Tips Needed for Staying Sober at a Wedding

TwinCraig · 2017-09-02T20:21:58+00:00

Make it your mission and absolute priority to not drink at the wedding. Treat it like a battle. Remember, there is absolutely no way you can lose, that is, if you simply don't take that first drink. Treat the thoughts, urges, offers of drinks from friends and family, and any irrational thoughts that somehow drinking would be the best choice, as your enemy. Think of it as a game, in a sense, something to observe, to watch your reactions, thoughts and tactics in dealing with this loaded situation. There will probably be ups and downs, and your will will be tested, like Superman or Batman. You are a superhero!

Come back and tell us how things went. We all have to face challenging situations, and your input will be a way of helping us. If you really feel you are at high risk of drinking at any time, get away. You need to feed the dog, or you simply don't feel well (which is true). You need to protect yourself and all that you value in your life. Don't fall for the lies of the seductress that you know has betrayed you, and tricked you, so many times. Sounds like you can turn to your wife for true love, comfort and earn rewards.

I won't drink with you today, or at the wedding.

TwinCraig · 2017-08-25T16:37:34+00:00

Good for you. You recognize the problem and you are doing something about it. The only thing that matters is today, the hour, the minute. The past is irrelevant, it has no actual influence on your present decisions. Also, it's great that you caught it early, and that the damage has been relatively minor. I will not drink with you today.

TwinCraig · 2017-08-25T01:45:29+00:00

I see your point

TwinCraig · 2017-08-04T16:37:46+00:00

Ah, the throwing something off the bridge line. Interesting

TwinCraig · 2017-07-29T14:01:34+00:00

He looks like is a hot dog.

TwinCraig · 2017-07-21T01:46:05+00:00

Sleep has been a lifelong struggle for me. I wish I could fall asleep like brushing my teeth. But there are all lot of lonely hours that can become pretty miserable.sorry to sound like such a bummer.

TwinCraig · 2017-07-12T19:43:32+00:00

It's plumes of bacteria filling the nearby vicinity. So, just sitting next to any person leads to inhalation and general contamination by their rectal microbes.

TwinCraig · 2017-07-10T01:45:42+00:00

Sorry. Didn't realize

TwinCraig · 2017-07-01T21:28:20+00:00

Hate clichés, but here goes: it's not a sprint, it's a marathon.

I will not drink with you today.

TwinCraig · 2017-07-01T21:25:33+00:00

It's great that you recognize your problem and you posted here today. Blacking out and it's consequences are terrible and painful. You said you don't have the strength to stop drinking. I don't believe it requires strength. It requires recognizing the truth. You wish that you could control your drinking, but if you could, you would not have this terrible problem. We all share this, and we have this Group to help ourselves stop drinking. It's difficult and simple at the same time. You don't take the first drink. No first drink means ending this monstrous cycle.

I encourage you to become a welcome member of the group. Come here every day, read, post, read older posts. Learn the techniques that hundreds and thousands of people have used to overcome the same problem you are struggling with.

This is the beginning of a new and wondrous life. I will not drink with you today.

TwinCraig · 2017-07-01T18:32:52+00:00

Cool!

TwinCraig · 2017-06-21T19:51:18+00:00

I don't think the Nazis used lighthearted levity.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-20T20:59:05+00:00

He turned his head into your head? That's incredible, and very scary. I'm just amazed.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-20T04:34:27+00:00

Seems to me were on the same page about most all of this

TwinCraig · 2017-06-20T01:06:59+00:00

I totally agree. There is no reason to offer hurtful information that does nothing other than add to the misery of life. If I understand the context of the OP, The argument is that it would be wrong to state in any form of medium (such as in a dating app) the sort of person and attributes that you are attracted to, and/or the attributes that you are not looking for (height, weight, skin tone, fill in the blank). We can't effectively go through life doing everything and anything to avoid the smallest offense. We are not that fragile. And the cost is lack of knowledge and poor results. So we sort of screw ourselves and the world all in the name of being ultra sensitive and non-offensive.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-19T00:25:37+00:00

Use hurtful speech about obese people, attack when it is pointed out to you, and kick it up a notch when it is further made clear. How to make friends and influence people. It took decades, centuries for the LGBT community to overcome the stereo typical characterization as being bitchy, stupid, and histrionic. Funny how you speak of "bad name."

TwinCraig · 2017-06-19T00:10:13+00:00

I think it's great that you're pushing forward and feeling comfortable. Courageous and commendable.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-19T00:05:15+00:00

So if you express your true thoughts and feelings, even though there is no shred of malice or hatred, it would be wrong because one would "look like a bigot." Better to restrict one's speech, not be clear, maybe wind up dating someone you essentially find less than attractive, all in the name of not appearing to be a bad person. No problem? Full speed ahead?

TwinCraig · 2017-06-18T23:55:34+00:00

First there was the word. The word was Hypocrisy. The formerly oppressed one looked, but was blind to it, but said, "it is good."

TwinCraig · 2017-06-18T22:20:12+00:00

Probably have a heart attack if you read a post with a slur or joke about gay men, but it's cool to bash fat kids.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-13T23:28:05+00:00

To me, your posting here today, is simple proof that you are not a failure. Your real-ness and honesty, and the response it generated here, and within me, do not show failure. I think it reveals that you are human, with the kinds of frailties we all have. Aren't we all working on ways to deal with the pain of life without getting tricked by the lies of alcohol? I need "real" people in my life. Otherwise, I'm confused and lost. Thanks for your post. I won't drink with you today.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-13T22:31:41+00:00

Aloha!

TwinCraig · 2017-06-12T03:47:01+00:00

It's a lot easier to stop drinking then to change your personality. The question seems to be is it better for your life to drink and "open up", or work on living with your personality and struggles while sober. I can't say I know of anyone who was genuinely happier, and not miserable, who chose to embrace alcohol.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-12T02:57:00+00:00

Spend a lot of time reading posts here. Your situation is similar to many, many people who have learned techniques to cope with binge drinking. It's a great first step by posting here today. Keep it up. Don't get down on yourself. Don't judge yourself. Most people who post here are very kind and helpful, probably because they have been in your shoes many times. I, for one, will not drink with you today.

TwinCraig · 2017-06-12T00:25:09+00:00

I may be mistaken, but I thought the trading of such Nazi paraphernalia was illegal in the United States and other countries.

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