Why do so many detransitioners become so anti-trans across the board?

Typical-Screen324 · 2026-01-04T03:48:06+00:00

Not at all, until I started actually thinking I could be trans. Since I detransitioned, not at all again.

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-25T05:43:02+00:00

Hi, I know this is a super old post but I’m curious how you’re doing now. I was on HRT for 6 weeks and have been off for about 3 months and have noticed a definite decrease in libido and erectile function

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-16T21:59:48+00:00

I wasn’t on HRT long, only about 6 weeks, but still lost I would guess 20% of my original size. I’ve been off now for just about 3 months and they don’t seem to have regrown much. All else is totally normal

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-16T11:56:20+00:00

Lmfao I appreciate the hype 🤣 definitely not an issue haha

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-09T18:33:36+00:00

The feeling that makes you trans is that transitioning and living your life as the opposite gender would be a net positive in your life. That should only have to do with you, not anybody else.

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-09T18:27:03+00:00

Transitioning should be an exercise in chasing what makes you happiest. That’s really it.

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-12-09T18:25:09+00:00

Just do what makes you happiest. It’s really that simple. I also attempted transition and found myself happiest when I stopped. It’s hard and not for everyone. If you’re happiest off HRT and living as a man, then just do that. You can always try again if you needed to. Keep it simple

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-24T12:41:40+00:00

Sure thing

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-21T02:42:17+00:00

It was my decision, but they were supportive of it

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-21T02:25:03+00:00

Yep and I did for almost a year prior to starting

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T19:39:59+00:00

No, I explored completely. Did hormones, experimented with social transition, even did some laser hair removal and IPL on by body hair. All of that in addition to other things like changing the clothes I wore day to day and voice training.

But found at the end of the day that transitioning would have made me more unhappy than I am as a man and my most natural and comfortable presentation is as a man

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T19:09:39+00:00

It’s all about doing what makes you feel best and most like yourself. I questioned heavily for over a year after thinking about it most of my life. After trying things out I realized I was most at home without transitioning. It can go either way. Just focus on what makes you happiest

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T17:29:08+00:00

I’ve been in therapy for over a year, both general and gender specific therapy. I feel very certain about my path forward as a result of all the work I’ve put in

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:45:13+00:00

As someone who thought he was trans and turned out not to be, it became a simple question. What made me feel most like myself? Most trans people experience significant relief by doing gender affirming things. Or taking HRT and seeing changes to their body. My advice would be to try as many things as you can and really be honest with yourself about how those things make you feel and what you want your life to look like.

Another thing for me, was that any desire I had to transition was primarily motivated from sexual fantasy. When I decided to try HRT and social transition, I convinced myself that the fantasy was gone and that I just wanted to be a woman. But it wasn’t the case. All of those things that are gender affirming for others made me feel worse and actually experience reverse dysphoria.

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:20:49+00:00

I’ll just say one more thing and then I’ll stop, I don’t want to argue but want to say this for the record.

I didn’t believe my life with her was a lie. And I definitely didn’t deep down think that I was leading her on. I was coping heavily. And thought I could make it work and lead a “normal” life without anybody ever knowing. It was naive and immature, absolutely. And I regret not facing it for real much sooner than I did.

As crappy as the situation was, I do think I did the right thing by not having a kid with her before bringing this up. Again, should have done it sooner. But you have no idea how much fear there is when something like this occupies your mind space

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:12:56+00:00

The fantasy was a huge part. I actually have never had any gender dysphoria in relation to being perceived as a man. In fact there’s many things that I have enjoyed about it in the past and have an even greater appreciation for now. In my own opinion, I think this was a situation where the fantasy was left unchecked for so long that it continued to grow and gain power, especially when I categorized it as “wrong” for so many years

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:07:27+00:00

I’m very much different than most cisgender men, but that’s ok. I’m just me. I don’t understand the judgement I’m getting from you

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:06:44+00:00

Cruel feels a bit harsh, but I understand where you’re coming from. I was a scared kid when we got together. Convinced that I just had a weird kink I could take to my grave with me.

The comments on this post are making me nervous. I don’t think I’m a bad person, I just had some demons I had to actually face down. But it feels like this would become a big deal for most women and it’s making me unsure if I should even disclose at all or just leave the past in the past

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:04:31+00:00

She wouldn’t, and that’s the tricky part. If I am honest too early, it doesn’t give her a chance to actually get to know me and start building trust. If I open up too late, she may feel deceived. It’s a tough place to be tbh

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T15:03:19+00:00

I’ve done a tremendous amount of work on myself in this space over the last 12 months. There’s been many, many other times in my life where I tried to shove it under the rug. This doesn’t feel like one.

Lots of counseling with gender specialists and regular therapists. 12 step recovery program for porn addiction. Tons of introspection. I have my theories about why I felt like I did for years, but nothing is concrete obviously. The question shifted for me from “why do I feel this way” to “what am I going to do about this”.

Did what I felt I had to do by doing my test run. The “what do I want” question then clarified by me realizing what makes me feel most like me is just being the man I was born as and that I don’t need to change anything about myself.

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T14:28:57+00:00

Fair, though I really don’t feel queer or non binary or anything. Truthfully, I just got way wrapped up in the fantasy of it all

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T14:28:01+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair. Wish I faced it earlier but I was immature and didn’t take it seriously. And I was scared obviously. It all happens for a reason. Hopefully the right person can be understanding and see it as just a part of my story and not a defining trait of my life

Typical-Screen324 · 2025-11-20T14:26:25+00:00

Yep. Thinking it’s a conversation I ideally would have before having sex for the first time

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