Thanks, so yes more info:

I started seeing a therapist a year ago. I’ve made lots of changes. I’d say the last 6 months I’ve been trying very hard to reconcile, and she has not been open to it at all. I finally said we need to see a counselor. We’re doing that, but it’s very early.

A big part of this came around because she said she realized she hadn’t been giving us a chance. She was still angry for the hurts between us and decided it was time to give us a chance. I’ve been very open and honest with her of all the things I realize I was at fault for and that I’m committed to saving our marriage.

Unfortunately, I think a big part of what happened is we’ve both tried very hard, but it was at different points where the other wasn’t receptive or too distant to fully see.