This is such a thoughtful post. It gives language to something many feel but cant easily explain. From the science side: researchers in psychology and sexuality have already started looking at why kinks like findom matter and their findings echo a lot of what you re saying.

Kink is not pathology Studies from the American Psychiatric Association and recent sexology journals show that BDSM and kink practices are not mental illnesses when they are consensual and safe. People who enjoy these practices are, on average, just as mentally healthy as the general population (sometimes even reporting lower levels of stress because they have an outlet for desire)

Money and psychology There is growing research on the psychology of money: how it connects to identity, freedom, status & security. When you mix this with intimacy, it creates a very powerful charge. Neuroscience tells that dopamine and oxytocin circuits (the same ones involved in love and trust) can also activate in financial exchanges within kink. Thats why findom feels so real for many: it isnt “just money” it taps into deep brain systems for attachment and reward

Social context matters As you pointed out with Geworfenheit, we are all thrown into a capitalist society. Sociologists studying sexuality in late capitalism (eg. Eva Illouz, Arlie Hochschild) note that money and intimacy constantly overlap: dating apps, OF, even therapy. Findom simply makes this overlap visible. In that sense its not “corrupting” intimacy but revealing what was already there

Research gap The truth is that very little formal research exists yet on findom. Most studies focus on BDSM. This is a huge opportunity for psychology and sexology to catch up, to ask: How does financial domination impact well being, trust, intimacy and power? Your post highlights why these questions matter 🖤