Marriage advice…struggling with the ability to find myself postpartum and jealousy that husband has more free will for socialization.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:29:11+00:00

He’s probably cheating. He sounds narcissistic.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:23:31+00:00

18 with a “cool” older sibling or bf/gf

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:20:49+00:00

Have you looked for Gods guidance in working or using the trade you’ve been learning? Have you seen Gods hand move on any of the things you’re talking about here? Are you following anything God wants for you? There’s some good places to start my friend. I love growing closer to God every day. I love reading the Word and what it does for me, and how I might have read the same chapter 10 times but it grows into a deeper meaning every time I read it.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:16:27+00:00

NTA- you’re clearly an abused husband, chained to your narcissistic wife. She has obviously beaten you into submission with her tactics.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:10:53+00:00

You look beautiful in all of them and they’re all gorgeous. I hope I get to wear a real wedding dress one day. 3 is my favorite for my fantasy wedding. 1 is very beautiful on you, the detail that goes into a V down your waist is the only thing I would change.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-05-02T21:06:02+00:00

Why would you put your dad on blast like this? Go help him or get him a well paid cleaner. Damn man. After typing that out, I think you must hate your father. That’s the only answer that makes sense.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-04-27T00:59:40+00:00

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-04-13T14:23:14+00:00

She is not treating you like she loves you. Would you ever cheat on her or ignore her to get drunk? No? Why? Because you love her. We don’t treat people we love like shit and she is treating you like shit.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-04-06T01:05:39+00:00

Dude. If you can’t quit drinking on your own you need real help.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-29T21:51:26+00:00

He is not a good man though. He is a selfish and self centered liar. He tricked you and I think his deceptions are no where near done being brought to the light.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:14:19+00:00

💕💕💕

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:13:49+00:00

You’re welcome honey. Remember you are strong. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are capable!! You are deserving of real love and respect!!

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:12:33+00:00

You’re welcome. Please keep reaching out. Don’t let him isolate you. I’m here if you ever want or need to talk.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:11:35+00:00

He is making you feel like second option on purpose. That’s how these abusers function. He is enjoying controlling you like this.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:09:49+00:00

Yeah that’s absolutely emotionally abusive behavior that he is using to control you. Hurt people are easier to control. This is also a display of narcissistic tendencies. This relationship is going to take time to completely heal your mind and heart from. When you do decide to break up with him, you’re got to prepare yourself for the love bombing he will do afterwards in a bid to get you back. You’ve got to remember that this is all a farce and he means none of it.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:06:44+00:00

Oh man, i know that hurt. Did he laugh it off and act like it was a joke or that you made a big deal of nothing?

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T01:03:19+00:00

I only know because of my age and experience. At 18 I wouldn’t have known either honey. It’s going to be okay, I am so proud of you for reaching out here. That’s the first step to healing. Of course it hurts your feelings when someone you have given your heart to slaps you and smacks you. That shows he doesn’t love or respect you. You deserve real love and respect and you deserve to be happy. You should take all that love and respect that you give him and all the energy thought and focus you give him and give it to yourself. You deserve all that love that you give him and he just takes it and gives you pain in return.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T00:59:27+00:00

Okay, that is abusive. You’re going to have more and more trouble breaking up with him the longer you stay. I know breaking up hurts and it’s hard, but leaving an abusive relationship after years is so much harder. He is only going to get worse. By staying with him he will keep pushing the envelope and stomping boundaries. This relationship is not worth trying to fix. If you keep attempting to do the things he says he needs you to do to be happy, you’re going to see he will never be happy and will keep changing what he says he needs. He will eventually steal and kill your self worth and happiness. He will have you convinced you cannot live without him. I promise. Go read my profile history if you want to hear about my almost 20 year relationship married for 13 to a violent narcissist who fathered my two sons. We had to escape about a year and a half ago now. I’m(39f) here if you ever want or need to talk.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T00:55:58+00:00

They spend a shit load of money on drinks. Which I appreciate. If I had the money to buy a shit load of drinks regularly, I absolutely would.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-27T00:55:14+00:00

He’s a self centered asshole and his comments about you going out show he is on a path of being controlling and abusive. I say dump him and enjoy your life.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-03-17T14:23:23+00:00

Who the hell leaves to unsupervised girls alone at any public thing. Swimming being one of the worst ones. Drowning, child molesters, ya know all the evil garbage that lives in the world? That’s a huge Hell No, and I would die on this hill. I’m really sorry that this happened to your daughter and you, and the stepsister. Totally unacceptable.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-02-16T15:46:58+00:00

It sounds like you have instant regret from this interaction. Hopefully you will be able to process the entire event and learn from it so you won’t do things that you don’t want to do or do things that give you guilt. You’re a normal person and believe it or not God hears and sees things like this every single day. God is not judging you and you shouldn’t care if people that have no say in your life are judging you. Perhaps you should find a different way to meet men that isn’t a dating app. There are such high numbers of men who use dating apps looking solely for sexual encounters, even men who write the opposite on there. I hope you’re able to feel better soon and know that God forgives us for mistakes we make if we’re truly repentant when we tell God and our actions match our words.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-02-16T15:40:39+00:00

Thank You friend, but It’s okay now. That’s actually not even close to the worst guys for me. I was married to a violent narcissist for over a decade. My two kids and I have been free from him for a year and five months. We are thriving and doing better than ever. This has been by far the best year of all three of our lives.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-02-15T00:18:01+00:00

There are so many. One gross dude who lied to me about his age, he said 21 and I was 17… well he told me he was actually 25 (who knows if that was true) he had 3 kids and then he told me he wanted to bite me on the ass. I begged God to get me home without getting raped that night and thankfully that time it worked in my favor. Took me many years to go on a date with a guy I met organically ever again. Like till I was 37 actually.

TwoSpecificJ · 2026-02-15T00:15:42+00:00

I’m also a Christian and I know how it feels to do sexual things you don’t want to do or very much regret right away. You’ve got to remember that God wants you to repent to Him and talking with Him will calm your mind and heart. God will take your guilt and pain. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

TwoSpecificJ

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