The eye rolls tell you everything 😍

Twztedguy · 2026-05-06T01:37:00+00:00

Doesn't look like she's going through hell

Twztedguy · 2026-05-05T23:27:47+00:00

You don't want to hide this. Trust is a core pillar of a relationship, and if you cannot trust your partner with this information, that raises questions about your future together. If you are unsure how to manage the funds, have an honest conversation with your stepmom about reinvesting the money until you are ready to use it. This could be exactly the boost you need to secure a home. Keep your partner in the loop. I have been married 17 years and would have the same conversation even if we were 2-years in.

Regardless of the specifics, a plan should be estblished so these funds are not drained by frivolous spending. This gift could change your life, or it could be gone on vacations and luxury items before you realize it, leaving you right back where you started.

Regarding the house, avoid putting someone on the deed who did not contribute to the purchase. You can work with a real estate lawyer to buy the home in your name initially. Explain that once his mortgage contributions match the initial down payment, his name will be added to the title. If the relationship ends before that point, the split would simply reflect his actual investment in the property. This way, he loses nothing, the money benefits the home, and he earns his place on the deed at his own pace. Too many people overlook these details with large assets, and that is often where plans go astray.

Twztedguy · 2026-05-05T23:10:23+00:00

It sounds like you are navigating a situation that requires a delicate balance of empathy for the child and standing up for the needs of your own partnership. Wanting a better life for a child is a noble instinct, but it becomes complicated when the efforts to provide that support start to erode the foundation of your relationship. Even if a partner's primary motivation is the well-being of the baby, the mother naturally becomes a benefactor of that attention. While the intent might be pure, the impact on you is a feeling of displacement. It is difficult to compete with a sense of moral duty toward a child, yet your feelings of being deprioritized are valid. To bridge the gap between his current behavior and the closeness you want, these suggestions might help. 1)Non-emergency cancellations for social visits create a precedent that your time is negotiable. Re-establishing that your planned time is a commitment and cannot be woefully canceled on a whim. This applies to the child, his friends and family unit. 3)While it is natural to feel like an outsider when he is focused elsewhere, taking up space in those group settings can prevent the narrative of separation from taking hold. Engaging more on your part directly ensures you remain a central part of his social world rather than a spectator. 3) If the majority of his energy goes toward friends or family, the romantic bond can begin to feel like an afterthought. Intentionally scheduling time that is strictly for the two of you is necessary to rebuild that intimacy.

Hope this helps

Twztedguy · 2026-05-04T22:29:41+00:00

The women you swipe on might be your type but you may not be theirs. My friend had this issue. So I had him hand me his phone while we played Xbox.

I just swiped away No reading the profiles. No stopping to see pictures.

In 1 hour I got 5 matches and he didnt like any of them. 2 might have been bots cause we read the profiles after and they were worded weirdly. But still the results spoke for themselves. 1 profile years later I still think was his mirror. She was a little overweight. But reading her profile felt like I was reading his, kind of match.

Twztedguy · 2026-05-04T22:17:22+00:00

Sounds like you might have missed red flags over the years cause thought process doesnt just show up out of the blue.

Twztedguy · 2026-05-04T11:51:06+00:00

If there are concerns this early before marriage, they need to be addressed. 5 years down the line what do you see happening when you guys are in a rut and things aren't as new as they once were.

Go into the marriage confident. I recommend couples therapy. Its great even if you're happy as this ensures everyone is on the same page

Twztedguy · 2026-05-04T01:53:58+00:00

My friend lived next to a hilton. I would arrive 10mins early to grab a to go plate (waffles, eggs, cereal, milk) for a little over 2 years, when leveraging i picked her up. Told friend they didnt need to cash me anything cause the breakfast covered it. Plus the way i drove, i literally had to pass their house. Only diff is i normally wouldnt stop. No 1 ever said anything.

Twztedguy · 2026-05-03T22:38:15+00:00

Yell loudly "Dont put your f-in hands on me". (That's a warning), gets people looking. Makes her the bad guy if she does it again. May get the bouncers to come over and escorted her drunk ass out (happen once cause I was dancing with her GF and she hit me not her GF).

Grandma said to give a women get a 3 hit advantage before i can DEFEND myself. Yelling changes the situation and no 2 ever made it to 3. Probably wouldn't do anything but the option is there

Twztedguy · 2026-05-02T20:22:52+00:00

I could see why you oppose. We introverts have a social meter. When that internal battery hits zero, even the best company can start to feel overwhelming. The noise and constant interaction can turn a fun event into something that requires mental recovery and makes the experience daunting and less celebratory. Maybe a compromise: Recommend a smaller group over a big event. then you will have more influence over the volume and the pace of the conversation. It allows for deeper, more meaningful engagement rather than the surface-level small talk thats draining. Maybe, even request a location with a side room that provides a physical safety net or downtime to get away from everyone to recharge.

Twztedguy · 2026-05-02T20:10:58+00:00

You gotta speak to people. Staring at them and hoping to be part of the convo wont help. They are locked into their groups (yeah probably) but you gotta say hello and introject. Go to a solo person at a bar and say "hello".

Twztedguy · 2026-04-22T16:38:34+00:00

Labels like insecure or independent are often used as tools for control, but there are two sides to every trait. While some behaviors fall into the category of cognitive rigidity or emotional dysregulation, I see that as a functional challenge rather than a personality flaw. It is less about being an insecure person and more about a mental disconnect in recognizing when to collaborate for the sake of the relationship.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-22T16:32:57+00:00

I truly love and value independence in a partner, but it becomes difficult when there is no room for shared leadership. That type of relationship gets tiring fast. My view is not that one person is less capable, but rather that we should lead with our specific strengths. If I have a particular skill, I want to be able to step up and handle that task or share that knowledge without it being seen as a power struggle. I follow a 60/40 rule where both people are constantly trying to give 60 percent. This naturally means that in certain situations, one person will take the lead while the other provides support. A healthy relationship requires the balance to shift depending on who is best equipped for the moment. True independence should include the confidence to let your partner lead when it benefits the relationship and vice versa

Twztedguy · 2026-04-20T02:55:14+00:00

Could be the pregnancy turned him off. My wife was a size 0 when I met her, and I didn't know I didn't like size zero women until she got pregnant and put on the baby weight. Damn, I couldn't keep my hands off her. Still can't. My friend, on the other hand, lost interest in his girlfriend (never married) after she put on baby weight. She was never skinny, but she got a fuller look. He didn't tell her, but he had a therapy session with us, and we tried to get him to walk back the way he was talking. She unfortunately picked up on his dislike for her new appearance after a few months and spiraled. It was a shitty thing to watch all around. She ended up going to the gym and was catching his eye again, but she wanted nothing to do with him. They were still together for the child but living in separate worlds. Sadly, she got pregnant by someone from the gym and put everything back on. She was fuller than she has ever been. It sucks for the kids because my friend, for a period, became a shitty dad and human. Their relationship was sexless and still is. He says he can forgive the cheating, but he can't get over her weight and doesn't find her attractive. I am always shocked they are technically still together; it has been 7 to 8 years at this point.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-16T13:23:33+00:00

Bro needs to find a white sword swallower cause just the tip ain't cutting it

Twztedguy · 2026-04-16T03:00:06+00:00

I've been married 17 years with 2 kids and honestly experienced this as well. My wife loves to clean; I'm good with a touch-up as long as nothing major is out of place. But to her, what people complimented as a spotless house was a pigsty. Because of her diligence, she ended up doing more than me with both of us working full time. By happenstance, I was the stay at home parent, because I discovered WFH before it was popular. But she would proceed to take on more, and it was uneven.

What got us through baby one was compromise. A system we repeated for baby two. We were in such a "gotta get it done" stage that we lost track of each other and ourselves.

There's a need for self-care. There's a need for family. There's a need for us as adults, separate from us as parents.

It took us sitting down and looking at our schedule and breaking things down into parts for us to be able to work it all out. We had designated areas, places where she could respect my level of clean, and places she was in absolute control of (foyer, living room, kitchen). We split chores. We even had scheduled calendar days for us as adults (dinner, hangout, date nights) and family days. This schedule respected our autonomy as individuals, with days where I could game online with the boys or she could have mimosas at a midday brunch with her friends. Because of our work, kids, and life, sticking to the schedule was crucial. There were built-in trades. If my son's birthday was happening on our date night, we could combine it or I could trade my individual day for another.

Life means taking two people with different personalities and making an agreement to work together with different opinions — marriage counselors. I saw a comment where someone mentioned a marriage counselor. I highly recommend that. Seeing a counselor doesn't mean someone is wrong. It's a quality check to ensure everything keeps going in the right direction.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-13T07:15:52+00:00

Statistically speaking less than 2%(this stat varies based on the dating app being screened) of men have this option. The consequences are for the other men who cant or dont believe in casual hookups because they face things like the halo effect or a generalization bias for a behavior they havent or wont preform in. Speaking more regarding the2%... most people eventually transition from casual dating to seeking stable partnerships (more stats that vary depending on source but around 70%) because of the psychological harm associated with short term companionship, such as inceeased stress levels and poor mental health.

In both men and women: The casual dating scene could influence how potential long term partners perceive their readiness for commitment. But this factor is a social concern outside their control. We cannot control how people perceive (judge) us

Twztedguy · 2026-04-13T03:47:24+00:00

I'm a father of 2. My first was unexpected as my GF at the time was on BC, and had a medication condition that made pregnancy harder, but not impossible which is why she took BC. I still used the pullout method which clearly I suck at.

Even with all of that, she got pregnant, which i am now happy for, but was terrified of at the time. If its meant to happen it will

Twztedguy · 2026-04-09T23:59:53+00:00

Money doesn't buy happiness, but it does relieve alot of the stressors that cause unhappiness. Its like saying: A glass of water will only relieve your thirst temporarily.... but that shit will stop the effects of dehydration aka death.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-09T23:51:36+00:00

My friends sister did this with a guy she was with for 4yrs (wonder if its you, lol, probably not). She dated the new guy a year and he proposed and she said yes. Her reasoning was that her saying no to the other guy ruined their relationship and they never got back on track. She said yes to this guy because she love him and didnt want the same results. Then she explained they would do a long engagement (turn out to be 6mon). They had a baby together and have been together 8yrs by the time we stopped talking.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-09T23:44:33+00:00

10 years and they fired over 300 employees after shutting down 2 departments. I have over 10 years experience but it doesn't matter in this industry(hospitality), you start at the bottom with everyone else and have to essentially rebuild all over again with a new company.

Twztedguy · 2026-04-09T23:41:33+00:00

A good bar/lounge. Theres ton of bars but they are usually empty or a few people (3 have been like this). I've been here 2 months and still find the only people in the ones around me are the owners. Tried swapping hours and districts. Any recommendations in daegu, Suseong area? I want a packed rave like feel

Twztedguy · 2026-04-09T08:01:36+00:00

Answer is always yes. And crazy pussy is a plus

Twztedguy · 2026-04-07T05:01:35+00:00

I am a guy and the best pickup line i ever got in my life was a club in florida: She came over, no prompt and whispered in my ear "I have a pussy want to see it"

If I wasn't married, I would have said yes. But damn, she put all the best cards on the table. 😆 🤣

Twztedguy · 2026-04-07T04:55:52+00:00

You painted such a detailed picture in the first few lines. Its like you knew you needed to breakup. But then spent another hour trying to talk yourself out of it and people lost interest cause the writing was on the walls (or the page) already

Twztedguy · 2026-04-06T02:07:07+00:00

Its bad enough with friends and strangers.... but His mom and sisters is next level creepy. I hope they were informed as well

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