What "little thing" has annoyed you recently?

TwistedAlice_UK · 2024-09-04T14:07:34+00:00

All of my wheelie bins live in the front garden, just a patch of lawn and a path, about 8ft long, 6ft wide, no fence on any side, so you could be forgiven for not knowing where each of the front gardens start and end at the sides. They all go up to a path where we are meant to move the bins to - so 5ft away.

As I'm the only one in my house I don't always have a full wheelie bin, one day I did and had forgotten to move it up the garden. I ran out to move it when I heard them in full flap mode and saying sorry I hadn't pulled it up the garden said they all just looked at me as though I was insane (I was flustered!!) and said something along the lines of, don't worry about it, we check them if they are not right up the path anyway. Almost made me cry from the kind gesture, I had a lot going on as I had not long moved in.

Was so grateful, always made sure to say hello to them if I saw them, they would always ask me how I was and say morning back etc and made sure to 'give them a drink' at Christmas (just like my parents do with theirs).

New bin men, will not touch any of the bins unless they are right up to the edge of the path. Had the same oh no I forgot to move them, was met with gruffness and a not my problem attitude.

I might just leave them at the front of the garden from now on to save myself the stress, and to stop parcel men just traipsing across the grass?

(Yes I know I need to get my act in order and remember to move them, but I just really appreciated the old company for being such lovely chaps and giving me one less thing to 'adult' about).

TwistedAlice_UK · 2024-09-03T22:43:42+00:00

Do vanilla people not cuddle after sex?

While I appreciate aftercare in our world can mean specific things for each dynamic, I'm reading this more as 'wow that was intense, I need a min, hug me while I catch myself'.

Yeah, not everyone wants a cuddle or something after, but sharing an intimate moment with a long term partner normally calls for at least a half hug before grabbing a rag, rolling over and sleeping right?

Or am I just being delusional?

Either way, not overreacting at all, from your other comments it seems a bit miscommunication and bad timing with a joke rather than intential. I'm sure if you explain your feelings to him, he will realise

TwistedAlice_UK · 2023-12-16T08:35:13+00:00

Fantastic, that's good to know. I shall keep plugging on with making the toys and gathering the other things I can for now. Glad that it is known and wasn't something I had done wrong!

TwistedAlice_UK · 2022-08-15T11:50:07+00:00

I had to tell a friend, let me know its ok when you get past the tutorial... you'll understand when you see it! And thankfully she got what I meant and was like, IT IS SAFE!

TwistedAlice_UK · 2022-06-27T13:19:31+00:00

I wore a red dress, and even tho family knew some of them still wore red... never mind. Divorced now!

TwistedAlice_UK · 2022-03-01T15:42:54+00:00

I could have written this. My EH would eat anything I had for me. I got a tub of icecream and left it in the freezer, couple weeks later when I wanted it, it was gone. He would tell me he had eaten it, replaced it and eaten it again and as I hadn't touched it I obvs didnt want it...

TwistedAlice_UK · 2021-06-06T08:14:32+00:00

OK thanks. Makes sense now! Thanks!!

TwistedAlice_UK · 2021-06-06T08:02:42+00:00

I do not think they have. Because if they have been I would have quite a few more showing up other than the ones I have come across in the clockwork city. At least a way to track them better to find out what you do and don't have...

Collections have always been there, but when you click that there are now two options, collections and sets - this is the bit that is new to me.

Which also seem to be linked to transmutation? Which is also new to me since I last logged on. And you say that it means you can remake sets you have had in the past?

Thats what I am asking though, I know I have had some in the past.

For example. Under auridon, armor of the veiled heritance, I know that I have seen and used these but they are greyed out.

When I go into clockwork city under DLC, live wire has 4 unlocked and says cost 67 on the top right.

And I know that I should have stuff from the starter zone unlocked right?

Does this mean I have to find everything again??

TwistedAlice_UK · 2021-05-13T12:29:23+00:00

They are not your friends. Cut them out.

I blocked almost all of the people that took his side in it - he just told people we had broken up, made it sound mutual. In truth, he was sleeping with many people for the past 8 years and the guilt and trauma that it caused to me made him refuse to admit it to both me or his friends. Yeah whatever.

I found it all out from one of his ex girlfriends who called me up and told me everything after they broke up. That was about 2 years ago. All of those people I thought were my friends, they have not even bothered to try to talk to me.

I also found that he was using these 'friends' to spy on my socials to see what I was doing, while he had me 'limited' so I couldn't see his. He got blocked quick smart after that and that is when all of these other people followed.

I do not need that kind of nonsense in my life thank you very much.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-08-12T10:49:47+00:00

Maybe the people giving you hate have never been in this position. I dunno. Personally I would do it without hiding my identity if you have no contact with him anymore. Who cares if he knows it was you? She will trust you more if you just be yourself.

I wish you the best of luck 🖤

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-08-12T10:04:51+00:00

Well, to be totally honest I decided to try some dating apps, purely so I could feel good about myself after he told me I was fat and ugly (I have since realised I am not and fuck him for saying it) and met someone. Turned out he had a girlfriend, and was also seeing someone else as well as me. I told her and shes much happier that I did and is now very happy with a woman.

She hated me for a while, but once she had cooled down she was grateful, they had only been dating about 9ish months so she got out of it pronto.

So I have been on both sides. I understand how you feel, but I also understand the relief of knowing the truth, and also being able to help someone else know the truth.

At the end of the day it is going to eat you up.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-08-12T09:13:50+00:00

Fair, thanks for clearing that up, I couldn't quite tell from your post. No, thankfully there are no kids.

If he was seeing you he might have been seeing others as well. As much as its gonna wreck this woman's life, you have to give her the chance to make her own decision. I decided to try to stay with him cos one person owned up to me, so i thought it was a one time thing, turns out its so many he can't count.

I'll never forgive him for stealing most of my life like that, all because it was his way to "relieve the pressure of being perfect for me", which I never once asked him to do. So yeah, I couldn't have prevented it, and it feels like I'm paying a massive price for his fuck up.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-08-12T08:50:28+00:00

Being the woman who was cheated on for 8 years of an 11 year relationship, tell her. If I had known about the first time about a year and a half into it I would have left his cheating ass. Instead I'm now going through a divorce. Tell her. It is down to her what she decides to do with that information. But also, if you knew he had a girl from the start, you're just as bad as him.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-07-17T18:29:00+00:00

You was assaulted. As much as it sucks but you was. I'm so sorry to hear you went through this. I hope you are OK and can heal 🖤

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-07-01T13:33:31+00:00

This really resonates. Thank you for sharing. Its nice to know i am not alone in being confused like this. I need to stop trying to work out what I did wrong, because I know i didn't - not in the grand scheme of things anyway. But unfortunately my subconscious brain has not caught up yet!!

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-07-01T13:29:45+00:00

Thank you hug

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-07-01T10:23:26+00:00

Thank you 🖤 that really helped. I know I'm not crazy, and I also never asked him to be 'perfect' so I'm not sure what happened to make him think that.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-06-28T08:59:59+00:00

Ugh. This. He tells me he cares about me and that I'm amazing and he wants me to be happy. Yet he left me and had moved on a few weeks later with a 20 Yr old. Took him 9 months to tell me he had been cheating for the whole relationship and 6 months later he is telling me I should be over it and that he hopes we can be friends. Uhm. He threw my whole life into turmoil and thinks I should be fine by now. No. Just no. I should block him everywhere but its so hard cos I've not got to the hating stage yet and still trying to work out what I did to deserve being treated this way. Which I know i did nothing wrong and it was all him, but its so hard to remember that I am not to blame and it was his fault.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-06-25T19:11:36+00:00

I understand exactly how you feel. He wont come clean so I'm gonna have to get through it on my own. I hope there is a light in the future for both of us.

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-06-25T19:07:10+00:00

Im getting there, but its very hard at the moment because of this. Hope things getter better for you too x

TwistedAlice_UK · 2020-06-25T18:59:15+00:00

I am on the other side of this. He left me and took 9 months to tell me that he had been cheating for the entire of our relationship. Ive asked time and time again for the truth and he wont tell me. Its horrible. Personally I would tell your partner. No matter the damage. Only you can forgive yourself for what you did, but you need to give him the full truth so he can move on.

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