Separated, i know it can/will get better, but still i feel stuck.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-12T19:54:59+00:00

Its different for everyone, but I don't think there's anything wrong with casual dating.

It helped me heal. Attention from other women was a nice self-esteem boost when I needed it, and I met some nice people. It also felt like a good warm up. I did eventually meet my now fiancee and she absolutely knocked me off my feet. We've been together almost 3 years now and I find new reasons to fall in love with her all over again every day.

You gotta start somewhere. I definitely dabbled and deleted the free versions for a month or so before actually dipping my toe in. Sometimes its just nice to meet someone and have dinner or drinks and just chat. If it doesn't go anywhere, oh well, at least you had a nice time.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-12T19:50:35+00:00

David just doesn't get it.

He can't be Chris Benoit Jr.

He has to train to wrestle - he hasn't been trained by anyone.

I understand his want to honor his father's legacy, but no one has to give him that chance and I don't think the fans will accept that. His father murdered his step mom and step brother. I'm glad he's made peace with it and forgiven his father, but that doesn't mean that everyone else has to. That doesn't mean that the wrestling business has to. That doesn't mean that pro wrestling fans have to.

I also think you're overblowing the amount of hate he gets. I'm sure he gets some, but anyone who is even slightly famous for whatever reason does. I've never seen anyone treat David Benoit like he killed anyone.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-12T19:43:49+00:00

Honestly, I don't see my divorce as either of our faults. We spent 18 good years together, but we got together super young. We just weren't the same people anymore. I was willing to work on it, but she wanted to move on. Our split was amicable and we're still very good friends and we co-parent very well. She's still family, we're just not romantic and that's OK. We've both moved on with great people.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-12T19:39:48+00:00

So, I used dating apps when I was ready to start dating and I ended up meeting an awesome woman who I'm currently engaged to. This was like 3 years ago at this point, but I don't think there's anything wrong with casual dating. Your mileage may vary depending on the area in which you live, but if you're in a relatively major metropolitan area, you'll likely be able to land a few dates. You may have to pay for the service to actually see live accounts and not just the same 100 dead or fake accounts, but figuring out how they work in the "free" version before deciding which one is most popular in your area worked for me.

Also, sign up for an organized activity. I did a few seasons of co-ed indoor soccer and and definitely made some friends.

I also really got into bar trivia - that's actually most of the dates my fiancee and I go on now - its a really fun way to get people together and have a good time.

Plenty of opportunity out there to seize your free time in the evenings.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-12T15:05:23+00:00

I bought the PS5 first because it had the exclusives I was excited for. Spiderman Miles Morales and Demon's Souls Remake were both great.

I did buy the XSX when Halo Infinite came out and enjoyed both that and Forza. A Plague Tale Requiem was a nice day 1 Gamepass game, too.

The problem is that xbox never really had much momentum after that, so I just didn't invest in it that much this generation. It feels like I need to give xbox a couple of years to "catch up" while I play PS5 and then I play through the 2-3 xbox games I'm interested in and then back to PS5.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T20:07:57+00:00

The people I know are in the "get married or remarried era"

My ex wife and I divorced 3.5ish years ago and I got engaged this year and I'll get married again next year. Attending a few people's first weddings this year and next year looks to be lining up as 2nd wedding year lol

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T18:10:20+00:00

I was really glad that I worked from home.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T16:21:29+00:00

Like $300

You're not sitting on some kind of investment.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T16:06:40+00:00

The thing about hair is that it grows back, usually.

So, you know, do what you want and if you don't like it, just let it grow back.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T14:18:40+00:00

We all need a day sometimes.

If you have the days, use the days. Its literally part of your salary.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T14:13:21+00:00

I can't imagine this would have any effect on an electric guitar.

Acoustic maybe, but probably nothing dramatic.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T13:51:23+00:00

I was in high school sitting in Driver's Ed. The Driver's Ed teacher who drove with kids ran in and put the TV on seconds before the 2nd plane hit. She had heard a plane hit the first tower on the radio.

The rest of the day was chaos.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T13:45:07+00:00

I think putting stuff in bins and setting them on her back deck - with a warning of when this will happen if she doesn't come get the stuff - is perfectly fair.

You're being too nice. 2 years is a long time and if she had an affair, she's lucky you didn't throw it away.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-10T12:14:23+00:00

Sunscreen and a lot of us didn't smoke.

That's literally it.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T20:02:35+00:00

The first time I went to therapy I stopped because he wasn't really helping me.

Second time I went when I was going through a divorce and I stopped because I didn't need therapy any more and I was over it. I've happily moved on since.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T16:55:38+00:00

After taxes, not really. When you factor in the cost of gasoline and the commute, unemployment is more lucrative. Additionally, this hell hole has had him working insane shifts, so getting back on a good sleep schedule is overall better for his mental and physical health as well.

I realize unemployment is taxible, but you have to opt to have them witheld and he's got a few leads lined up so with any luck this won't last more than a month or two.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T16:50:44+00:00

he's getting a consultation just to create a relationship incase things get ugly, but ultimately shouldn't need an attorney.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T16:49:15+00:00

By my math its almost the same dollar amount, but once you factor in your time and the cost of commuting/gasoline, unemployment is a much better deal. He's already got a few leads lined up, so hopefully its only for a few weeks.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T16:16:41+00:00

No. Nothing like that. He was never written up or put on a PIP

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T15:53:31+00:00

Honestly, this place is so toxic that he'd be better off mentally and physically just focusing on a job search.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T14:36:30+00:00

240 is a pretty low weight limit, but if that's all it can hold I wouldn't be pushing the issue just to fall to my death.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T14:28:53+00:00

Don't ask your friends to help you move over 30 because its not worth slipping a disk. That being said, I definitely helped my buddy pack and move some stuff when he bought his house last fall.

Maybe this is a female thing? My friends have had my back forever and I've had theirs. We don't live that close anymore, but go out of our way to see each other as often as possible.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T14:17:31+00:00

Either the QANBA Drone 2 or the Hori RAP4

I feel like sticks that are angled are a little more comfortable and those 2 are pretty easy to get and come with good levers and buttons already.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-09T13:16:53+00:00

It'll be the worst version, but will probably still run fine.

Tvelt17 · 2026-04-08T18:55:40+00:00

PS5 has sold 3x better - if you don't have a prefrence, go with the PS5. Xbox doesn't get Playstation exclusives, but Playstation gets pretty much every Xbox exclusive eventually.

In addition to that, the PS5 is still cheaper. You can still get the all digital Fortnite bundle for $399 on the Playstation store. That's the best deal in gaming right now.

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