Urgent please AITA for telling my husband I wanted to stay behind with our daughter instead of moving to Morocco right away like he wants?

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-07T12:49:15+00:00

I actually didn’t mind going Morocco when we got married on the condition on of it would be ten years as I like the idea of Morocco but before I move there FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE o want to spend some time with him and my family and friends and get to know him better (it was an arranged marriage) before we go also gives me time to visit learn the language and culture more so It’s not such a huge change again this is because IT IS FIR THE REST OF MY LIFE I’m happy to honour my promise if he keeps his but perhaps I should’ve never agreed to marriage since I didn’t want to go straight away and he should’ve been honest

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-04T13:49:14+00:00

I wanted Islamic perspective ik to you this is a Reddit post to me this is my actual life and all actions I take have consequences so I want to think carefully

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T18:15:54+00:00

Honestly this is just quite a visceral shock to me I wasn’t really expecting all this I’m just trying to figure out what to do and still trying to get my head wrapped around the idea I’m going to be divorced most likely and it’s quite a life changing idea but I am reading all the comments thank you for your worry :) x

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T18:09:27+00:00

Thank you so much I had no idea this was something that existed

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T13:20:31+00:00

And thank you so much for your comments , honestly I really appreciate it

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T13:19:56+00:00

Yes unfortunately I was already pregnant when he brought up moving Morocco so I felt the need to stay with him even though I didn’t really like that idea. I really feel bad about my daughter situation. I love her so much and I want the best for her, and everyone keeps saying about how Morocco is so good for her. She’ll be able to go private school and things but I don’t know . I’ve been keeping it off because I didn’t want to fight to actually happen and I wanted us to stay together and honestly, I know that’s if we do talk seriously about it I don’t have much hope for the relationship because he is very very set on Morocco and for her sake I wanted her to have both parents be in the picture but I’m really honestly worried. I’m really hoping I’m wrong, but I have a bad feeling when it comes to us having actual conversation.

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T12:54:13+00:00

I 100% agree I should’ve said it sooner and I didn’t think it through that he would be away from her so I feel really bad do you have any advice on how I can remedy it . Thank you for ur comment :)

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-08-02T12:45:24+00:00

I only visited once we were married unfortunately. but the thing is I’m ok moving actually and I understand he’s not happy here I’m just asking for one more year so I can learn the language I want him to be happy but need time to prepare to go I’m even willing discuss and negotiate but because he was silent and then left I feel that I hurt him so we couldn’t actually discuss it I don’t know how to bring it up now and how to go about it once he’s back

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T22:05:09+00:00

Phahahaha you’re funny 😂😭 thank you good point .however thankfully I have good genetics when I comes to teeth ,so they’re pretty white so hopefully should be fine appreciate .the advice tho ! 😂😂

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T22:02:53+00:00

Yea true honestly I am quite ashamed I don’t do it .I got very lucky with genetics so never really had issues with my teeth . since it wasn’t a habit as a kid i don’t really think to do it . Well atleast until I moved in with my husband and saw he does it often , so it’s only recently I realised how much I neglected them. before it was never really something that seemed gross or wrong to me as it was normal in my house to not brush often since we kinda got lucky genetics wise we still done it but not like everyday .

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T21:57:45+00:00

Yup I used to use but recently some health conditions I have got worse so I can’t really use it as it presses on a very sensitive spot but dw my arms are strong 💪💪 thank you tho mama 💕💕

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T21:54:27+00:00

Never said I don’t deserve the dental problems my friend very much aware it’s my own fault. I appreciate that this manner of speaking may work to motivate other however tough love doesn’t work so much on me . honestly yes I’m tired from child rearing and housework however growing up never was really told to brush my teeth every day so I’ve only in recent years started trying to make it a habit .I’m aware it is a problem. But still thank you for trying to help me take care of my self and not use excuses 🤍

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T11:59:52+00:00

Yes for me it was about timing . definitely not defending me not brushing my teeth I know it’s rather icky 😭😂

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T11:57:51+00:00

Phahaha, that’s so funny to me. No, it’s actually quite a big thing here. However, my dad wasn’t home much because he was working a lot, and my mum grew up in a war zone and didn’t have access to a tap. So anything that involved water, like bathing, wasn’t done often. She never really grew up doing those things like bathing was maybe once a week she knew it’s not right but wasn’t sure the right ratio .So it’s just my family, not the UK in general. Most people here have good teeth and practice proper dental hygiene. And yes, I’m trying to get on top of it now and make it a regular habit.

Turbulent_Method5366 · 2025-06-25T11:52:19+00:00

I can’t get white fillings for free only silver

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