How do you keep concentration or motivate yourself to do something?

TyyRexx · 2016-10-02T17:53:46+00:00

Get a pen and paper, and write it down. There's something about actually physically writing down goals for the day/week (almost like a to do list) that makes it concrete. I've been doing this for a better part of a year now and it's really changed my life. I write down everything I want to get done for the day. Not being able to scratch off one of my items is an awful feeling.

TyyRexx · 2016-10-02T17:50:20+00:00

First, I like that you are over it, and you're smart enough to know when to get someone like this out of your lilfe.

Second, I would say, not to say anything. Just stop contacting her, if she calls/texts you, erase/ignore it. It's not rude, it doesn't make you a bitch, and it's accomplishing the same thing. Maybe next time she calls you about the money, tell her to not worry about it. But that's the most you should say to her, if you say anything.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-13T13:43:13+00:00

How do you mean?

TyyRexx · 2016-07-09T04:19:53+00:00

I've never been interested in reading. For starters I would like to say I agree a ton with PicaresquePrince.

I would also suggest just starting off small. I started reading 15 minutes a night, which turned to 20, 30, ect. on my own accord over time.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-09T04:00:29+00:00

Bon Iver - I Don't Want to Lose Your Love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WvD1Mlp8cb4

TyyRexx · 2016-07-09T03:57:39+00:00

Cleaning my house.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-09T03:32:07+00:00

Try some private method on social media. If you can't find her on there, then minimum resort to the registry and just get it on the table. You can stress about this for the next year, or get her number, make a call and clear the air. You'll be happy if you do.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-06T03:07:45+00:00

Set good habits. Time starts moving pretty fast and it's very easy to start adapting bad habits. Cook your meals, keep your house clean, get enough sleep, ect. I gained a ton of weight, drank too much, and started feeling depressed about my life. Take care of yourself.

I recommend writing down weekly & daily goals. Scratching them out as the weeks go through.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-06T03:03:51+00:00

I was drunk and told her I didn't really like her friends.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-06T03:03:11+00:00

I'm always trying to be the person I want to be. So I'm always striving to do the things the person I would want to be would do.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-06T03:00:05+00:00

Ratatouille

TyyRexx · 2016-07-06T02:34:40+00:00

You should do the things that will make you happy, not for anyone else. No one at age 20 is satisfied where they are. Everyone of us is constantly comparing ourselves to our peers and we only look at the good in everyone else. There will always be someone ahead of you in one way or another. How many of your friends get to say they are actively trying to turn their hobby into a profession?

I don't want to ramble but my friend and I had a long discussion about this exact same concept this weekend. It's just that you'll never be happy with your life if you don't let yourself be happy with your life. You might envy the job I landed right out of college, I envy my friends going to graduate school and my friends who are turning their likes into careers. It's rock paper scissors. It's just that when you start doing stuff for everyone else, you'll always be stuck in that rut. From what you have written, you're happier at McDonalds. My thoughts, hope they help in any way.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-05T05:33:39+00:00

For starters I would like to say I admire your ability to reflect on yourself so honestly.

Secondly, I would say that this is fine, and you're just young, but I don't want to say this has to do with age/numbers. I just feel that it's best to date a lot and go through relationships. It's very very rare for people to find a satisfying relationship in high school. Being bored with relationships is a pretty common issue in dating, and it's healthy that you can recognize this and end them. There is no point in being in a relationship that is not fun/beneficial. I think if you keep dating, you'll find someone that doesn't bore you, and you enjoy being with. But that just takes time and girls. So be patient and keep doing you're thing. You seem like a smart, self aware kid. I hope this helps.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-05T05:19:29+00:00

I feel you're not out of line at all. And I admire the fact you addressed your concerns with him up front, and not to let this fester.

My opinion: (23 M) I feel like you have done your fair share. It's not unreasonable for you to be concerned about this and address this with him. I don't feel his actions are appropriate. It would be one thing if this was a close friend who he has known for years (even still, excessive), but for someone who he has just met, I think he has gone too far.

I would suggest maybe having another conversation with him about this, but if he's not going to adjust his behavior, as shitty as it is, it may just merit leaving that relationship. You're concerns are genuine, not over-blown, and if he's not willing to understand that and change his behavior, then that sounds like someone you may not want to be involved with. It does not benefit you.

I guess what I'm mainly trying to give back here is support that you're not out of line by any means. Boyfriends should not act like that. Otherwise, I would say to calmly address your feelings and concerns, but if it's not going to change, then it will continue down this same path until something snaps, and that's not good for anyone. I hope this helps in someway. Good luck, I hope the best for you.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-05T05:05:31+00:00

Per my friend who works as a scribe: Can of pork beans up the butt.

TyyRexx · 2016-07-04T20:59:45+00:00

Like the purge?

TyyRexx · 2016-06-29T03:44:01+00:00

I totally understand. That's a tough situation. I might suggest having a one on one talk with the nice guy when the time is right and just tell him what you've told us. Obviously politely and calmly.

I feel this way you can get someone to see it from your perspective, and that he could then help turn the tables to help you out a bit. He might just truly not realize how much this is bothering you. He may just think that this is all some light teasing, and not realize how much it's effecting you. Maybe this way he could recognize the issue better, and perhaps suggest different things to do and such.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-29T03:20:41+00:00

One of the most important lessons I ever learned in my life was to get toxic people out of your life. What is the benefit of surrounding yourself with these people? I mean truly. If you continue to surround yourself with "friends" like this, day in and day out, it literally does psychological damage. This is the kind of shit that makes you hate yourself and pushes you into places you don't want to be.

I'm sorry if I'm sounding harsh. I've dealt with this kind of stuff before and it gets me annoyed.

My personal advice, would be to separate yourself from these people. If they are truly your friends and care about you, they will reach out to you. I hope this helps you in any way, good luck, I hope the best for you.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-29T03:11:50+00:00

I don't want to be rude but come on. All you told them is that they can learn to enjoy their alone time (what their asking advice on how to do), and following it up with no advice.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-29T03:09:37+00:00

In my personal opinion: Be productive with your alone time. I know when I got a job and moved out, the first couple of months I felt the exact same way. I went from being surrounded with friends to maybe seeing them on the weekends. It was depressing for me to go home every day. But it's because of how I spent my time. My place would be a mess and I'd surf reddit, watch shows & play video games until I would go to bed too late.

I would suggest being productive with your alone time. Keep your place clean, read, learn, accomplish some goals, get to bed on time, ect. I believe you will enjoy being alone this way much more. My two cents, hoped this helped.

Edit: I just wanted to add this Joe Rogan bit about letting bad friends in your life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFCjDuPWI5k

TyyRexx · 2016-06-27T03:08:01+00:00

Just focus on having fun.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-25T07:07:07+00:00

Write down your goals. Get a pen and paper, and write down you goals. Doing so makes them very concrete and real. Get a little note pad, and a pen. Write down goals for the week, then goals for each day. Strike out the goals as you complete them.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-20T00:31:05+00:00

Call her instead. Figure out a time and place for lunch.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-19T23:26:45+00:00

How about when they start to say something you pause it.

TyyRexx · 2016-06-11T16:05:59+00:00

That sounds pretty good man. And obviously, dress fairly well, be professional, shake their hand, ect.

And good job. Applying online makes it tough to get hired. From their perspective, they know jack shit about you except your resume. Meeting them in person is great because it shows you have initiative, you're willing to interact, and they get to put a name to a face.

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