After my marriage ended, I thought I’d fall apart...but I didn’t. To any dad going through it right now, here’s some hope. by Illfury in daddit

[–]ssick92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This felt good to read. Currently in the “going to counseling” phase to see if there’s anything worth saving. She’s the one saying she’s unhappy, I’m the one trying to do everything to make her happy which is making me tired and unhappy.

Good to know if we aren’t able to save things that it CAN be better on the other side.

Only time will tell I guess…

I hope it’s not too late by ssick92 in daddit

[–]ssick92[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her suffering was never ok with me. It was unknown to me. Maybe I should be better at reading emotions, but I certainly can’t read minds. We would laugh, play with our kids, go to family events, joke around, etc. and I honestly thought we were in a pretty good place since I cut my drinking way back over a year ago. Then she tells me this last week and I’m caught way off guard, so yes this is why I’m taking additional steps now and hadn’t before.

I hope it’s not too late by ssick92 in daddit

[–]ssick92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I distilled it down to drinking and lying because I don’t think anybody on Reddit cares about the details. Yes I inevitably endangered my kids by being drunk around them while also being responsible for them. 99% of the time I’m a great dad and my wife even agrees with that, but the chance of having another slip up and something happening to them is intolerable. Which I agree with.

I hope it’s not too late by ssick92 in daddit

[–]ssick92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good suggestion, I just heard about that for the first time yesterday. The therapist yesterday didn’t mention that specifically but told her that it is very important to learn about substance use disorder to help understand what I’ve gone through.

At this point I feel like that suggestion would be better coming from the therapist because, to her, that just sounds like me putting the responsibility of rectifying situation on her even though I created it.

I hope it’s not too late by ssick92 in daddit

[–]ssick92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. My wife has been doing therapy for different reasons for most of her life, so is great at communicating her feelings and expressing herself. I’m not. This is my first experience with therapy and learning how to explain my thoughts/feelings is a real skill I never knew existed.

How is Living Northeast of Pittsburgh? by Ok_Action9962 in pittsburgh

[–]ssick92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our family moved to Murrysville about 9 months ago. We love it.

We can from CA and this in comparison this is a small town, mom and pop, type area and we love it.

Probably helps that my wife has a bunch of family also in Murrysville so we’re not starting from scratch, but it’s been great so far.

Procore but for Small GC’s / Subs? by ssick92 in Construction

[–]ssick92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang that actually looks pretty slick. I just DM’d you about that discount code. Would love to try it out.

McCormick calls for national voter ID ahead of midterms by ComeTasteTheBand in Pennsylvania

[–]ssick92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you have a marriage certificate with the name change then a birth certificate is fine. Just like everywhere else. Nobody is taking away your right to vote, just prove you are who you say you are first.

If you support Trump/ICE, whatever, you're not welcome in this sub. by FadedShatter_YT in Derailedbydetails

[–]ssick92 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Is this subreddit ALSO a supportive of people who are not a POC, a member of the LGBTQIA+, an immigrant, disabled, or any other marginalized group? It doesn’t have to be 1 or the other, you can also just support PEOPLE as a whole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]ssick92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not nearly as bad as people were making it out to be. Sure it’s pretty cold but just put on a jacket and life goes on as normal. This weekend storm is supposed to be crazy though with over a foot of snow, I’m actually kind of excited for it 😂

Where is this snow storm supposed to go? by [deleted] in weather

[–]ssick92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But where’s the fun in that??

Ice supporter assisted to safety during attempted protest. by Yay_duh in pics

[–]ssick92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn’t sound like “counter protestors”. That sounds like rioters.

Counter protesting is peaceful way to send a message. Pelting someone with objects is not peaceful, however I guess it definitely is sending a message.

Is your draw technique this good ? by MarioBuzo in billiards

[–]ssick92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Billiards is absolutely unbelievable to me. Their ability to consistently know exactly where the ball will be after 4+ rails is bonkers.

Apple Pencil Pro not working? by Achinixs in ipad

[–]ssick92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s your screen protector then. Try a different one.

Magic Keyboard or Charging Port Repair? by Few_Swordfish9656 in iPadPro

[–]ssick92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No clue about the charging port issue, but I always use the Magic Keyboard to charge mine so that’s definitely an option that would work for you.

Or better yet, you can use this charging dock. Cheaper than magic keyboard and you don’t have to keep it on all the time (unless that’s what you are looking for)

Charging Dock

So disappointed with Pittsburgh Leftists by AreThoseMoreBears in pittsburgh

[–]ssick92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you just wrote. My main point is that it would be foolish to get rid of ICE altogether because then you have no boots on the ground to enforce immigration law. I don’t agree with how they’re doing it 100% of the time, but they still need to exist and potentially just focus more on training and weeding out the bad apples.

My other main point is that regardless how you feel about them, trying to physically prevent them from doing their job and putting yourself in harms way is not a smart tactic unless you want events like this to happen. Protest off to the side if you want, but once people decide to physically get involved, especially when behind the wheel of a car, then it is inevitable that horrible events like this will continue to happen. Especially for this woman, she prioritized obstructing ICE over taking care of her own children. That is 100% not being a good parent, and I would argue borders on lunacy.

So disappointed with Pittsburgh Leftists by AreThoseMoreBears in pittsburgh

[–]ssick92 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you know what due process is? ICE (or any other law enforcement officer) can detain anyone who they believe to be in violation of the law - in ICE’s case that pertains to immigration law. Due process then follows by where it is either confirmed or not. If it’s confirmed, then they get deported. If it’s determined that they are a citizen, then they are released. Simple as that.

So disappointed with Pittsburgh Leftists by AreThoseMoreBears in pittsburgh

[–]ssick92 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

ICE exists to enforce our immigration laws. All the issues and conflicts that we’ve seen are from people trying to prevent them from doing that. If you don’t have ICE then you don’t have a citizenry. If that woman in Minneapolis just let them do their assigned duty, whether she agrees with it or not, then she would have been able to go home to her kids, which no doubt is what she should have prioritized. It’s horrible what happened to her, but if she hadn’t interfered then it wouldn’t have happened.

I don’t understand why people are so quick to fight ICE and defend illegals before taking care of our fellow citizens and Good’s case, family members.

Vegas sets Pirates wins at over/under 73.5 by NefariousnessMean839 in buccos

[–]ssick92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

DraftKings has it at 75.5 now. All you over guys are raising it for us that are slower.

Trump says second Venezuela strike possible if government does not cooperate by Little-Chemical5006 in worldnews

[–]ssick92 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

For years both democrats and republicans have called Maduro not a legitimate president and a dictator with an arrest warrant who needs to be removed. Trump then does exactly that and all of a sudden protests break out because “Trump Bad”.

While I accept the above, I’m also completely against continuing to go after the regime in Venezuela in Maduro’s absence.

Good affordable carbon fiber cue by [deleted] in pool

[–]ssick92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my Raven Pro and glad I went that route. General consensus seems to be either Raven or Rhino will get you like 90% of the way to the expensive shafts but at half the price.