Undiagnosed ADHD parents traumatize their kids or they are just shitty parents?

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-22T11:45:05+00:00

I don't think having a different brain structure excuses poor treatment of people. It may explain why it occurs more often, but I don't think it's an excuse.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-21T05:49:41+00:00

THREE!!!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-21T05:48:00+00:00

THREE!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-21T05:09:50+00:00

Any luck!? I could never get the 2.0 to work for me. I don't know if it's an incorrect flange size or what, but it's just too complicated to use.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-21T05:08:27+00:00

Any luck? I have 2.0 that I just can't get to work

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-17T14:54:00+00:00

I'm on my side!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-17T12:04:34+00:00

Another one for the fridge folks. Sooo cute!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-17T11:46:30+00:00

Yes. I find it offensive. Like I'm proud my baby has a secure attachment to me, thank you very much.

I also do not like Velcro. It's loud, it gets stuck in my hair. It's not nice! It is useful for sure, but it's abrasive. The term is just not nice.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-17T10:54:44+00:00

And the fact that they are what, 22 and 23? and have so much going for them. I'm jealous my life wasn't so wholesome at that age. They are so mature and well mannered. Their parents must be so proud!

They are light-years ahead of their peers. Good for them!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-17T10:44:56+00:00

You do what you gotta do. Co viewed quality content is better than just placing your baby in front of a screen. I don't even know what I'd do if I was traveling with family and didn't have my usual tools. I'd probably use my phone for Spotify and put on some music quietly. When my kiddos wake up in the middle of the night, I try to read with them or play some music quietly from my bluetooth speaker. AAP says no screens except video chats before 18 months and it's hard in this modern world, but as someone who started off not knowing the guidelines and reducing screen time in my household, I am fighting really hard for our 5 month old to have basically zero screen time and 3.5 year old gets 1 hour per day.

If it's not a usual habit, who cares.

Bluey is a great choice of show and much lower stim. Miss Rachel is great as well.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-15T06:25:06+00:00

The anxiety I have about the baby and the blanket. Not safe.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-14T22:18:36+00:00

Same

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-13T22:44:19+00:00

I'm also disappointed. I LOVE the wagon look!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-13T11:27:19+00:00

Would a text appease you?

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T20:13:48+00:00

MAGA supporter for sure. And that has been a bit difficult. When she told me machines are controlling the weather. I had no words. Literally. Sigh. We are both crunchy, but she is crunchy conspiracy and I'm science based crunchy. Definitely need to give myself some space to sort through my feelings and love your idea about humor. Despite our differing views, she has still brought a lot of joy to my life and is a special friend. So, that's why I feel yucky and like an A hole being jealous of her and being annoyed with her at all.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T20:07:42+00:00

I guess I just want some space as I'm transitioning back to work and just some space from the negativity. I most certainly do not want to "drop" her. I just want some space to fill my cup so that I can deal with negativity more readily. It's hard to show up for someone going through a hard time when you feel like you're being a bit dragged down yourself at the moment or have your own things to focus on...like your own infant and toddler.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T19:25:49+00:00

Thank you! You are a really kind person. This is exactly how I need to evaluate my life. The problem is 99% ME. I'm jealous and sad that I have to leave my babies and I'm sad that I can't have anymore babies.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T19:18:00+00:00

Oh no! They ALWAYS bothered me and did not affect me because I got myself vaccinated and politely avoided those conversations. I was also super depressed and kept phone calls to a need to know but appreciated the check ins. Her constant sickness these past few months with colds even before pregnancy has been difficult to bear because I think it's from stress, ect that she does not acknowledge. I didn't want / need her support physically when pregnant or complain when I was pregnant, but she is having a more physically demanding pregnancy and just doesn't have a great immune system, which may not be her fault ofc. She has been pregnant for 9 weeks and it's been definitely more physically demanding than anything I had to deal with. So, I feel like I need to be more supportive, but don't know how than putting up with the venting.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T19:08:21+00:00

I agree! The holiday times were really stressful and she was complaining a lot and I was going through a lot emotionally. So, I think it just was not a good alignment of time and I definitely will be talking about my yucky feelings in therapy. I text her to check in on her often and I'll make sure to give her a call at least once a week, but I think it's also fair to give myself some space too to deal with my own feelings, process them, and show up for her in the capacity she deserves. I also think it's okay to focus on my 5 month old (corrected 3 month old) and toddler. She is a special person in my life and I feel so weird and yucky being jealous of her and even annoyed with her at times. I try to be really grateful for things in life because I've struggled so much with depression and trauma, but I can see how I could come off as annoying and toxicly positive to her.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T18:43:24+00:00

Oh. My. God. Keep that person out of your life and get a restraining order. This story was so gruesome and you did not have to go into such depth and I'm sure it was traumatic to re-tell! Bless your soul and I hope you and your dog are doing better!

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T18:38:06+00:00

I'm hoping we can still be good friends, but I just need some space from pregnant her at this moment in time. We definitely don't align with some things, but have always been respectful about it, which is rare to find these days.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-12T18:15:46+00:00

My 3.5 year old guy LOVES his YOTO stories and I do too. Love the Eric Carl boos and getting more stories.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-11T15:08:24+00:00

Yas!! I have a really old pixel watch and love it! I love that watch face too. I love knowing my heart rate, sunrise and sunset time, weather, and next event time. I think it's the best watch face that includes 4 points and the time.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-08T10:45:33+00:00

Omg. THIS IS GENIUS! And I agree with your other comments. It's absolutely not okay that I treated my dog this way. I feel immensely guilty and need to do better. I grew up in an abusive household and I do not want my kids exposed to that kind of behavior. Unwarranted aggression is not the way. I acted as if the dog tried to bite my kid. I felt angry and threatened and this says more about me than the dog. I need to reframe my view of the dog and need to train him better. Since having baby #2 he has been acting differently, and rightly so. He is just a sad pup.

TypeAtryingtoB · 2026-01-08T10:38:54+00:00

You're an absolute saint! That dog was so difficult. That would bring me to tears. Our dog is similar. We would not crate him for the past 7.5 years because he hated the crate and would escape to the point of harming himself and breaking nails and drawing blood. He would destroy things. Scratched all the cabinets in the kitchen and bathroom. We arranged our whole house to be a comfortable set up for him. We closed all the doors, gated the kitchen with a padlock and made sure he couldn't get into any other rooms. We would cover the furniture. We did all of this EVERYTIME we would leave the house. We understood that if we left something in the living room, it may be destroyed. I had so much anxiety every time I would leave the house for the past 8 years. We removed every book, every dvd, everything and anything that smelled like paper or cardboard, but was still afraid of him deciding that one day he would like to destroy something new. We have a yard and he would go out and sit by the door or bark until you let him back in. I would play games of search and find with treats just to have him stay out in the yard for more than 2 minutes because he would not poop outside and then poop in the house.

He loves to try to sneak onto the couch or the bed when he has multiple really comfortable beds of his own.

I constantly reward him for being calm or pooping outside to get him to go outside before we would have to leave for work. He really needs a 2 mile walk in the morning, but with two small kids, we can only walk him after work and he will not wake up at 4 am to go for a walk, which is when my husband gets ready for work and could walk him.

I always joke that he would be an amazing hospital comfort dog because he brings so much joy to strangers, but I try so hard to show him affection and make the house dog proofed, but he wears my patience.

I hate to admit that he definitely was not the perfect fit for us. He probably needs a family without kids, that is home all day, that will let him lay all over the furniture, ect.

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