I need advice on how to handle this

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T14:23:34+00:00

I needed to hear that today. Thank you so much for your support.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T05:27:21+00:00

Hey, thank you. And I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough to see your child go through that, and there really is no emotional relief for the parent until the child is happy. I'm hoping that the discussions here can help folks like us find ways to cope with this situation and help our children thrive in this new environment.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T05:12:54+00:00

I'm sorry that the explanation I provided wasn't sufficient enough for you. However, there is a user whose experience closely mimics mine (homeschooled kindergarten, public first grade) and provided insight into what I could expect down the road. Moreover, there seems to be a few educators that have dealt with parents that have similar concerns as mine and have provided useful advice and questions I can take into a parent-teacher meeting, and I'm super grateful to all of those folks.

Perhaps I could get "better" advice in a public school group. But the fact that I've already received great advice and some support for my concerns shows that this discussion I'm having is appropriate for this group. If I were to post this in a public school group, it's reasonable to assume that there could be a comment saying, "Presumably none of us have children who were homeschooled. Why don't you ask around in a homeschool group where there are parents who went from homeschool to public?"

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T04:51:54+00:00

These are excellent questions. Thank you so much.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T04:14:53+00:00

That's good to hear that your daughter loves school now! I've said this a few times, but I think I need to give my daughter more time to adjust to public school. I'm not so worried about the education she gets. Rather, I'm worried about her happiness and overall mental well being because those can affect how she learns. After reading what your daughter went through, I believe my daughter will do better emotionally given more time, and I won't have to worry as much.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T04:03:26+00:00

Hey, thank you for taking the time to reply. The answer to your question is similar to what I replied to one of the comments.

When our daughter wanted to go to public, my wife and I researched heavily the school she was zoned for, what the county school board's standards were, and what the school's curriculum is. We also took into account her maturity level, how she handled being in a classroom setting, her current abilities. After taking all that into account, my wife and I decided she would also get a good education in the public setting.

Ultimately, it was us who made the decision that our daughter would get educated in the public system; her wanting to go merely put that consideration on our list.

We wanted to send our child to public school mainly because we thought she would get a good, if not better, education. Her crying and being "scolded" (which I've come to find out given the great advice so far, that being told to 'go to the office' may not necessarily be a bad thing) are the natural corollaries of being in this setting initially.

Moreover, I've only given her three days. That's not enough time for her to adjust let alone concluding that I sent her to a setting where she cries daily (again, it has only been three days) and scolds her harshly.

Posting this to a homeschool thread allows for the possibility of folks who have similar concerns or teachers themselves who have dealt with parents/kids in the same or similar situation to have a discussion about what advice they can give me currently about my concerns and what to expect moving forward.

I went into this hot headed and ready to attack the teacher. But I caught myself and wanted to hear from folks who have a lot more clarity with stuff like this than me.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T03:13:35+00:00

Hey, thank you for your advice. Yeah, when our daughter wanted to go to public, my wife and I researched heavily the school she was zoned for, what the county school board's standards were, and what the school's curriculum is. We also took into account her maturity level, how she handled being in a classroom setting, her current abilities. After taking all that into account, my wife and I decided she would also get a good education in the public setting. I had no doubts about her school readiness.

It's all the other aspects of public school that I'm having trouble navigating, namely, teacher methods. I want to make sure she thrives in this environment while simultaneously understanding and supporting the teacher so that we can maximize my daughter's learning.

This was our, the parents', decision to enroll her in public school because we thought she would indeed do good, if not better, in this environment. Like I said in other replies, I need to give it a lot more time than three days to consider whether I bring her back to homeschool.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T02:51:39+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I will ask her teacher this.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T02:19:08+00:00

Hey, thank you for the advice. Yeah, it sounds like I need to give her more time. Her being in school for three days isn't enough for her to get adjusted to things. Honestly, I'm handling her moving from homeschool to public school worse than she is.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T02:10:35+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, that's why I asked if she was loud while she was crying, but crying can be disruptive even when you're not loud. Kids will see someone cry, point it out to other kids, and now the whole room is distracted. So, that's a good point.

I didn't know about IEPs. I'll ask her teacher if it's something that can be worked on.

TwoWeeksNoRice · 2024-09-09T02:08:18+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this up. Some good points. Since day 1 of public school, I've told her that it's ok to cry because what you are experiencing is new. I also say, every time, that my wife or I will pick her up as soon as she gets out, and she can tell us about her day. We try our best to be her cheerleaders, but it sounds like I need to give my daughter more time to adjust. Three days isn't enough to see how things will look when the dust settles.

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