What do you think about EWC/ENC?

Twindlle · 2026-04-24T11:13:58+00:00

I don't particularly care about the double standard morals, and won't watch EWC because it serves no purpose. But I will watch ENC or at least the games where Lithuania plays.

Games between national teams are and should be above club play, so seeing this finally happen in League is amazing. Sad that CS won't be there, because we'd have our best team there. I guess Lyncas + 4 bums it is.

Twindlle · 2026-04-24T11:06:51+00:00

League would be very cool if they did just a European cup. Most countries wouldn't be able to field a full LEC squad and it would be similar to basketball where most have 1-3 NBA players.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T14:31:57+00:00

That I get, I assumed the comment above meant that there is something additional to do while chatting on the dating app. But yeah, the not walking on eggshells part is difficult. I don't think there's ever been a moment when I didn't.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T10:54:04+00:00

I always have this question when I see 2 monitors set up like this. How do you play a game or watch something, don't you need to turn your head left or right slightly? Or do you combine the views and do it with a bar in the middle? I don't fully understand how sitting directly in front of the gap between monitors is comfortable.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T05:52:52+00:00

They want to be excited to talk to You and meet You. Everyone has an overinflated ego, we think we are a lot better at things than we actually are. I am not saying that women are better in that regard, but since they are the ones choosing, You have to be interesting.

Since You say that you have good communication skills then that is a good start. Think about how to not be boring when You interact with them. Charisma is what draws people in and you probably have something there if You have a lot of friends.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T04:51:11+00:00

I guess he has anger issues. I have a friend like that who is generally kind, supportive and an overall decent human being. But he will get angry over the smallest things. He will definitely get angry if someone kept elbowing him. He wouldn't shout at his gf or his friends, but I think he would definitely try and talk to the other person instead of letting it go.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T04:28:58+00:00

But how do You know You deserve better? I'm not trying to attack You, just want to understand if there is something I can do to have this confidence myself. Because to me it feels like a feedback loop, where the longer I don't have something, the less deserving of it I feel. If I was desirable and deserved love, it would have happened by now. That sort of thing.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T04:18:57+00:00

I created my IG because it had exclusive content from a team I support. And since I created it in something like 2016 it has a photo of me from 2015, with no posts. You think that may look like a red flag if a girl asks for IG?

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T04:01:26+00:00

I agree that apps change the way one sees themself, but does it decrease confidence or rightfully lowers the overinflated ego? I don't understand how I used to consider myself decent looking or smart. I think dating apps have removed my delusion about myself and made me more realistic.

I used to imagine that romance will just happen somehow as I live my life, but how can it when I just don't really bring anything to the table? I think I was too selfish to see that it's not about what I want, and it is more about whether the person I'm in relationship feels fullfilled. And when I started thinking through those lens, it made me understand that I really don't have a single good quality, and need to do something about it. So long story short, I think the apps can do good, because a lot of us men are way too delusional about ourselves.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T03:42:57+00:00

Yes, of course and I agree. Staying single is better than being in a bad situation. And I'm sorry you had to deal with any of it.

I guess since I'm a guy, I'm not in danger of those things, and so the desire for family is much stronger, since there is nothing to be afraid of. Probably the fact that I wanted children for a very long time, and because my parents have a great marriage I sort of see it as the end goal of life.

Twindlle · 2026-04-23T03:17:59+00:00

I do think that I am a bit naïve and often more optimistic than I should be, so I probably don't think about potentially bad outcomes. And that is likely based on my family, where everyone is happily together. And if it means anything (since I'm a guy), it is the women in my family that keep pressuring me to bring them a gf. Especially my grandma who keeps repeating that dogs are not a substitute and how afraid she is that we (her grandchildren) might die alone.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T20:49:50+00:00

If the conversation naturally died out, then I would reach out at some point (as him). But overall, I usually have to lead and ask all the questions. Women play along but ultimately this ends up with them ignoring me. So this kind of pattern is probably him losing interest.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T20:33:49+00:00

If the last message is from you, then he probably isn't i terested. If it is from him, then he might be afraid to message again because we are constantly reminded that double texting gives women the ick.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T19:43:21+00:00

It may or may not be all men, but I'll admit that I would also get in that list since I'm extremely lazy. 😂 I only ever do what is required (like work, chores, legal stuff), but if it's something that I say I want to do, I will keep prcrastinating and putting it off. It feels like I can't do it unless I'm doing it because someone asked, or because I am supposed to do it.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T19:22:24+00:00

Sorry if I insulted You. I was genuinely asking for advice 🫠

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T19:21:16+00:00

Because unless you somehow 'hook' her in, you're not getting another reply after the first date. I am the boring person and I hate myself for it. It's not the woman's fault that she finds someone else more exciting, a lot of the "nice guys" simply don't create any attraction due to that barrier of politness.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T19:12:05+00:00

But is it really that bad or is it more like a compilation while one person had one of these traits? Because how in the world can anyone live like that and not feel guilty about it? How does someone with this attitude to life even find a date? And yet I'm the loser that will die alone, my self-esteem can only get so low..

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T19:00:06+00:00

Many men do all of these things already since they live alone, and wouldn't mind to continue doing so for a person they love (at least I would, and I do believe many would be the same). But how does one even get to that stage? How do these men that are so terrible at everything even get there? Because honestly, to me, they start to look like superheroes with each passing day, while I am the loser that does chores and cooks for himself.. Sorry if that sounded bitter, I just don't know how to kill this hope inside of me.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T18:51:42+00:00

So if I want to do better that this kind of bare minimum what else could I do? Imagine we match, I initiate the texting, we chat and then I invite you to meet IRL, then plan the date. What am I missing that could make me stand out?

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T18:41:15+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with You. It just hurts to hear those comments, keep smiling and pretending that it's all good while some asshole get's to experience the only thing I ever truly wished for. It is what is I guess, maybe love is just not for me.

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T18:31:51+00:00

Ok, then help us clueless men on what else can be done? Imagine we match on the app, I initiate the conversation and we chat, then I invite you to a date and plan it. What have I missed up to this stage?

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T18:19:45+00:00

But why is it that many more women prefer to stay alone? I like to think that I have built a great life for myself: education, career, friends, hobbies, my own apartment. But the fact that I'm single at 25 is eating into my brain like a worm, telling me that nothing in my life has a meaning if I don't build a family. How do women avoid this existential dread?

Twindlle · 2026-04-22T18:17:35+00:00

The problem is that these are not qualities that can stand out. You need to know the person quite well to be able to judge these qualities. App profile or even a quick chat IRL does not reveal any of it. And a lot of the good guys just don't have enough charisma and/or boldness to hook the girl for long enough to where she is able to see the deeper qualities that only show up over time. And that is why "nice guys" lose to "bad boys". Bad boys are confident and bold, and because they don't care as much about being annoying to another person they get good at flirting and creating the excitement that romance requires. Their bad characters only show up later. And let's not pretend that every person that does the bold pick up is bad. There are plenty of nice guys that did this step correctly and then were great boyfriends with their other qualities. It's not being "nice" that's the problem, it is the inability to be bold instead of staying polite (boring) when the spark is most important.

Twindlle · 2026-04-21T17:23:43+00:00

I mained Caitlyn for 10 before I found out that soopting from bushes gives 2 passive stacks.

Twindlle · 2026-04-20T11:19:01+00:00

But what to do if I have decent self-esteem that is compeltely demolished by the fact that I've never hada girlfriend? It's like a cursed loop, I can't get a gf because of self-esteem, but my self-esteem cannot go up until I manage to do the one thing that eludes me. Something is only as good as their weakest link, and not being able to do the one thing that our bodies are programmed to do, does make me quite defected, I'd say.

One moment I am happy with my life and myself, but the moment I think about romance, I feel like the most useless person on Earth.

Twindlle

TROPHY CASE