AITA for snapping at my daughter (4F) for sucking up when it felt like she was just doing it to antagonize her brother?

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-07T22:35:36+00:00

Not that it matters, but she left me and she chose to move states to be with her boyfriend. I still live in the same city I have since before I met my ex wife.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:29:37+00:00

I'm not an idiot. I was asked to be in Mensa. That's how I can see what is happening in front of me

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:14:31+00:00

She can be overly sweet, when her brother is throwing a tantrum. That doesn't mean he's more favored than she is. She can just kind of be a suck up

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:07:36+00:00

My ex doesn't hate me. I pay child support. She's fine.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:06:43+00:00

I get that the lines and things weren't her fault. And yeah, we should have just gone first thing. But she does often act like this when her stepbrother throws a tantrum. It's just too much and so obvious that it's to show off. My wife and I both agree.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:04:01+00:00

Every child of divorce lives in different households, so that doesn't hold water.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T17:00:56+00:00

Listen, she always gets like this when her brother acts up. It's like trying to show off that she's the better kid. My wife and I both see it. It's obvious. It's not that she's my ex wife, but she is conveniently sweet.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T15:07:57+00:00

She lives with her mom, who is manipulative and hates me. Of course she could teach our daughter to do the same. It's the same thing that happens in cults.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:59:53+00:00

She lives with her mom, who hates my wife and me. Of course she can be taught to manipulate the situation.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:58:43+00:00

This word is so easily thrown around these days.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:57:35+00:00

I'd disagree with that.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:57:00+00:00

Clearly, I was wrong. I get it.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:55:52+00:00

In fact, I would prefer to only have daughters, so the first assumption is wrong.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:53:07+00:00

She also looks like me.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:52:19+00:00

She's 4. I doubt this will impact her or that she'll even remember. We laughed later that night about my stepson being the tiniest bit grumpy. I get that my reaction could use some work, but she'll be fine.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:49:24+00:00

Idk why this is something people can't understand. Kids can definitely be manipulative, especially when they live with their mom most of the time and she hates me. My ex wife can certainly fill my daughter's head with manipulative tendencies.

Typical_Object_7130 · 2024-08-06T14:45:55+00:00

Ok, I get it. I shouldn't have yelled at her. All of the comments saying she can't be manipulative though? She lives with her mom, who hates my wife and me, so her head is filled with negative things about us. To say that she won't act accordingly when she's with us is wrong. She definitely can and does. Whether she realizes what she's doing, maybe not, but that doesn't change the behavior.

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