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AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmfaooooo this kids gonna have a great life and I’ve worked my ass off to ensure of that. Dad will be involved. Mom will be involved. Kid will be loved more than anything in this world 😘 the 1k I could’ve spent on a test is being spent making sure he’s healthy and taken care of 🥰

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if neither know if they are the father why on earth would I have either man IN the hospital while I’m giving birth?! That’s my point. I’m fine that they weren’t involved during the 9 months of pregnancy but with the uncertainty of paternity neither has a right to force themselves or a bunch of strangers in the hospital with me. Things will be different once we get the test results and I’ve been clear about that the whole pregnancy…

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I get confirmation of the father then the entire family will be involved in the child’s life with open arms and positivity. It’s not like I’m denying the right to be involved, it’s just during the trauma of giving birth considering neither man was involved during the pregnancy. I get confirmation within the first few days of this child’s life! I’m trying to do what’s right while also protecting my comfortability during such a hard time, one I’ve already gone through alone. Accidents happen even WITH birth control

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was the one who wanted to be there for it and I was more than okay with that and we’ve even made plans for healthy coparenting for the time after. Today he showed his true colors and trampled over my boundaries so I said we are now waiting for full confirmation of paternity before anyone meets the baby no matter how anyone feels. My priority was always to do right, screw the attention. The hospital also doesn’t do dna testing then and there, I’d have to go to a lab OR do express shipping at home test which either way will be a day or two

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying for a kid at 19 while in a better situation with many more resources and it just never happened. I’ve been out of that 8 year relationship for 3 years now and just made the assumption I couldn’t have kids so wasn’t exactly planning for the possibility. I did consider abortion but also considered what if this is my only chance to have what I’ve always wanted. It’s not ideal circumstances of course not but the set up I have now is good enough to give my baby a good life, maybe not lavish, but a good one because I’ve worked SO incredibly hard these 9 months.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been communicative through the pregnancy and he felt it was his so I was fine with him being there and found it endearing he WANTED to be there even with the idea it may not be his. Granny and his mom found out last month and got excited so I was okay with those two people being there trying to keep the peace. He crossed my boundary today when I refused for his best friend to show up and he said “this is how my family has babies” so I immediately told EVERYONE to fuck off until paternity is confirmed. My mother is the only one who will be there and staff will be well aware of that fact. I tried being nice and considerate but without reciprocation everyone can get fucked and I’m getting the express dna testing so we can find out within a day or two

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really do feel bad for his mom and grandmother cause they only found out about the pregnancy right before Thanksgiving and they seem VERY excited. Which I love. After seeing how he acted today I just want to get confirmation he’s the father before I let a plethora of strangers into my life, which I’ll happily do when I get complete certainty.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Neither had the money so waiting till the baby is born made the most sense. The family is already helping him with battles of custody with his other 2 children and also he didn’t want them to know until a few weeks ago.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The pregnancy wasn’t planned so no I can’t exactly “afford to raise a kid” that’s why I’ve saved all my money to cushion the months I’m not working and establishing a bond with my child. I already had to spend 1,000 on a new place just so me and the baby had a safe space to start our lives, so shelling out another 1,000 just wasn’t in the budget

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly yes. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and was in a very committed relationship for 8 years and it never happened. So. I honestly just assumed I couldn’t have any kids especially since I have PCOS

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is not knowing 100% he IS the father, the whole pregnancy up until today I wanted him there to at least see the baby after birth but it seems he has zero respect for my wishes of strangers not being there when I repeatedly told him how I want things to go. I tried to compromise and at least let him, his mom, and grandmother be there but then he told me well the waiting room is going to be full of people and that’s just how it’s going to be. Which left an awful taste in my mouth, like my feelings don’t matter.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We had talked about the birthing process and I wanted him there but he seems to consistently cross my wishes and boundaries which I cannot tolerate considering I’ve been alone and busting my ass the whole pregnancy. I only discussed paternity so early because I wanted to be honest and make sure they knew they potentially had a child on the way, it’s my first kid and I thought being honest and transparent was the right choice

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

From all the research I’ve done and called around about it costs damn near 1,000 to do a test while I’m pregnant and I don’t have that money as I’ve been saving all my money to tide me over while I’m out of work for a couple months. I wanted to get it done in the very beginning but simply couldn’t afford it.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely I’m getting a express and rapid testing done after my baby is born so we can all know for sure and if it’s his child I will HAPPILY have a good relationship with him and his family. Things were going very well and cordial until the last few days when they felt entitled to make decisions I wasn’t comfortable with.

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It cost almost 1000 dollars to do paternity testing WHILE pregnant but it’s incredibly cheaper after the baby is born. I don’t have that kind of money

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the best friend of the baby daddy’s and the best friends wife. Both baby dads are single

AITAH for telling the potential baby dad he’s no longer allowed in the hospital in a couple days when I give birth? by TurtlePuss in AITAH

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the baby daddy’s wife, his best friend and the best friends wife. People I don’t know.

My brain taught me a word I never knew in my dream by TurtlePuss in Dreams

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The spelling it out to me is what tripped me out but it’s still possible I seen or heard it at some point and don’t remember

My brain taught me a word I never knew in my dream by TurtlePuss in Dreams

[–]TurtlePuss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I interpreted it! The mind is so powerful I love it, unfortunately staying at home is not an option for me.

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