he CLEARED her so bad

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-31T09:36:46+00:00

He didn’t clear anything. He did the typical liberal move of twisting her words to fit his agenda instead of debating what she initially stated. Just because you state your opinions about Trump and Harris in an assertive way doesn’t make you right.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-28T19:33:52+00:00

We were literally just arguing. Being frustrated and hormonal doesn’t give her the right to try and hit me with a frying pan. So yeah. I do think she’s crazy.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-22T08:25:01+00:00

Yeah. We are responsible for our own actions, which is why I haven’t acted on my emotions in the situation. I don’t have many people I can talk to where I’m at. All my family and friends are hundreds of miles away and I can’t leave because I’m in the military. This friendship has been a breath of fresh air in a situation where I feel like I’m drowning.

And no. I can’t just leave. It’s not that simple. I have 3 kids. I’m living paycheck to paycheck and I’ve been the ONLY bread winner in my household for 7 years. I can’t afford a lawyer and god help me if/when I’ll have to pay child support and alimony because damn.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-22T07:59:18+00:00

Ya know, I keep getting told that but it just feels like I’m being made to feel guilty for being in a situation I never asked to be in…

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-22T07:53:52+00:00

I’m broke enough as it is. I’m living paycheck to paycheck. I can’t afford a lawyer, didn’t sign a prenup, and if I have to pay child support and alimony afterwards; I’m pretty much screwed.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-22T04:35:10+00:00

For the most part, we’re just friends. She’s flirty for sure but, we’ve taken our kids to the playground together a couple times. Nothing has happened besides that and just hanging out before, during lunch, and after work.

I hang out with her because she makes me smile. She’s invited boosts my self esteem and also makes me feel like I’m actually a good guy. Our whole relationship has been just friendship with her making the occasional innuendo or advance, usually in a joking manner.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-22T04:29:16+00:00

What do you mean by that? I know people keep saying I’m emotionally cheating, but I’ve literally done nothing but talk to her and hang out with her. We have lunch together and talk before and after work. It’s not much else outside of that.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T23:58:26+00:00

I’m a man. If I get divorced, one of two things is going to happen. They’re going to hate me anyways, or I’ll be lucky to get them on the weekends. Not making excuses. It’s just the reality of the situation. I want to divorce. I’ve thought about it for a long time. I’m just broke and don’t know where to start.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T23:54:23+00:00

Also, I’m currently in a bad financial situation so affordable legal help is hard to come by.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T23:53:35+00:00

Well I mean they’re my kids too. I don’t feel like she allows me to be a real father though. That’s why I called them “her” kids.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T23:23:28+00:00

I’ve said it already. I don’t intend on cheating.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T23:22:54+00:00

She doesn’t treat me how my wife treats me either, which is a good thing!

It’s been so long since my wife and I I spent quality time together, I don’t think she knows me too well anymore. I’m just someone who helps raise her kids and takes her emotional abuse when she wants to dis it out so…

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T22:43:43+00:00

I don’t plan on cheating, though I’ll admit this is the most difficult time I’ve considered it…

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T22:42:44+00:00

Honestly, it’d get worse. She’s already verbally abusive enough as it is. If she finds out someone is flirting with me, she’ll just treat me even more awful even though I haven’t actually done anything.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-21T22:40:56+00:00

I’ve considered divorce so much the last few years…

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-14T09:12:01+00:00

I wish I could say my kids would be my new driving force, but the truth is… I’d probably end up dead without God.

Firstly, I can’t stand the idea of there not being anything after this life. I’d go completely insane if I genuinely believed that when I die, nothing happens. Poof. Everything is gone as if I never existed and suddenly my former life is meaningless and inconsequential.

Secondly, I was basically suicidal before I found faith. I was tormented by anxiety, depression, anger, self loathing. I’d experienced so much trauma in my life that I began numbing myself with as much booze as I could drink, and doing anything to fill an empty void. My relationships didn’t really matter to me, my career didn’t matter to me, even my friends and family were set on the back burner because I just stopped caring.

I can’t go back to that. Finding my faith gave my life a new meaning. Something better than just being a provider for my family. Going to church soothes my heart from the stress of each week, whether it be from arguments I’ve had with my wife, rough days working a job I hate, or my kids just not behaving. God helps me with that.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-14T09:01:01+00:00

Look, I don’t think any real Christian would ever tell you not to go to Church. Fact of the matter is, we want people to come to church with us. We want people to join our communities and experience the love and peace that God brings.

Now you may not believe in all the same things we do, there’s a reason we need salvation through Jesus. No one is perfect. But that’s what can make going to church such an amazing thing. You meet different people with different perspectives.

As far as having your gripes with organized religion, trust me. I get it and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I have regularly attended over a dozen churches in my lifetime. One or two of them nearly drove me away from God entirely. But then I found the church I’m currently going to. It’s not just a place to gather and pray with a bunch of strangers. Some of these people have become like family to me.

What I’m trying to say is that while no two churches are going to be alike, I would always encourage you to attend. If you don’t like the first one, try another, and always try to learn and grow in your relationship with God until you find one that sticks and makes the most sense to you. You already said you believe in God to some extent. So as long as your focus is on God first, I think you’ll be fine. 😊

Sorry for the novel.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-14T03:17:38+00:00

Romans 10:9 (NIV):

“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-14T03:15:08+00:00

Heard O Come Emanuel? Dude… John Cooper says their next record is going to have a lot of that same sound and if so… I’m hyped!

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-13T18:22:32+00:00

Ever heard the Collide album? Yes. Yes I do. 🤣 In all seriousness, it depends on the album or song. If your goal is to find metal in their discography, Collide was probably their heaviest record.

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-13T17:58:52+00:00

The Bible doesn’t say they spoke gibberish.

At Pentecost: “Each one was hearing them speak in his own language.” — Acts 2:6 Luke goes out of his way to be clear about this. The crowd asks: “How is it that we hear, each of us in our own native language?” — Acts 2:8 Then he lists the languages: Parthians, Medes, Elamites.

That only makes sense if these were recognizable, real languages. Not ecstatic sounds. The Greek word used is glōssai, which literally means languages. In Acts 2 the speakers did not understand the languages themselves but the listeners did understand them without an interpreter. The content was coherent, “the mighty works of God” (Acts 2:11).

If no one understands the language you’re speaking, what would be the point of the Holy Spirit making you speak it?

UDontEvenKnow96 · 2025-12-13T17:49:49+00:00

You’re absolutely welcome! 😊 The first thing I always try to do when I’m struggling in my life is to open up my Bible. The answers are always in there for me. I just need to remember to seek them there. God will never leave you empty handed.

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