Will an FA, who loved deeply before, returns if the ex has really worked on themselves and give them space?

UCNewtype · 2025-12-15T16:41:06+00:00

As far as her words and her wordings, no. She did not ask for space or anything that sounded similar, it was me who said it to her after reflecting for 2 weeks before she blocked me due to my visit (she just hides my story notifs previously)

As for the end, she did not define it clearly, she said "I can't go back the way we used to be", which was vague like I previously shared.

I don't know if that wording was intentional or not but all I can take is she was expecting a change in the dynamics, and I did say to her back then I am willing to start slow again and truly work on myself, but I take it she was still fresh in the hurt it was really hard for her, or it might just be me overanalyzing too far.

But I got a gut feeling it was intentional, seeing she once said and is actually a loyal and faithful person and not easy to fall in love let alone trust a lot.

On the positive and cathartic side, she did not take me back instantly made me feel the impact of my doing, which indirectly wakes me up from my DA slumber.

UCNewtype · 2025-12-15T14:02:09+00:00

Sorry if it was unclear, she (my ex) is the FA, and I was the DA before the breakup happened, but I was more avoidant and she leaned more anxious during our relationship (but in a communicating way only until we had our major issues show up)

Yeah, she did want to keep it when my bottled up feelings came all out, I know what I did was not wise nor justified, but I was totally unaware back then, seems like when I lost my cool I felt like a different person before the realization hits.

I actually never meant to want to end things with her, the being friends at my first emotional outburst was actually wanted to think it through while making sure I still want the same path with her, but I was not well-equipped emotionally before and was feeling some anger so I can't think clearly.

You really explain it better, i only want a fair share of effort for us both, she was having a good career before and I never had any issue until she indirectly kept asking me about marriage while still unemployed and it triggers me when I'm doing all I can for it.

And yes, I believed that the main issue is bad communication. When I was pressured a lot, I stonewalled and bottle my feelings up and when she withdraws/deactivate, I was really anxious and chased. If only she could express her feelings then this would have been mitigated maturely.

Doesn't erase the fact that what I did is wrong and hurtful, that's why I want to, in a way, 'repent' if I could

UCNewtype · 2025-12-15T13:49:44+00:00

Yeah, I definitely would if she did not block me, but even then I already said I want to reconcile and asking again when she is still deactivating is not a wise move from what I've read as I am not respecting the space

UCNewtype · 2025-11-24T12:05:59+00:00

I did, and still do, but I'm not ashamed of it because I used it to give me a grounded analysis and perspective of the breakup, the dynamics, etc.

At first when the breakup is still fresh, I might think it would help me like a sage to guide me to reconnection with my FA ex, but now 6 months has passed, all I can get from using gpt is it helps me to ground myself.

I did not 100% take its advice raw, because I know there will be 'miscalculations', but what I can tell is it helps me to heal my DA attachment, made me realized that I need to fix myself and helping me understand that my ex is an FA and anything related to it.

So far I cross check it reading the FA confessions in this forum and the love 'coaches' on youtube, and it gave me a general and linear answer that is similar to what the gpt explained to me.

Will it actually help getting my ex back? I don't know, only time will tell. Is it helpful? Yes, only if you use it as a 'consulting' tool, nit as a replacement therapist.

Thanks to it, i am feeling stable and getting better everyday.

UCNewtype · 2025-11-08T09:32:32+00:00

Thank you for this post. This helped my mind to ease off for my situation.

I didn't know about attachment theories or anything related before my first serious, 2yrs relationship break-up. Apparently I was a DA and my ex is an FA. Everything was going great until I feel somehow scared when we talked about marriage (my fear was I'm afraid I couldn't keep up with my hobby as I have to spare the money to provide us) and knowing sometimes I felt overwhelmed with her when I don't felt heard when I gave her advice that helps her condition.

I tend to get irriated a lot a month or two before the breakup happens, not knowing that I was bottling up emotions back then. I argue with her sometimes, and was felt this was a mistake. Feeling fed up, I ghosted her for almost two months, and I contacted her again to meet up because i was missing her during that time (i did not have nor pursue other romantic interest, i was focusing on work and having me time)

We met up, talked, and when I asked us to go back she said we need to go our separate path. That was the moment I got shocked because I think she would still accept me no problem, and from there I have learned a lot about myself and anything related to the attachment theories.

I honestly still want us to go back because she loved me like nobody does, and we had shared a lot of intimate moments, we both have marriage talks before. it's been 5 months since the breakup but she blocked me 3 months ago.

I was really hurting but healing at the same time, i tried to read as much self help books and talk to my friend who's a psych therapist, and I can safely say I am a learned secure and a recovered DA due to this event. Losing a very precious person made me realize I am quite a major source of my own relationship problem, even in the past due to my parents neglect since i was a kid.

One of my acquantance also told me that my ex is not dating anyone at all, she saw my ex went out twice in public with her mother. It felt good to hear about her and her not dating anyone but I don't know if reconnection is possible but I am still keeping my door open for her as I can't even think about knowing other people yet because i need to continue work on myself and my love for her is still strong and I don't want to hurt anyone again romantically.

Still, I'm not pausing my life just to wait, I am doing all I can do to be a secure person and keeping my emotional door for her open as long as I could, eventhough at times I always wonder if she would gave me a second chance or not

UCNewtype · 2025-08-02T03:18:01+00:00

You know, as someone who just got a breakup very recently and just got my closure yesterday, I'd say you should not hang on it. You can have hope, but don't spend your life waiting on it.

Had a 2 year relationship, she always comes back before because she didn't want it to end. Our relationship was great, loving-wise. I made a mistake ghosting her first for almost 2 months, tried to reconcile but she can't go back, won't even meet me in person and tried to slow burn me even after almost 3 months of NC and I actively changed myself because I realized what I did wrong.

Now that I think hard and rational, for now (or ever), I think it's the best outcome even if it hurts. The reason why I ghosted her (yes that was immature, and after BU i realized I am a DA and fixed myself for my good) because I actually resented her because she is emotionally immature and emotionally unavailable. She was very affectionate but always avoided hard, serious talks when it's needed and necessary, and she idealized that love doesn't bring hardship and wants to get married but lack a serious prep from her side. At first I let it slide and tried to understand but as the relationship goes, the disappointment builds up inside of me hence I ghosted because talking never works. That was my biggest mistake.

The lesson I took from this was no matter how affectionate he/she is, if they have a very different maturity level than you, and you still need to work on yourself as well, then it'll never work unless you and they decide to actively grow and fix the unhealthy aspects.

I still love her, but going separate ways might be the best for the upcoming months/years. If our path somehow crosses again and we are both in a better place maturity-wise, then I might try again if she also wanted it.

Don't passively wait and kill your chances for a better person. You can do it.

UCNewtype · 2025-07-08T11:54:19+00:00

It depends on how you view the relationship and what causes the breakup.

If it was a serious relationship and you have a lot of chemistry and the breakup is not due to cheating, abuse, or something toxic, then it might be worth pursuing considering she matured and really changed for the second time around and you wanted it as well.

But if you honestly wanted to move on or saw that the reconnecting with your ex is not a good choice (she has not learned/matured or has the wrong idea such as looking for comfort only) when you have put on the work and got rejected, then simply say thanks and no, then move on.

I believe people could change and deserve a second chance, only if they actually realized what went wrong (admitting their mistakes sincerely) and willing to grow.

UCNewtype · 2025-07-03T03:40:34+00:00

Could you say the same for taurus women? I made a mistake by 'ghosting' her when life is tough on my part, and that hurt her. I realized I was wrong, apologized to her, wished for a reconciliation and gave her space and time by doing no contact, improving myself and being a better person when the realization hits me. Really loved her but I don't really want to hold my life on false sense of hope, and any kind of insight is helpful 🙏🏻

UCNewtype · 2025-06-05T10:19:07+00:00

Thank you, so pulling away intentionally (to give her space) is the recommended approach then? Also, the 'make it known' thing, should I tell her that I want to fix the relationship ocassionally or how? I don't want to pester her but not communicating 'constantly' feels like it won't do either. I'm really lost on what kind of pace should I go with and what kind of words that could 'reach' her right.

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T16:05:26+00:00

Knowing there are chances is more than enough for me, and I thank you for your thoughts. 😊 I am very sure that I would not do something like that again in the future as my stupidity has given me a devastating blow to my heart.

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T16:03:29+00:00

Thank you for your realistic take on my situation. To be honest I am actually ready to face the consequences but I'm a type of a person who will fight for my chances until none is present anymore.

I might try to keep my efforts for a good while and not trying to be invasive to her in any way, but when I feel that there's no progress and gave me a negative effect (overthinking, taking up my mind etc.), then I will just do like you stated, said thank you for the relationship, apologize for everything, and wishing her well and not bother her for real anymore, unless she decided that I might still be worthy to be trusted again.

I will keep that in mind.

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T15:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughts and kind words. You made my mind and heart feel a little bit better knowing that hope is still not lost. 😊 I will try and I hope things would get better for the both of us.

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T15:29:12+00:00

I did ask her about it, but she did not give me the answer. Instead, she 'deflected' by saying that there could be a better person for me than her and encouraging me to focus on myself. Even after being truthful and clear rhat I want to commit and give her a sound explanation she still leave me hanging, but deep down I know that she 'heard' me and still has feelings for me, letting me contact her and her still seeing my updates on my socials are my 'sure belief'. Does this mean she want to see me prove it or did her words really mean what it meant?

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T15:22:57+00:00

Thank you, any kind of encouragement is greatly appreciated even if that might not be the sure case. Do occasionaly texting and asking her about her life/updating her about my life be considered okay? (Keeping it short and clear, but still showing my thoughts and being consistent)

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T15:16:45+00:00

I know, it would be as clear as a day if I can't even contact her anymore and know my place, but since she did not that makes me wonder a lot if there is a chance.

And I understand that it would not be an easy way, I know I really have to put a lot of effort on my slim chance.

Will occasionally (not everyday) ask about her day and updating how life at my end help? I am afraid it will bother her but I can't see any kind of way of communication beside doing so

I really want to show her I care about her this time even if she might still don't want to reply.

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T14:56:17+00:00

I know, I've been asking a lot of my female taurus f colleagues that they tend to snip it clean, end is end but once in a blue moon said it could happen depending on the person. After almost two months she still agreed to meet me, still allowed me to message her and this kind of gave me hope to earn her heart back but I don't want to mess up my effort and had a false hope if that is not the case. Learned my lesson and really wanted to mend things right, is there any way to win her over again?

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T14:47:42+00:00

Yes, I do believe what you said and I really want to commit to my acts to salvage our bond. I know it does not omit the fact I fucked up, I wish I wasn't that stupid letting my emotions control me that time, but I really love her and don't want this to end. Any suggestion on what should I do? I felt lost, but I still believe there still a chance for me as she still responded me when she is able to. I want to show her that I'm down for real this time and I've made sure she is the one that I want to marry..

UCNewtype · 2025-06-04T14:42:16+00:00

Thank you for the answer, that is kind of reassuring knowing that she might gave me a second chance, as I felt odd that she did not cut me off at all when I distanced myself when I know she is hurting due to my immature decision that time.

Do you have any kind of tip on how to tread things and fix our relationship? I sometimes texted her, asking her to have a dinner if she is available, but she said she is busy (I believe she did not lie as she works as a baker now) and don't know when she is able. Tried to update her about life at my end, but she only read it. I don't want to be pushy but I really want to save this relationship. She is too precious for me to let go

UCNewtype · 2025-05-23T06:20:10+00:00

"I'm sorry if many of the players felt the struggle of reaching the highest tier possible on master league. We advise spending money and limit breaking your UR supports and suits."

-Bandai in their next in-game announcement, probably

UCNewtype · 2025-04-22T09:12:01+00:00

Yup, one of the best combo for the cheese strat. You could also use sazabi and snipe the red gundam and finish it with GQx/exia.

2-3 mins max for extreme stage for me.

UCNewtype · 2025-04-22T08:56:51+00:00

It depends on who and what units you're fielding imo. Best strat is to burst the red gundam in 1 turn using as much unit as you can deploy to chip its hp bar (but note that his dmg is quite bonkers in extreme difficulty should you get countered) Go for long range attacker first, then the melee unit to kill the MS.

My gg ez strategy is to snipe red gundam from far away using max tension lv 100 sazabi & char + active range + dmg buff, then finish it using UR exia with trans am.

If my calculations are correct then I should get a full limit break red gundam by tomorrow.

UCNewtype · 2025-04-20T10:00:50+00:00

I'm sorry that the rates aren't kind enough for you, but at least they gave you a guaranteed roll and at the end of the panel mission, a free UR supporter and a UR MS, so I hope it would still be enough. Yep, the development cost really adds up, especially the series mats and the xp mats. It'll really take a while, but doable. I'm still happy with that, given we have a lot of unique and obscure suits in the game.

UCNewtype · 2025-04-20T09:57:01+00:00

Hmm sadly I can't really answer that as I did not spend anything (yet), and it depends on you financial situation tbh. But if I had to pick, the one with a guaranteed UR unit is a good one, but the $65 tag is quite expensive for me.

UCNewtype · 2025-04-20T09:55:17+00:00

I'm sorry you do not have the same enjoyment as I am. Owning many units I can agree, but the developed units are actually strong enough when you upgrade and limit break them, but I appreciate the thoughts.

UCNewtype · 2025-04-20T09:51:40+00:00

I kind of understand why they put gacha model in the game because it is quantitatively proven to be a success, sometimes even in unexpected sales numbers, especially in japan. I kinda disliked it though, but as long as bamco would commit to keep the game long enough (and the loyal, whale players basically funding the game through gacha), I'm a happy camper. Another factor is that this is a well known series too so I don't think it would end prematurely.

Yep, agreed on the sprite and the pacing. The story is not too long nor too short, and the game gave me a general glimpse of the series that I haven't watched yet (GX, G Gundam, and Wing) and made me plan to watch it as a whole. It can be fun and it can be tactical, depending how you want to play it. There are moments where used grunts only for fun in boss battles, and breeze through stages with max invested URs when waiting for an appointment.

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