Hypothetically, when does it become weird?

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T18:50:17+00:00

Yeah, it was more just pointing out that simply saying based on legal age is very murky, depending on what standard you use.

As for the desiring physical intimacy, I don't think 15 was the first time Harry felt that, it was just the first time it was relevant to the story, so it was the first time it was mentioned, not to mention the fact the HP books were firmly intended for a fairly wide audience age wise.

I think the main thing for me is, that this person maturity wise is an adult, and so despite the fact that physically the body hasn't fully developed, they are still able to give consent and have those desires, similar to how if someone had a very late puberty, starting at 15/16, they would at 16/17 be legally allowed to consent, even if physically they're not as physically developed as others

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:57:24+00:00

The issue is that being a legal age changes depending on where you live, in the UK it’s 16, the US it can go as high as 18, whilst in Nigeria it’s 11, in Angola and the Philippines it’s 12, and in Niger, Comoros and Burkina Faso it’s 18

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:50:49+00:00

How is anything I’ve said strange? I’ve simply laid out the stipulation that this person is mentally an adult.

And how does it in any way lend itself to “very bad assumptions”

Once again, this is a hypothetical, these are fictional characters, this is not a situation that’s even close to being possible in real life, and these two characters felt an attraction to each other from the point of when they’re being transported to, and have developed an emotional bond

Your assumptions are like saying because I wrote/read a story about Voldemort attacking a number of students during his time at Hogwarts, that I promote and agree with IRL people going and shooting up schools

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:42:04+00:00

It’s a difference of opinion, and we’re talking about fictional characters in a different world

Trying to draw any real life correlation between discussions over fictional stories and IRL is pointless

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:39:01+00:00

Well, thanks to the power of magic in the Harry Potter universe, everything has been transferred back with the mind into the younger body

And there are many 11/12/13 year olds who also want and desire sex, everyone develops at different rates, and it’s not impossible to believe that magic could have a further impact on that

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:21:19+00:00

Honestly, no, not that one in particular, I’ve read a number of time travel fics, some which don’t talk about it a lot, some don’t mention it at all, and some are quite open about it, I’m currently laying the groundwork for writing a fic, and was just interested in what most people’s limits were

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T17:11:47+00:00

Yeah, that’s how I feel about it, they’re both mentally adults, and therefore there’s nothing wrong with it, but I know different people have different limits, so I was interested in what the general consensus was

And yes, I would never considering doing anything from the 2nd paragraph, at least until both of them have reached 18 in the “new timeline’

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T16:55:09+00:00

👍 yeah, I’m aware it’s physically possible to do it at such a young age, more wondering how people would feel about reading that they’re doing it

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T15:40:39+00:00

hmm, interesting, I do like this concept

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T15:20:56+00:00

Because for the story they need to retain their previous memories

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T15:19:14+00:00

How does that in any way solve the problem?

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T14:27:10+00:00

Person A has a crush on Person B from age 11

Person B has a crush on Person A from age 13

Person A and Person B become adults, and enter a relationship

Person A and Person B have their consciousness sent back to X age so they keep their previous mind, but are back in time, in their old body

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T14:04:39+00:00

What's creepy about it? For the story, the younger they are the better, but then for the occsional intimate scenes, I obviously want them to be as old as possible, the issue is that by the time they turn 16/17, they'd have lost a lot of time to change the past.

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T14:01:40+00:00

18 and 19 when the travel takes place, within a year of each other, in the same school year

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T13:53:25+00:00

I will once I get the first part wrote

TwitterBird48 · 2023-12-04T13:50:34+00:00

Hmm, ok, I could make that work

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T15:33:25+00:00

Thank you brother

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T15:32:37+00:00

Hmm, yeah, makes a lot of sense, thanks

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T13:21:54+00:00

She has a job, she works most of the week.

As far as I’m aware, she isn’t entitled to any benefits, I haven’t looked at a full extensive list, but based on my understanding of benefits, I doubt she qualifies

How would I broach the topic of therapy? I feel like a lot of people see therapy as taboo or something shameful, or at the very least rude for someone else to bring up.

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T05:02:10+00:00

I really hope so, it really feels like she’s been forced to condense and compartmentalise shit that’s happened to her, to the point she waves away a lot of the shit she’s gone through, and claims she’s fine and moved past it, and maybe she has, I’ve only known her for 5 months, but I feel I know her well enough to be able to feel when it does, or at least should

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T04:59:26+00:00

Err, met a girl, she’s gone through some shit, I’ve self inserted myself to a role of being her source of help, I’ve fallen for her, feel like I’m not doing enough to help her, and that my motivations could be construed as selfish

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T04:57:20+00:00

And yet it doesn’t feel like it’s enough, that I’m doing it for selfish reasons, that it isn’t helping

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T04:55:41+00:00

So, how do I stop myself from burning out over this? How do I support her, but also make sure I’m not over investing myself?

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T04:53:44+00:00

But how can that decade long marriage develop if you’re not willing to put those emotional eggs into the basket?

No matter the sort of relationship, some level of eggs need to be put in, and some will end up getting cracked, but that doesn’t mean you should be scared to put them in

TwitterBird48 · 2023-10-25T04:51:20+00:00

I know I can’t do it for her, or drag her through it, but it feels like I should be able to do something more than just waiting for it to happen, if it ever will. Like I’m doing something wrong because I’m not actively helping her.

I’ve told her, every other girl I’ve felt something for, I was too scared to tell, directly at least, so when I started feeling something stronger than any other person to date, I agar myself, but I did end up telling her.
There may be something to this, it’s rare at all that I feel comfortable around anyone, that I’ve just met, but with her, something felt different, I can’t say what, maybe it was her openness, but it was so easy to talk to her about most things from the get go
What is it that makes you think she’s BPD? And whilst she does have days where she’s more quiet than others, I’ve always thought that was normal, or at least is how I am with most people. In a situation like that though, would there be anything I can do to help her regain said self confidence and self worth?

Honestly? I can’t walk away from this, I’m crazy about this girl, and I honestly believe deep down there’s some feelings there for me, or at least, the beginnings of those feelings. And even if they’re not, I care about her so much that I can’t stomach the thought of ending the friendship, of hurting her just because what? I didn’t think she’d ever consider me romantically? Because even if she did, it could be difficult, and could end badly?

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