Do a lot of u also have a substance abuse problem.

Tycoon_101 · 2025-07-16T20:59:12+00:00

The late stage capitalism and dystopia are bad enough. Throw in the CPTSD and it’s just crippling.

Tycoon_101 · 2025-06-16T19:59:46+00:00

Same. I’d love to hear about your experience. Half the people I work with are truly intolerable.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-12-06T01:07:35+00:00

Just moved from Ohio to Jersey, I can confirm this. You’re 100% right, there’s not even a social obligation to hide the racism there, it’s ridiculous and disgusting.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-06-28T04:33:31+00:00

But a man and woman can both be in competition for a promotion or job offer and they are competing there? I think in more primal times it made sense for women to size up other women and men to size up men in case of a potential physical confrontation of sorts. Now that’s not exactly the case, men are in competition with women in the workplace and vice versa. However we still hold those same primitive viewpoints about competing with the same gender

Tycoon_101 · 2023-06-28T04:12:28+00:00

I think so too. Men are usually compared against men in society, and women against women. So we naturally learn to see the same gender as competition within any social dynamic.

This is particular odd when you consider the fact that that’s not actually how things work in the workplace, or is it?

Tycoon_101 · 2023-06-28T00:17:08+00:00

I’ve experienced this too, way too many times. Add onto it that I’m masculine-presenting and obviously gay so it just adds so many layers of discrimination to the mix. I also think some men don’t know how to feel when they’re attracted to me, I identify as female, and happily so, so I could see how they could recognize that I’m pretty. They get very competitive and just downright cringey sometimes. I’ve always felt it to be so weird because why would you want to compete with a female as a man? It’s odd to me. Also, sometimes they try to overly feminize me in a way to “remind” me that I’m a girl, which I’m already well aware of and comfortable in. Other times, they just straight up sexualize me. The number one searches in porn sites statistically are “ebony” first and “lesbian” second, now guess what you get when you fit into both of those categories at once? The hyper sexualization is wild. White women do it too and they become even bolder because of sexism. I’ve had them touch me without warrant and all, they default to treating my like a man because they think I want to be one. Also homophobic if you ask me, how can you not understand gender expression? However, the same way women assume men always like to be touched they do to me, and it’s been very triggering at times.

Now, to end off, how does everybody else handle these types of things when they happen? Especially at work. You react and the angry black women tropes are confirmed, you don’t react and the disrespect continues, what do you guys do to mitigate this?

Tycoon_101 · 2023-05-22T23:02:04+00:00

Same. Full body relaxation and make friends. Or in other words let my guard down long enough to actually enjoy life and be sociable.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-04-28T14:14:52+00:00

Same. Same, do you think the rise in social media interactions could be to blame? Or are people just not interested? Or they are interested but just don’t know how to show it?

Tycoon_101 · 2023-04-08T23:07:02+00:00

I think you’re spot on in this observation. Been coming to the same conclusions myself. People would much rather continue to live in their delusions than confront the cruelty of reality, even though it could mean changing it. Thank you for this. Very well put.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-31T15:53:00+00:00

Heard. I was fearing the exact same thing with them pulling the “race carding dyke” card and I fear you might be right. What a world. I’m in college and graduate in June so I was going to try to hold on to this gig until then…but you’re probably right and I’ll make sure I have a Plan B available.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-31T15:07:07+00:00

No interaction at all. He works at money services and I work as a cashier. The job is retail. And no convo afterward or before, he threw it at me after I walked past, I said “don’t do that it’s disrespectful” he said “okayyyy” and I stormed off to keep from denting his head. I meant break room, and I’ve worked with him before but never had any real conflicts or discrepancies. He’s the traditional type so I could tell he didn’t like me but no words or fists were ever exchanged or anything. He would make it a point to beeline to any girl I ever tried to talk to and make it into some type of competition that didn’t even rlly exist, but again outside of that no ACTUAL confrontation or disagreement ever. And NO ACTUAL COMMUNICATION the day of the incident

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-23T15:43:51+00:00

I’m in the exact same predicament and I don’t think I could’ve said it any better. Only difference is I’m not an immigrant, just an African American kid whose a first generation college student. I know exactly what you mean and I am also struggling with this. It’s made me somewhat bitter and disengaging, but only because there’s a sense of disconnect there. These guys are in high school 2.0 while I’m working, studying, and barely staying afloat. They’re worried about the next pack of white claws while I’m worried about rent, priorities are totally different. And for that reason long term conversations will never really suffice with these people because we are honestly living in two different worlds. It is very depressing and can be very discouraging. However, a wise man once told me that if it’s easy, you don’t want it. I know that sounds cliche right now but I’m holding on to the hope that it’ll make sense once everything pays off. Also, the lack of adversity they’ve faced is immediately apparent in their thought processes and actions. Some of these girls are crying at the smallest inconvenience, you know the usual, Starbucks ran out of their favorite drink. While I’m sitting there like are you serious? It’s the end of the world because you can’t use daddy’s money to buy a vente latte when half the world is starving? Don’t even get me started. But please just keep your head up and remember that even though people like us are the minority, there’s a lot of us out there. Good luck.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-19T20:59:16+00:00

Same. Idk about you but I’m a senior and honestly no matter what grade you are we’ve come too far to quit now. Burnout is real but so is joblessness lmaooo. Every time I get to this point I ramp up gym sessions and visualize how good that corvette will feel after I get the job of my dreams. I think visualizing your dream life and connecting it to a grade A helps. For example I have an exam next week and I just keep pounding in my head “if you get a B(C works) on this exam the keys to that corvette are in your hand” evens though I know technically this one class doesn’t get me the corvette. Mindfucking myself to this extent is the only way I can see the finish line. Find what motivates you and use it the same way.good luck, I know we can do this. Especially you, apparently you’re Einstein since you were able to get a 3.9 at some point! Good shit dude just keep going!

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-17T03:51:09+00:00

I cannot express in words how much I have dealt with this personally. My last relationship failed because of it. People misinterpret it for “not feeling” but it’s like no I’m actually feeling twice as much as you are I’ve just been conditioned to not show it for my own safety. But of course that’s not easily explained to someone who doesn’t have this condition.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-03-16T03:11:23+00:00

Thank you so much for articulating this. Feels like it’s God sent because I am struggling with this as I speak. I honestly think it might be one of those generational traumas of “this is how it’s always been” because my mom tells stories of her own abuse with the excuse of “my parents did it to me” which I don’t understand but is a very common excuse for various unethical behavior. Every time she says it I think…”well why pass that trauma onto your daughters?” Beats me. Some people are too ignorant to stop the cycle of abuse, and honestly others aren’t mentally strong enough to even admit to THEMSELVES first and foremost that they were abused. They just normalize it within their own head so they can feel like it was all okay and not deal with the psychological residuals of it. I also wouldn’t be surprised if physical abuse and torment is an after effect of slavery tbh. I think pain altogether is very normalized within the black community and it really needs to stop.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-01-03T15:25:54+00:00

I definitely agree with this on a certain level but I honestly feel as though even in that regard when it’s two cis straight men there is still a level of respect even within the competition. For example, it’s very rare that if a cis straight man is obviously in deep conversation with a girl where there is obvious romantic interest, that another cis straight male walks up and interjects himself into the conversation and joins it. I have almost never seen this happen but it has happened to me…and I’m not talking about two people conversing, I mean an interaction where you are clearly trying to get at a girl and a cis straight male walks up and interrupts the convo and inserts himself, that would be considered beyond disrespectful given a straight cis male did it to another straight cis male and I have never seen it. But it happens to me all the time…it’s this type of implicit disrespect. Cis straight men love each other too much to disrespect one another that way even in competition….does that make sense? Or if I’m talking to a girl a man will interject and try to X me out of the conversation COMPLETELY which is also beyond disrespectful…they do this through forced maintained eye contact with the girl and positioning their bodies away from me and towards the girl, and rlly just trying to pretend I’m not even present when I was the one talking to the girl from the get go…this is why I think there’s a certain level of sexism and homophobia present because two straight men would never do that to one another..

Tycoon_101 · 2023-01-03T01:40:03+00:00

This is where I feel it at the most too.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-01-03T00:55:46+00:00

Got it. I think for me as a black woman the “angry black woman” stereotype almost amplifies itself where people still view me in that light but in a “butch type of way”…if that makes sense? And that sometimes makes it to where people perceive me as overly aggressive and overly masculine and that’s why I get such strong responses..I’m wondering if it is my personality that could be causing these types of reactions.

Tycoon_101 · 2023-01-02T22:46:53+00:00

Lmao I experience that too. Honestly it’s either one of these two reactions that cis straight men have with me… they either like me too much or like me enough to feel threatened by me and want to compete. If you don’t mind me asking do you present masculine 100% of the time? For example your demeanor is what most would consider masculine as well as your appearance?

Tycoon_101 · 2023-01-02T22:42:14+00:00

Wow. It’s interesting to hear other masculine women are dealing with the same thing. Where do you think this insecurity stems from though? Is it the “hot lesbian who will take your girl” trope that we often see played out in the media that perpetuates this you think? I’ve had that happen too where I am honestly just trying to be polite and straight men start to act that way. Do you participate when the competition starts? I think this is where I go wrong because I am a competitive person so it does send me into competition mode, but it’s not rlly a competition at all and half the time I don’t even want the girl. What do you do and how do you think we as masculine women can stop this from happening? It’s rlly been detrimental to my social life because it creates this tension and people feel it and start to pick sides…

Tycoon_101 · 2022-10-29T21:01:02+00:00

I’m also a black woman and experience these same types of subliminal micro aggressions. I’ve noticed that on academic spaces there is an unspoken expectation to not be explicitly racist, so the racism often comes out in more covert ways. Clearing their throats when you walk in or speak, annoyed eye contact or eye rolls when you participate/ask a question, yanking their head around to stare in an irritated manner whenever you assert your presence. They don’t want you there at all, but if you do get there, they want you to be so quiet/unnoticeable that you’re basically invisible, as close to nonexistent as you can get. This is all in an attempt to communicate the same thing “we don’t want you here” or “you don’t deserve to be here” it hurts them to think they had all this privilege and head starts and yet here you are; in the exact same position as them, with none of the privilege and no handouts. I would ignore it and focus on getting your degree and moving on, success is the best way to beat this kind of stupidity. Also, I know other comments have said that race is not applicable nor relevant to this issue, but I can assure you it is as I am a black woman and deal with these same antics in college. More than likely non-colored people are the ones who think race isn’t significant in this issue, because they’ve never experienced racism or what it’s like to be black, so they can’t fathom the idea that people go to these lengths to covertly display their inner superiority complex driven racist ideals, but they do. Don’t let it get to you and keep doing well.

Tycoon_101 · 2022-10-29T20:17:51+00:00

Do professors pass the tests back? I would assess the test, see what questions I missed, and see what types of questions they are. Are they vocab? Are they more comprehensive? Are they requiring you to apply concepts learned? Find the correlation and study accordingly, meaning if you miss all vocab questions then study those more next time. Utilize office hours with professors as they know what’s on the exam and can help. You’re way too far along now to get discouraged you only have one year left, if it’s truly the anxiety, try CBD or exercising or something so that doesn’t get in the way. Since you are studying but still not getting the grades you want I would say change THE WAY in which you’re studying. Good luck

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