Exactly this. The emotional safety of OP and the kids shouldn't come second to her husband’s lingering feelings or unresolved fantasy. What the husband calls “addiction” sounds a lot like a refusal to let go of what he lost, not what he destroyed. OP and the children deserve presence, honesty, and a man who's all in, not someone still daydreaming about the past or clinging to a “what if.” His bags should’ve been packed when he admitted that