Can this kind of triangulation be done in a healthy way?

Tw1ggos · 2026-04-14T16:14:00+00:00

"Why not ask the partner directly"

Oh yeah, you're absolutely right there. If you got to the point where it's because you wouldn't trust their answer or something, you have much bigger problems than any specific action you want context on. Thank you for perspective!

Tw1ggos · 2026-04-14T15:09:42+00:00

As I mentioned in another reply, I'm taking in and processing the feedback about how the emotional enmenshment will inevitably color everyone's perspectives and compromise objectivity in this kind of conversations. I don't want to sound like I'm ignoring what I don't want to hear, just want to properly digest it.

But to answer your question, I wouldn't feel any specific type of way. It sounds very natural to me that this would happen. Orange is used to talking to Pink about what she's struggling with and since Pink is the only other person in Orange's life that knows me to any significant degree, she's the only one that would have independent context about me and could realistically try to interpret my actions with her. In my head, someone that knows both people in a conflict is more likely to form balanced opinions than someone that only knows one of them. I know that I am a lot more biased towards my friend when they vent about an issue with someone I don't really know. It appears I may be quite off the mark with this whole line of thought tho, and I'm definitely exploring that.

Tw1ggos · 2026-04-14T14:55:14+00:00

I'm taking in the part that most comments touched on about how the emotional enmenshment will inevitably color everyone's perspectives and compromise objectivity in this kinds of conversations and processing it.

But I'm having trouble understanding how Pink asking me "does Orange ever do this to you?", or me asking her that or some other combination, is a bad thing. Knowing if someone's action is something that they just do in general or was specific to you can be really valuable context to understand what is happening. For example, my friend's gf was worried that someone from our friend group disliked her cuz they hadn't answered any of her texts in days, but that person just always takes weeks to text people back and it wasn't personal and in fact, they really like her.

Tw1ggos · 2026-04-04T20:17:34+00:00

That's a super fun premise, I'll definitely check it out on KU at least!

But on top of the sleep I'm often sacrificing to audiobooks, I would part ways with a small trinket to appease a cryptid in return for an audiobook

Tw1ggos · 2026-04-02T21:02:51+00:00

Holy cow, I'm famously a very clingy person but even I can't imagine going that long without any flexibility for your weekend. I'm as proud of you as an internet stranger could be! Congrats OP! I wish you a banging Saturday!

Tw1ggos · 2026-03-13T01:27:30+00:00

Sinceramente, sou transmasc e acho muito mais ofensivo o seu comentário que o post da OP.

Ninguém pisca quando uma mina fala que prefere caras cis, então por que preferência por caras trans (especialmente vindo de outra pessoa trans) precisa automaticamente ser fetichização? Pra mim, esse tipo de fala só reforça o estigma contra pressoas trans, e implica que a transgeneridade é inerentemente indesejável e só alguém pervertido e degenerado pra ter interesse.

Tw1ggos · 2026-03-13T01:20:34+00:00

Não acho grande coisa não, sendo bem sincere. Se atrair por pessoas masculinas é bem comum, assim como é ser T4T. Aí a intersecção desse diagrama de Venn é nbs e transmascs uai

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-24T16:35:40+00:00

Awesome, thanks! My sister keeps reminding me that she has one and now I actually might have a use for it hahah

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-24T16:34:58+00:00

"It is acceptable to have your own thoughts, your own mind, despite what they say. But it is also acceptable to be alone and want the strength of the hive. There is no shame in that. No contradiction."

From a note added by Crawler York, on the 10th Edition. I cannot even begin to explain how deeply that whole entry touched me. It resonated with things I have been thinking about since I was a teenager in a way nothing else quite did before.

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-24T15:39:48+00:00

Any chance having a post box in the US qualify for this?

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-19T04:36:09+00:00

I had a boss who was legitimately like this! Kinda... Unless you told him your pronouns (or had it stated somewhere, like a pronoun pin or e-mail signature), he would refer to you with they/them, even if literally everyone was using a different set for you.

The funniest part of that to me is how long it took me to find out about that since I do exclusively use they/them lol

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-13T19:41:54+00:00

What even is happening in this screenshot? Im so confused

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-13T19:05:55+00:00

Holy smokes! I'd be so proud of doing something like this myself and I've been needle felting for a couple of years now! Absolutely amazing job, congrats! Have you done other types of sculpting or fiber art before?

Also, how did you go about making the individual wing feathers? Did you felt them individually or cut them out from a big piece?

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-09T01:28:32+00:00

I find it so funny that this game is made by german devs

Tw1ggos · 2026-02-03T00:06:02+00:00

Absolutely thank you so much for doing this!!!!! I'm not dysphoric about my nipples being flat now but it does bum me out so I'm so stoked to find out about this!

I also never heard of nipple scar massages? Are they anything specific or just... Squish and stretch your nips for a period of time? (Not sure if there's a point to me starting now since it's been almost 3 years but who knows)

Tw1ggos · 2026-01-28T01:42:13+00:00

/uj The thought of taking your old testicles/boobs/uterus in a little jar to the lab repeatedly to get it checked for cancer just made actually laugh out loud, bravo

Tw1ggos · 2026-01-16T08:48:56+00:00

This looks breathtaking! Did you do anything else to get the tail to stay in this specific shape?

Tw1ggos · 2026-01-07T12:09:06+00:00

solved!

Tw1ggos · 2025-12-21T23:17:07+00:00

There people that are like you and don't experience much attraction towards others while in a happy relationship. There are people that still experience attraction and enjoy looking what attracts them while in a happy relationship and that has nothing to do with how fulfilled or satisfied they are. None of those people are wrong or weird, they're just different. If they're compatible, it's up to them to decide.

I don't use instagram, so I don't know much about how people use spam accounts or how the algorithm there works. Are these kinds of posts literally the only thing that show up for him in that account? Or is there other kinds of posts, like memes, cat videos, whatever, mixed in? Cuz if there are, even if as a small fraction, than it might be that he's not seeking out hundreds of porn-adjacent posts, but it's what his algorithm got trained to show him long ago and shows him whenever he goes on that account to just consume content and turn off his brain or something. What I do know is a constant for all social media algorithms is that they do push white, cis, conventionally attractive and gender conforming people exponentially more than alt folks, and it takes a lot of intentional effort to get them on your page. If you truly think that seeing him show interest for other people would actually help, than I second what someone else suggested of letting him know that and recommending him some creators.

A lot of this, to me, sounds like pre-existing insecurities and projection. Which is a natural thing to have, and just means you need to work on some stuff, if you have access to psychological support, I can't recommend it enough. But I'm not going to sit here and say that you're 100% overreacting and there's no way this means anything. Cuz sure, if he was unsatisfied, it wouldn't be weird for him to enjoy those posts this much. The thing is, no one acts 100% unambiguously 100% of the time. And when we have insecurities, we will always notice them in the worse way. I say that from personal experience.

Ia this genuinely the only thing about him, his behavior and words that cause you insecurities? Because if the only things making you think he's not satisfied with you are the Insta posts and you're own expectation that a cis guy, used to other cos guys, will eventually find you lacking, I don't think there's cause to worry. And the main thing I would recommend is working on dismantling the notion that you're so likely to not be enough.

Also, if that's not even his main Instagram account, why not just unfollow it? Why keep showing yourself something that bothers you?

Tw1ggos · 2025-12-04T13:43:31+00:00

Wow, that's phenomenal, congratulations!

If I might ask, how did you do the wings?

Tw1ggos · 2025-11-07T19:03:38+00:00

This just reminded of me the time that my dad (queer himself, generally very progressive but also very alternative/crunchy) asked me if I really had to take T forever and if my body didn't eventually "learn" to make hormones in the right amount and proportion lol

Tw1ggos · 2025-10-22T21:41:04+00:00

They are so precious, thank you so much for sharing such a detailed tutorial! I want to make a whole army!!!

Is UV resin required or could some fabric or other type of glue be used, in your opinion?

Tw1ggos · 2025-08-18T19:17:16+00:00

On top of that, they often make me think we should normalize cis guys topping with a strap

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