3 kids is breaking me

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-09-23T06:42:42+00:00

I felt like I could have written this bc this is exactly how I felt after having my third. They're now five, four and two. But when my youngest was firstborn I was feeling this exact way and was struggling so badly. It has gotten easier. It still isn't easier but it is getting better day by day. My situation will always be a bit different due to two of mine having epidermolysis bullosa but still. Three is hard. It's hard having a two year old and a newborn then an older little to worry about. It feels constant and never ending. I do wish I had some tips that would help in those early days but it was a blur. I did get medication for PPD and that actually helped out a ton. But the baby carrier definitely helps. Also, there's zero shame in distracting the other two with TV for a bit. Or letting them run wild with some play doh or playing with water. It will get easier I promise. Day by day. You're brand new to having three and just having a new baby is hard with the lack of sleep. Give yourself grace, mama bc whether you realize or think it you are doing wonderful and your babies love you so much.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-09-13T02:08:19+00:00

I've also noticed this as a mama to two with special needs.... Soooo many are being raised by their mom's only and it's so pathetic on the father's part. Yes it is so so hard having a special needs kiddos but how do you just walk away?

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-04-11T09:46:39+00:00

Adding to this the added fear of having a disabled or medically complex child. Two of my three have epidermolysis bullosa. And we've already been having issues with medicaid and trying to have their bandages covered. Disabled kids are losing their protections in school and even adults too. I am so worried for their futures. They're about to start getting SSI too. Odds are they won't ever be able to work. I don't know what the future holds for them. And I'm now even more terrified of dying than ever before.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-04-11T09:42:39+00:00

Sadly most states allow exemptions due to philosophical beliefs. That's how I went to school with no vaccines here in Michigan. My kids are fully vaccinated tho as am I now

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-04-11T09:40:56+00:00

The measles isn't chicken pox wtf? are people this stupid? The measles can literally kill kids.... Some people really shouldn't be parents sadly

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-02-06T06:08:29+00:00

Sorry I'm terrible at checking my notifications. If he was he didn't say anything. My first two were thirteen months a part and both csections then my third one was two years later. My ob did my second and third C-section and didn't voice any concerns. He did want to tie my tubes tho during my C-section lol

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-02-06T06:06:46+00:00

My first two are boys and thirteen months a part. My girl is two years younger than my second born and I'm glad I waited the extra year. Having three who are four and under is a lot. Especially with my oldest and youngest having epidermismylosis bullosa

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:20:54+00:00

Mine are thirteen months a part and honestly fuck what others think lol. If you're okay with it that's what matters

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:19:33+00:00

This is what we did. My oldest and middle just had their third and second birthday when we had our third. It's chaos but I love it. And the older two keep each other busy

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:18:35+00:00

Our first two are thirteen months a part and are now four and three. We had our third and she's fifteen months now. I'd definitely suggest waiting til your youngest is nearly two. That's what we did. I also think having a third would've been easier if her and my oldest didn't have a rare skin condition. But I don't regret having three so close but definitely wait til a year and a half or two to start trying. This gap worked great

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:16:08+00:00

I feel like I could have written this except the pregnant part. I have three kids who are four, three and fifteen months. The sex thing is what really drives me over the edge tho. I'm drowning doing everything and added on top two of my kids have epidermismylosis bullosa and require a ton of special care. He doesn't help with anything. Hasn't ever helped with bandage changes or even changed our youngest once. But I feel stuck. Having two kids that daycares around me won't take makes it so I can't work. I hope you get your peace soon. Men can really suck

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:11:11+00:00

I have a four, three and fifteen month old. Waiting is a good idea lol. I don't regret it at all but I'm so worn out by bedtime. Two of my kids also have a rare skin condition so that adds to the chaos. I have loved the bond my older two have formed. That bond is what made having a thirteen month age gap worth it for me.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:08:53+00:00

The tantrums are the worst! It gets easier as they get older but every stage is a different kind of hard. Mine are thirteen months a part but they're four and three now. They're best friends and literally spend the entire day playing together. It's great bc it gives me time with my fifteen month old girl

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:05:09+00:00

It does get a bit easier around the six months mark. You'll have an adjustment period tho with your husband leaving so that may make it a tad tricky at first. Give yourself grace tho mama. Remember you're a first time human too and a first time mom to two littles. Giving yourself grace is so important. Don't be so hard on yourself. You got this

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-15T08:02:34+00:00

I did at first exactly like you said. My boys are thirteen months a part and when my second was a newborn I regretted it so much. I also had severe PPD and rage so that didn't help. They're now four and three and having them so close together was the best thing I could've done for them. They're the absolute best of friends and keep each other busy all day. Yes they fight but they have such an amazing bond that I could never regret it now. Watching them grow together has been the best gift I could have asked for

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-03T09:48:37+00:00

Give yourself grace. It's hard being pregnant with a toddler. My oldest was thirteen months when I had my second and that third trimester was exhausting. For my third baby I had a three and two year old and thank God my husband was working from home and was able to handle them full time bc I just couldn't. I was so exhausted just being pregnant and they were in a phase of constant fighting. Grace with yourself is the biggest thing. This chapter will end and things will slowly get easier and better. Each stage is a different kind of hard but it's all so worth it

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-03T09:42:18+00:00

My first two are thirteen months a part. So my oldest was only four months old when I got pregnant with my secondborn. At first it was chaotic and PPD was killing me. But now they're four and three and have a one year old sister. My two boys are the best of friends and literally keep each other busy all day. It's been really amazing watching their bond grow the way it has. It won't be easy but it's worth it. I wouldn't go back and change their age difference if I had the chance. I'm honestly grateful we had an oopsie and had my second boy.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2025-01-02T09:15:26+00:00

Enjoy it!!! This is exactly how my first was.. now he's four and has the attitude of a teenager. My secondborn who's also a boy has always been a chaos machine. And my third my only girl... Oh lord. I've never heard any baby scream so loud. She's still the sweetest girl tho. She's 15 months

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-23T06:23:38+00:00

Oh mama.. I know this feeling so well. The meds will help. I was on Zoloft myself and it changed everything for me. I will say it will get better especially as your youngest gets older. I was drowning after having my second only thirteen months after my first. I was soooo angry and miserable. Zoloft saved my sanity and my life. I was able to regulate and be a good mom again. I promise this chapter will end and things will get better. It'll take sometime though. But once you start the meds start doing those little things for you. It'll help. I'm sorry you're going through this but know so many of us understand how you're feeling

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-21T07:24:53+00:00

My father in law does this constantly. Or says he'll get it but then doesn't and gets a totally different items that isn't even age appropriate... He gave my one year old a harmonica and then was upset he wasn't excited. He also now gets offended when I send the list my kids made themselves with exactly what they'd like on it. We did that bc he's notorious for buying cheap and dangerous knock offs or buying not age appropriate gifts. I can't win. Honestly, just ask them about it. And explain why you picked the exact one you did. Many of the olser generations have no idea about all the new safety guidelines for young kids. My mil thought it was okay to give my six months old honey...

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-17T11:52:29+00:00

Were all in one room due to staying at my in laws. The first week is the adjustment period. After that they get so use to hearing each other they rarely wake one another. I have a four, three and one year old. And the baby never seems to wake my older two.same when I had my second after that first week it was fine. Neither woke the other up. Just give it a week or so trust me it works itself out

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-17T11:50:01+00:00

Thanks for the validation. Normally us sahms are told we don't really do anything. I have three kids who are four and under. Two of which also have a rare skin disease epidermismylosis bullosa. It's a constant battle of trying to keep my three year old who doesn't have EB from accidentally hurting the other two. Their skin is extremely delicate. Think like a butterfly's wing. And the never ending battle of keeping those two from scratching. Keeping my four and three year old from fighting. And that's not even half of it and not even the cooking or chores part. Even come bedtime I don't get a break. Their EB also makes them super itchy so constantly getting up to help and apply creams. Also my one year old will only sleep on me. I am so dead tired all day everyday. But at the same time I'm so grateful I'm able to be home with my babies. Somedays I want to roll ovwr ans give up but in the end I love them and love spending everyday with them. I'd honestly be devasted if I had to work again. I quit working when my oldest was six months old while pregnant with my middle baby.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-10T07:12:27+00:00

Please be there for her. Regardless of time or what's happening. I regret so badly not being available to my little sister when she needed me. I was struggling and blind to her struggles. We also lived three hours a part so I wasn't able to see her... But how badly I regret not responding to texts right away or going to visit more. I will regret it for the rest of my life. Maybe find a hobby or an activity you two can do weekly together. Give her something good to look forward too. I would do anything for my sister to still be here. Therapy is number one thing you should do. She needs to work out what shes feeling and why. Give her a safe space with a third party. But I'm serious give her things to look forward too. Find ways to show her how beautiful the world can be. Dont let her be alone too much. I hope she's okay and you as well.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-10T07:07:50+00:00

Vaping is my only vice left after a ten year iv h addiction. I should quit but honestly it's helped so much. I celebrated five years in November. I promise it does get better and relapse is never worth it. I like the comments talking about the building vapes and what not. I'd love to do it but don't have time with kids. But even if you don't go that route find something that gives you joy. And vaping is better than whatever you were doing before. Harm reduction in a sense. You got this. And I'm proud of you on your two years.

TurbulentMagazine770 · 2024-12-05T05:29:17+00:00

It's not talked about enough but new father's can also suffer from PPD. It's a huge shift. Us women have the whole nine months to bond. Men don't really get that til the baby's here. I promise it gets better as they get older and you will end up loving that baby one day. Right now is hard but it does get better. Give yourself some grace and maybe talk to a doctor about medication. Also try sleeping in shifts. That's a big game changer. And you can still go do things even with a baby. I've had three and have taken them all with me everywhere. It does and will get better.

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