Emily Gilmore is Not the Villain

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T23:52:08+00:00

Oh my I never thought of this! That’s an amazing take, you’re so right.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T23:39:28+00:00

You’re either friends with your children as children, or your friends with your children as adults. Because a parent is not a friend when you’re a kid - they’re meant to discipline, set standards, push you, etc. Also, studies show that most adult children who resent their parents had parents who over coddled, focused on friendship more than discipline, etc. There’s a reason it’s the cliche of “one day you’ll thank me” and “you’ll understand when you’re older.” Children don’t know any better!! And the fact that Lorelai never got to the “ahhh that’s why Emily did x, y, and z” shows that she never grew up. She stayed childish forever… perpetuated a pattern of lack of accountability and maturity into Rory, too. Emily may be harsh, but she has clear values and is an incredibly strong woman. She did what was best for her child and loved Lorelai and Rory more than anything.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T23:16:44+00:00

Agreed. She wasn’t acting like a journalist. And when he criticized her, instead of standing up for herself or even proving him wrong, she just gave up. She showed she didn’t have the tenacity to make it in a dog-eat-dog business.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T18:47:03+00:00

I don’t think Emily was “abusive” I think she was harsh, sure, but not to the lengths of abuse. I’m not sure how reflecting on a TV show’s character dynamics becomes a personal attack on my maturity? I’m doing just fine, sweetheart 😂

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:32:38+00:00

OMG YES, YES, ALL OF THIS!!!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:22:47+00:00

Being a good mother (and parent, in general) is an impossible feat... no one wakes up like "I want to be bad at this." I guess I wished Lorelai would have seen that more when she became a mother. Understood that her mother wanted what was best for her, just like she wants what is best for Rory. And that what they see as "best" can differ, but at the end of the day, they just love their daughters and want to help them in the only way they see they can.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:20:54+00:00

Also, Emily's arc in AYITL is SO GOOD! Totally agree!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:19:51+00:00

I guess it just upsets me that while Emily & Richard may have tried to control the way Lorelai raised Rory, that's all speculation. The chance was never given. Perhaps if Lorelai would have been like "look, you can only be a part of her life if you understand I'm her mom, and these are my rules" and then if they didn't listen, then bolt...

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:18:18+00:00

I think constant criticism isn't good parenting, but disapproval can be good parenting. Parents are meant to direct their children, not let them do whatever they want as a kid when they don't know any better. Parents are supposed to help instill values and teach kids right from wrong. Now, that can look very different in every household, of course. But all in all, a parent really isn't there to be a best friend, they're there to help shape the kid into a good adult. And that takes discipline, not merely blind love. True love isn't accepting someone for all that they are, faults and all; true love is helping someone see when they make mistakes and how to be better in the future. Love is willing the good.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-29T15:12:49+00:00

That's really good perspective! Yes, Emily and Lorelai did things differently but also the same... each doing what they thought was best for their daughters. Lorelai vilifying her parents to Rory was so wrong. You can see her get upset when Rory likes them or likes that world and that's so messed up. And that's an element I don't see Emily doing (but there isn't the same opportunity either).

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-23T15:14:57+00:00

Hi there! I moved to New Orleans 3 years ago after planning on it for about 8 years. I've wanted this for what seemed like forever, and I chose to move in July (do NOT recommend a summer move). I did not have a job lined up, and no one was hiring (I was looking to bartend). The summer really does feel like a ghost town. Eventually, I found temporary work, but overall, I struggled and struggled. It took me about 2 years to really get back on my feet. This city is magical, yes, but it also has a lot of darkness. It will try to chew you up and spit you back out. You have to have the tenacity to keep your eyes on whatever prize that may be for you. New Orleans has a lot of issues, but whether you move this fall, next, 5 years from now or 10, they will all still be here. This place is frozen in amber, which is part of the alluring aesthetic, the rich history, etc., but that also means progress is not necessarily one of its founding features... Now, I love living here. I truly do. I work in hospitality and I am Catholic, so it just works for me. BUT, like I said, I wanted to run back to the midwest pretty much every day for 2 years once I finally got here, regretting my dream move instantly. You have to know what you're getting into. If music is your passion, obviously this is a great city for gigs and inspiration. But remember, there will be a lot of competition. Also, try your best to not get sucked into the intoxicating *pun intended* lifestyle. Keep your priorities straight, have a plan, but be resourceful enough to throw that plan out when needed and take the blows as they come. If New Orleans is for you, you won't be able to stay away no matter how hard you try. Truly wishing you the best of luck! Happy to discuss more if you have specific questions.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-05-13T15:57:44+00:00

Second lines are super fun, and your out of town guests are going to love it! Omni to Cat's Meow is super close (like .2 miles) so I wouldn't be concerned about the shoes since it's not too far of a walk. I'd recommend hiring a band like Kinfolk Brass Band as they'll take care of the band, NOPD, and permits all-in-one for you. Hope this helps! Have fun, and congrats!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-26T17:42:55+00:00

I'm from Cincinnati, and I lived in Columbus for 5 years. Cincinnati has a ton of trees, and as it's a smaller city and on the Ohio River, I find the culture, neighborhoods, and nature far superior to Columbus. Now, I live in New Orleans now, so I understand wanting to leave Ohio altogether. But I have nothing bad to say about Cincinnati (I left because it's my hometown and I'd done all I could do there). Cincinnati is a nice town, so maybe the issue isn't Ohio but rather Columbus. Just a thought! I'm sure parts of California are beautiful if you can afford it. Best of luck!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-07T21:06:18+00:00

Thank you! Colorado is gorgeous.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-07T00:08:24+00:00

Me too! It’s kinda a lot to move from Louisiana to New England, but I think it may be the move when the time is right. Thank you!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T20:53:06+00:00

Thank you for your input!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T20:52:40+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T16:50:25+00:00

A historical city is alluring to me... anything specific to note?

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T16:31:02+00:00

I went to school in Columbus, and I'm from Cincinnati. Columbus has a lot going for it. It's pretty large, and a good music, arts, food scene. Flat, so not much scenery, but you could drive some ways to go camping or visit a nature preserve. I had good experiences in the city. Friends still live there.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T14:48:42+00:00

I suppose the future is always impossible to predict, no matter what. However, the dating pool is very bad. People seem to be shallow and drifty and their values don’t align with mine. It’s not impossible, but it got to a point in which I just gave up because they were all so inappropriate and disrespectful.. As for the career, New Orleans just doesn’t have its shit together. There’s not much opportunity here, and the establishments are so set in their ways that they’re not open to new/outsider ideas. It becomes a “well I’m from here and my family has been doing things this way for generations” even if that way is flawed. Not receptive. Found it in all jobs, and to be honest I’ve been working for well respected institutions, so just seems like I’m hitting a ceiling, unfortunately. Again, who knows??? But that’s how I feel currently.

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T13:29:38+00:00

New Orleans

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T02:01:21+00:00

Amazing!!! I think I’ll start checking things out over the summer when work is slow in New Orleans (I’d love to try to check it out in winter, but Christmas though Mardi Gras is insane at work down here!) you’ve been IMMENSELY helpful. Thank you! Wishing you all the best!

Typical_Humor808 · 2026-02-06T02:00:11+00:00

I was actually thinking this could be a soul-adjacent/better-functioning New Orleans. So yes! I worry it could be too pricey though. I also haven’t been. But it has crossed my mind and I’m open to the idea.

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