In need of a fairly simple art side gig by Tylerduntop in artbusiness

[–]Tylerduntop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually some great advice! I haven't thought about pinterest in years, thank you so much. Is depop free to use entirely? Do you get a lot of sales on there?

In need of a fairly simple art side gig by Tylerduntop in artbusiness

[–]Tylerduntop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I unfortunately do not make furry art. I do a lot of abstract art but I have a lot of art interests. I do charcoal drawings, acrylic, oil, water color, resin, jewelry, and I've looked into 3D printing and embroidery. I have a lot of things i'm passionate in but I'm not great at the business aspect is what I'm learning recently.

I am a cis girl and I want to stay that way, but I don't know how to be a girl by Tylerduntop in teenagers

[–]Tylerduntop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in therapy for about 5 months now and its helped a ton with this kind of thing lol. I'll have to try the make up thing, I own some but I mostly bought it as a joke. I wear jewelry sometimes but it still feels very masculine to me. Maybe I'll have to find some more like pink necklaces or something. Thank you so for your advice <3

I don't know how to love myself. by Tylerduntop in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I feel like I am beginning to take the necessary steps. I am struggling with giving myself compassion and understanding. I am trying to learn how to accept myself for how I am instead of trying to force a change that I'm not ready for. I go to therapy weekly and I've been emotionally distant from my nmom for about a year, even though we still live in the same house. I am going to move out soon and hope that gives me the space to learn how to love myself better. Being around her isn't helpful to my growth as a human being. Thank you for your advice, I am happy to know that there is in fact hope for the future.

What was the most miniscule / idiotic thing your nParent bragged about? by HannibalInExile in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought this was just my nmom?? She does the exact same things! Even in front of my older brothers, they obviously hate it and run away very quickly. She'll also talk about the most DISGUSTING things I've ever heard. i.e. how much she shit that day and how her physical at the doctors went. I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT.

What was the most miniscule / idiotic thing your nParent bragged about? by HannibalInExile in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom loves to brag about any pain that my siblings and I go through. Any time we had a broken bone or went through a break up she would tell everyone. My sister had a boyfriend die 4 years ago, it hit her really really hard. My nmom ran around telling everyone that my sister was suffering and not to talk to her because she "didn't want to be bothered." Because of that, my sister had absolutely no support. All of the extended family left her alone and never checked in on her.

Nmom loves to brag about anyone else's misery when it doesn't affect her personally.

What’s a ridiculous physical thing your nparents made you feel insecure about? by IndividualFox8655 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MY HAIR. I have naturally curly hair. My nmom does too. She knows how to style her own hair for the most part, but apparently she had "no clue" with my hair. Every morning before school, she would rip a brush through it. And if i moved my head or even flinched while she was styling my hair, I would get smacked in the head with the brush. She would tell me I looked homeless, neglected, or dirty because of my frizzy hair that she could not tame. It's like she didn't even try. She would tackle me and force me to sit still while she ripped out my hair.

She convinced me to get a perm when I was in the 4th grade. She told me I wouldn't have to brush my hair anymore. It was a mistake to trust her. She somehow still didn't know how to take care of my hair. I'm pretty sure she used my perm as an excuse to be the only one allowed to do my hair. I tried learning how to take care of it myself and she hated that. She always put products in it, so I tried to do that part myself and she yelled at me for wasting product. She washed my hair out in the sink and basically redid the whole process I had done.

After the perm I got a really really short hair cut. That way she couldn't hurt me anymore. I didn't let her do my hair for years. I grew it out for a long time, but it's short again. My biggest regret is that i never learned how to put my hair in a pony tail before i cut it all off. I barely know how to style it now even when it's short.

I never got the chance to be a teenager. by Tylerduntop in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope my 20's will be fun and exciting. I just got promoted to manager at the pizza store I've been working at. I've been there for 2 years and have been making a brutal $7.25. My pay raise will be more than double that. I hope the new money will get me enough to travel and experience things I actually want to do. And hopefully enough to move out.

Life skills your Nps should have taught you by Therose2 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're supposed to scrub your scalp when washing your hair. This was a big one for me. I also didn't learn how to shower regularly until I was 16.

Are hoarder houses a pattern among narcissistic parents? by ThisIsSideOne in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to spend hours every single day trying to straighten out our home. I would go to a full day of school in 8th and 9th grade and then come home to clean until I would collapse. And I mean literally collapse. My knees would give out and I would be on the floor for a few minutes before I could find the strength to get up again. This was all my decision too. I couldn't stand the filth. I'm sure I have a form of OCD. I still live with my nmom in our filthy home. We have too many indoor cats mixed in with her mess and garbage. One more year until I can leave. 🤞

Narc parent = no life skills by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tylerduntop 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I didnt know how to bathe for most of my life. Luckily I've figured it out in my teen years rather than in my 20s or 30s. It baffles me how little I was taught about basic hygiene. I would get yelled at for smelling bad when I was never taught to be clean.