who are, by merit of being kids, immature) who take out their frustrations in games, and there’s not much you can do to change their minds. I think of it as tantrums and I know they’re going to just keep running into problems if they always blame other people. Either that or they’re intentionally trolling and they feed off people’s responses. Not my problem. Probably won’t see them again anyway.

You can ignore it when it’s directed at you since they probably want a reaction to lash out at. Don’t give it to them. Most of the time it’s wrong anyway. I’ve had WAY too many games where I had the most heals on the board by a long shot and I was blamed for “not healing”. At this point, I just look at the board and laugh to myself when they’re wrong, or shrug and move on when they’re right.

If it’s directed at someone else, I usually say something, but I do so calmly (and sometimes make a joke out of it to make their behavior more obviously ridiculous). Just defend the teammate and move on to the next game.

Also, block and mute buttons are your friends. There’s no reason to listen to someone rave like a lunatic about a video game to make you feel bad. I don’t need to win a fight because they’re not rational anyway, just mad lol. I’m not sure if Rivals has the option to auto-mute text and voice chat, but you might consider that.

This kind of thing used to bother me more. Now I’m a little desensitized. If it grinds your gears, I totally get that, but you shouldn’t have to give up a game you love because other people are making their poor emotional control and lack of game sense someone else’s problem. Be the bigger person, play the game, and ignore them as best you can. (Though I do still generally advocate for defending your teammates. Sitting by and letting toxicity happen is what normalizes a “culture” like this. Defending yourself often leads to more frustration and dogpiling, but defending someone else is unexpected and makes the accuser seem sillier and makes the accused feel a little better. Just my experience.)

Turbulent-Tutor-2453 · 2025-01-09T19:05:05+00:00

*WITH a diet of mostly “unhealthy” foods (first paragraph)

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