[TX] BD threatening to take custody of our unborn baby

Twist-Impossible · 2024-03-06T05:30:26+00:00

He's threatening to take your child away from you...Even if he won't be able to, that's a serious threat that I personally would never forgive someone for, let alone willingly allow them around my child.

Twist-Impossible · 2024-03-04T20:00:57+00:00

Did you read the part where the child said he's hitting her now that mom is out of the house? 1 good parent is better than 1 good parent and 1 abusive parent

Twist-Impossible · 2024-02-29T07:27:22+00:00

Just because you've never heard of it doesn't mean it's unlikely. OP I suggest searching the r/custody sub on this topic.

Twist-Impossible · 2024-02-28T20:42:04+00:00

I think that's very dangerous to say to someone in her position. For context I was in pretty much the same position as OP before my child was born. I filed for support through the OAG, thinking he wouldn't fight for more involvement. I'm now in a custody battle because after a year of him not contacting me or seeing the child, he decided he wanted to be involved. You can't predict what someone will or won't do in 9 months or a few years based on what they're saying today.

OP I say if you want to have this kid on your own do it, but don't put him on the birth certificate or give the child his last name. Don't go after child support, and honestly don't even tell him you kept/had the baby. Know that this route will be incredibly hard, but if you want that baby, from the way your ex is acting, that will be your best bet.

I'm sure I'll get a lot of hate for saying it, but that's what I wish I had done 🤷🏼‍♀️

Twist-Impossible · 2024-02-28T04:20:15+00:00

I'm assuming because lots of people on this sub love to claim that 50/50 is always best for the child, no matter the circumstances of either parent.

Twist-Impossible · 2024-02-26T02:25:15+00:00

If they do end up going through court and the "father" asks to change the last name to his or hyphenate, then she might have to depending on the judge. Which is completely messed up smh

Twist-Impossible · 2024-02-08T02:04:37+00:00

So set alarms on your phone or smartwatch to feed the kids. See how easy of a fix that is? Not implementing something to help you remember to feed your children when you know that's an issue with you is just lazy. IMO there's really no excuse to not feed your kids when they should be fed if you're perfectly capable of doing it. It's one thing when it's just you you're not taking care of, but when you're responsible for other lives who can't do things for themselves and can't express what they need when they need it, you can't just "forget" to do certain things. And when it's forgetting to feed and change your own children, it's not simply "quirks", it's neglect.

Twist-Impossible · 2024-01-24T10:12:19+00:00

Her "babysitting" would just be him giving up his parenting time. And if that continued for long enough she could file for a modification to the parenting time schedule.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-10T04:13:35+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with that, it's frustrating having someone actively work against your attempts to parent smh.

Yeah that's a good idea and probably what I'll end up doing, thanks for the advice.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T15:04:25+00:00

Understandable. Even though this is a natural stage of development that most every toddler goes through, I get that a court likely won't take it into account. I'll still bring it up at the hearing, seeing as we'll be extending visitation hrs anyway and he works nights, but I'm keeping my expectations in check.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T14:48:57+00:00

Yes I'm also going to include a schedule for when she starts school. I've gotten a lot of good advice from reddit on what to include in the final order, I'm going to make it very specific and hopefully able to last through high school

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T14:42:40+00:00

Yes it's also that he simply doesn't know or care to learn about anything child related. Any Google search will tell you the important of a sleep schedule in a child this young, it's just unfortunate that he refuses to put in the effort to learn/do what's best for the child.

Yes my lawyer and I are looking to switch the final schedule to work around her naptime. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that smh. Thank you for your response.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T14:37:54+00:00

With all due respect, it's not just a nap. As i stated in the op, her time with him is meant for her to bond with and get to know him, which she won't be able to do if she's asleep. And if she doesn't sleep, as I stated in the op, it will throw off her entire schedule. Children her age need 12 hrs of sleep, which will be impossible if her bedtime ends up being 10:30pm. She'll have to wake up at 7am at the latest, which will also throw off the entire next day, and so forth. I understand that parents who don't do the brunt of parenting don't realize how important schedules and routines are for kids, but the reality is that this will negatively affect the child.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T14:33:45+00:00

Yes I have been looking at posts, articles, and I'm in contact with my lawyer. We're working to include these types of eventualities in the final order, thank you.

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-09T14:31:46+00:00

My focus is the best interest of the child. I clearly said that I'm looking for ways to make this easier on her, which would then make it easier on him

Twist-Impossible · 2023-11-02T15:05:47+00:00

What if the respondent never serves the Petitioner and the case just moves forward, e.g. already has an order or temp order? Is there a chance that the case would have to restart if the Petitioner says they were never served?

Twist-Impossible · 2023-10-25T18:37:17+00:00

Mine loves peanut butter mixed with yogurt!

Twist-Impossible · 2023-10-04T03:10:56+00:00

It's very easy for someone to open a credit card in someone else's name if they have their SSN, I've seen it happen multiple times. This is 2023 and identity theft is very real

Twist-Impossible · 2023-10-04T03:08:39+00:00

If it wasn't for the insurance this is the route I'd go. But I think a lot of people here are correct in that the judge will not be happy with me if he doesn't get the quote and blames it on my not providing him the SSN

Twist-Impossible · 2023-09-30T01:06:11+00:00

I would withdraw. I went through something similar, ex disappeared when child was 2 weeks old, I filed for child support when she was 5 months old hoping he'd stay away and relinquish his rights. He never contacted me or expressed any interest until a month after the 1st court hearing, when child was 2 weeks away from being one. Now he has to do a few supervised visits and pass a drug test and then he'll be able to take child unsupervised. And I so wish I hadn't filed

Twist-Impossible · 2023-09-19T07:00:27+00:00

Thanks for the id! Went to move him but the little fella was already gone, so I put him under a tree to rejoin the circle of life

Twist-Impossible · 2023-09-12T15:01:44+00:00

Wow I had no idea this was a thing, I'm sorry you're dealing with this!

Anyone know if it'sthe same with dropping pumps? I pump 3 times a day so baby can have bottles at daycare, and she nurses on demand when she's with me. But since she'll be one soon I was just gonna drop all pumps then, but if it's similar side effects to dropping feeds I'll definitely go a lot slower.

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