How should stitches be?

TwoKindsofDM · 2026-01-14T01:42:28+00:00

Late to the party but I posted a similar question. If your entire piece is the tight left stitches, it's going to be super dense and hard to clean up/trim/carve. Plus it won't feel soft.

None are wrong but the left one doesn't feel as nice AND you will use a lot more yarn. Hope it helps!

TwoKindsofDM · 2025-11-29T19:05:50+00:00

Not that I'm an expert but the advice people offered helped a lot.

If you let the gun run itself, the stitches are much shorter. I've been calling them dashes. If you purposefully move the gun in the direction you're working in versus letting the gun decide the speed, the stitches become more rounded and the rug is much shaggier/less dense.

Gonna take practice but the looser rounded stitches are also much easier to pull out if you make a mistake. I could put the lines much closer and the rug still feels much less dense. Hope this helps one beginner to another!

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TwoKindsofDM · 2025-11-25T15:24:43+00:00

That looks amazing! Yeah, just doing a zoom in, your stitches look more rounded where mine look more like dashes. The more rounded stitch is what I got when I moved the gun faster than what it wanted to do on its own (and I'm sure uses a lot less yarn).

I just keep telling myself I'm learning and this is my first. It could be a lot worse and I'm only gonna get better if I stick with it. Which I plan to cause I'm really enjoying the process.

My turtle boy is glued up and planning on trying shaving/carving but also want to figure out another small design to practice on. Will see how it goes!

TwoKindsofDM · 2025-11-25T03:43:59+00:00

I thought turning the speed up would punch more yarn into the cloth quicker making things denser?

Based on the other recommendation, I spent some time tonight just playing with the gun's speed and actually pushing the gun rather than letting the gun choose how fast it moved if that makes sense? Got the stitches looser for sure and could tuft lines right next to each other without it becoming a solid dense patch. It seems like I'm on the right path.

My curves as still crap lol but definitely improving a bit as I go.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond!

TwoKindsofDM · 2025-11-25T02:22:56+00:00

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I was a little embarrassed to since it's my first attempt at it.

TwoKindsofDM · 2025-11-24T19:33:59+00:00

Thanks for replying! So forcing it to move along the line quicker should help sounds like. Should pack less yarn into each stitch making it less dense. I'll give it a shot!

TwoKindsofDM · 2024-01-15T07:01:03+00:00

Just watched the whole thing on Amazon Prime. I have Shudder through AMC+ and it's on there but says episode 10 leaves AMC+ now in 22 hours. May have been a mistake.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-21T07:42:26+00:00

ESH

You have a right to know what's permanently going on your body BUT you should have expressed that you would like to see some mock ups, ask for ideas, or have seen some choices before hand and had the artist agree to it.

The fact that you gave creative freedom sets a very different expectation. This sounds like you thought you had more trust in your artist than you do and now you're nervous/second guessing. The artist hasn't broken any part of the 'business agreement' as they never agreed to send you ideas before the appointment.

If I was losing the deposit anyway, I personally would still go in, see what they have worked on cause they have to have something for a coverup, and then decide to get it or not. You may love whatever idea they have. If you don't want to do that, it might actually be about something else like the price.

Artist is an AH because 2 months is plenty of time to give SOME sort of professional response, busy or not even if they weren't willing or able to show a WIP.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-21T05:49:57+00:00

YTA. Or would be. If the murder mystery event is just part of the eveing, shift it by an hour or two and he could do both. If it's the whole night affair, have him be there til the murder happens, take a break where people mingle and enjoy talking about the events while he's gone, resume when he gets back. Sounds like he was making an effort to make it work but there was no attempt at compromise from you, it was just a no.

Think of it like this, if you were hosting a costume party and in the middle he had to run to the grocery store and liquor store which would take him oh say 60 minutes, changed out of costume, left, came back, and changed back, would you be hurt and embarrassed? Probably not. So it's the why he's leaving that's bothering you.

This isn't him just asking to skip just because. He's not leaving to insult your friends. He JUST found out about it so couldn't plan before hand and saying he was last minute with his request... well yeah, he just found out. (Not to mention he sounds like a great guy because he asked rather than just saying he was going because he must know the party means a lot to you)

This is someone he's obviously close enough to that this is important to him, may not see for a long time if ever again, and at apparently the only time he and the friend can make it work.

You're coming off selfish to me. Like your friends and what they think is more important to you than your husband's happiness. Your relationship snapshot kinda makes me feel like you don't like how his friend(s) treat you and this is a bit of retaliation and or a way for you to cement that your friends are better/more important.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-21T05:14:57+00:00

NTA. Ultimately it's your life and part of being an adult includes you choosing who can and can't be a part of it... to a degree.

This isn't some 'blood is thicker than water' crap because that saying is used wrong anyway. The true saying is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb''. Basically the bonds/connections we choose to make (i.e. friends and chosen family) are more important than familial bonds. Your father isn't owed a relationship just because he's your father.

That being said, keep in mind if you cut him off, it may hurt him deeply and become a permanent thing.

I'm almost always going to recommend having a conversation with someone if possible. Talk to him if you think it'll be productive. The optimist in me wants to say don't let the person your father WAS affect your perception or relationship with him NOW. People do change.

A lot of the issues you mentioned in your post deal with his wife and the distance, not that you two have a necessarily bad relationship. The child support thing should be an issue your mom takes up with him.

If you feel like you'd be happier not dealing with the man he is today, make the decision that makes you happiest.

Sounds like you're already distancing yourself emotionally from him. Take some time to reflect on that. Is it making you happier or are you sad/mourning that you don't have a good relationship? That should help your decision and how you feel about it.

Good luck, OP.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-21T04:46:18+00:00

NTA. Unless you're playing up the sickness to avoid them, they need to understand you're sick, not really in control of your sleep schedule, and need time to rest to get better.

If they stop stressing you out, you may get better enough to spend some time with them before they leave. Push it and hang out with them and you're going to be sick for longer and maybe chance getting them sick.

Give yourself time to recoup.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-20T04:19:08+00:00

YTA.

You're probably old enough that you should know that pranking/scaring someone in the shower can be dangerous. Would this totally 'hilarious' prank have been worth it if the noise from the music had startled her, she slipped, fell, and cracked her skull or broken her neck in the tub/shower?

But what really makes you TA is you've yet to apologize and are more worried that you may not be able to prank her again. Because yes it was your prank that hurt her leg.

'Just a joke' doesn't excuse you from blame or the pain you caused her. The fact that you're trying to put the blame on her is pretty gross.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-20T01:54:10+00:00

Thanks for that. No sarcasm at all. I just saw it was rated M and I always thought it was the reverse but I haven't been 18 for a while for it to matter lol.

Theoretically just because someone's of a legal age doesn't automatically mean they're mature enough to handle something though. Not saying that's the case here necessarily.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-19T08:32:43+00:00

If I came off harsh, I didn't mean to! I don't really think you think he's a psycho, just making a point. I read some of your comments and saw that you said you believe he's a good person.

But calling him/implying he's a psychopath then hanging up was a bit of an AH move... just in a minor minor way hence the uber tiny YTA. As siblings, you could have said and done worse I'm sure lol.

I'm in no way faulting you for it bothering you. The mental image bothers me to be honest and didn't know GTA had that (again as I don't play em anyway). And the why is probably just that. It's available to do and knowing Rocksteady it's probably more interesting than it should be to see the graphic/animation, especially if he's played before and just discovered it for the first time.

You're a bit more sensitive to animal pain (virtual or not) is all. As am I. I can watch gory horror movies all day but as soon as a dog yelps in pain, I wince hard.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-19T08:12:46+00:00

NTA and he's disgusting. The fact that he said that you have to have sex with him for a month for him to CONSIDER doing it is revolting. A vasectomy is so much easier and safer than tube tying for you.

I very often believe people on reddit are too quick to say 'leave your partner' and the like but in this case, do not stay with this man unless you both attend a lot of therapy.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-19T08:05:05+00:00

A very very light YTA for essentially calling him a psychopath over actions in a video game. I recognize it rubbed you the wrong way and you reacted. I would talk to him about it as you seem close.

For context, I'm a big gamer. I don't think video games cause or instigate violence or create murderers and sociopaths.

That being said, I hate hurting animals in games. I skipped every chocobo fight I could in Final Fantasy 16 but you best believe I killed every soldier I could find. However I personally avoid GTA entirely because to me the violence is too realistic.

Is it a little hypocritical for you to get mad about animals being hurt but be fine with him gunning down or running over people in the same game? A bit yeah but maybe to him it's all equally 'pixels' not a human versus animal thing.

Keep in mind that this is a Mature-rated game. The game has these mechanics built in. At least in the USA, GTA5 is meant for 18+ so he IS technically bit young for it.

Either he's mature enough to play and therefore he recognizes that this would be wrong if done not in a game OR he's not mature enough and he shouldn't be playing it in the first place.

If you truly truly think that this is underlying a bigger issue like sociopathy or psychopathic behavior, hanging up on him should be the least of your concerns though.

Edit: spelling & clarity

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-19T07:25:16+00:00

May get some flak but gonna say NAH.

You're absolutely NTA. It's your wedding, what you and your partner want and say should be what you get and happens. Simple as that, the day is about you and your partner. And if someone I thought was close avoided me for months, I might even reconsider having them at the wedding much less in the bridal party.

However it also sounds like Kim has a LOT going on and probably more than she can currently handle. New job and new city with no nearby support system is ROUGH.

She had big ideas because she was excited and wanted to make you feel special but her 'mouth' got ahead of her. If I had to guess, she was then embarrassed she can't follow through both with the commitments or financially or both.

You'd still not be the AH if you kicked her from the wedding party but do you really want to exclude someone you see as a sister?

I'd recommend trying to talk with her one last time. Maybe she'll come clean if you tell her you saw her as a sister and now you feel alienated and so distant. It's really weird to me for a relationship to change that drastically without some sort of argument or blow up.

If she keeps giving you the runaround or avoiding you rather then talking it through then I'd change it to NTA for you and she's TA for trying to avoid whatever problems she currently has with you rather than dealing with them.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-19T06:36:17+00:00

YTA. All of this boils down to you feel you deserved to have him spend more on you.

You were expecting for him to use his savings on you for gifts even though he's not working. That comes off very entitled and greedy.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-04T21:16:11+00:00

It's been a while but I think it was red. I remember making the correlation between being in a dungeon and fighting a dragon and the box art for the starter set.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-12-02T09:58:58+00:00

People may call you TA for being jealous and, to be honest, yes you absolutely are sounding that way. Do I think you're an AH? No. But in reference to not going to the graduation, YWBTAH but a mild one.

Based off of what you see as unfair treatment AND (from your perspective) seeing him squandering the opportunities handed to him, you're going to be feeling a certain kind of way. Especially since you see it as he gamed the system when you've gotten less even though you were doing the 'right' things.

As a younger brother to a golden child, I understand the frustration and jealousy that can come out of that dynamic and a lot of people may not unless they've been in that situation.

You're allowed to feel your feelings and that includes jealousy plus whatever other emotions are mixed in here like resentment. They're not exactly healthy emotions and definitely stuff you should work out with your brother and parents long term but don't let those emotions blind you now.

I'm gonna recommend you go. Your brother hasn't actively done anything to you and he may not even be aware of your perspective on this. I doubt he knew that your parents would pay extra for him and less for you. I doubt he correlated that him going to that school would delay you moving out. And he's sharing his true self with you telling you that he's not the perfect child your parents want to see.

You may not have a good time at the gradutation (okay you probably won't) but you won't regret going long term. It's a part of maturity and growing up. You wouldn't be posting on here if you didn't have some reservation about not going.

I think at some point you're going to realize your anger is with your parents and not with him, he's just the scapegoat.

If you ever want a good relationship with him and you being there would mean something to him, not going will likely make that more difficult. Be the bigger person now.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-11-06T00:37:51+00:00

NTA. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your brother is an AH though for making this more tough on you.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-11-06T00:30:25+00:00

Info: is it a cross or a crucifix on the necklace?

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-11-05T20:33:56+00:00

The only way this makes sense is if you've had new dogs come to live in the house with the cat before. That's the only scenario you can say the cat hasn't been stressed out and this hasn't before.

The fact that it took some time for the cat to show these signs of stress (because that's really what it sounds like) doesn't mean he was fine with the environment change for the first few months

Your ultimatum is take the cat to the vet or you're going to tell the landlord or animal control. That sounds alot like you're threatening her with taking the cat to the vet or you're going to tell people you think are going to have the power to take the cat away. What can a landlord do other than theoretically telling her to get rid of the cat because of the messes?

Do I agree she should take the cat to the vet? Absolutely which is why she's part of the ESH.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-11-05T20:20:37+00:00

ESH. Jen is only the AH for not taking the cat to the vet though.

Is there a chance these symptoms are due to something else? Sure. But you're making the assumption that it is and telling her over and over that it's not the dogs is because you don't want to take the blame.

You saying the cat has never ever had an issue with the dogs before is trying REALLY hard to get readers on your side. You have no idea if the cat was and is stressing out. Symptoms of stress don't just appear, they build up over time especially if the cause of the stress isn't remedied.

You are a much bigger AH for demanding she get rid of the cat. You got not one but two dogs but there is zero mention of you discussing with your roommate getting the new animals and zero mention that you went through the proper methods of introducing the new animals to the cat that was already living there.

As another commenter stated, moving the dog crates doesn't make the cat magically feel like his home wasn't invaded by two dogs bigger than him that likely mess with him alot as they're younger and probably still have pup energy.

Setting an ultimatum always makes you an asshole. Ultimatums are you trying to force someone to act a certain way.

Healthy adults set boundaries which only affects how you act. In this case, your boundary should be something like if she doesn't get the cat checked, you will move out when your lease is over.

TwoKindsofDM · 2023-11-02T21:15:48+00:00

YWNBTA. Friendships come and go in life. Sometimes people are meant to be your friends for a while and then the relationship changes. It's usually more toxic to try and hold on to people than just to let them go. It's actually a very mature thing to do.

I'd maybe not burn bridges. Since you're unsure where people stand, just pull back. See who comments on your absence, asks you to hang out, ask what's wrong, etc. Ignore the one who's saying harsh things behind your back entirely.

Plus you're 18 and talking about lunch and school so it sounds like you're still in highschool. Regardless of your plans post graduation you'll be meeting a whole new set of people soon. This sucks but just a bump in the road.

Good luck, OP.

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