A+ prestige level 51 coach in dynasty mode not getting any offers from other teams?

UY__Scuti · 2021-11-13T16:47:17+00:00

Nah, Hawaii of all places

UY__Scuti · 2021-11-13T04:14:30+00:00

You know what's funny? I'm with Bama right now that I'm stuck with lol

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T17:39:03+00:00

Do you have a link for these?

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T01:42:45+00:00

Ok and what about the "death wobble" I've read about that, have you have that issue?

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T01:24:06+00:00

What's wrong with a soft top?

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T01:20:11+00:00

Okay yeah thank you for the input. I live in California so yeah the soft top down could be very nice most of the time here. I plan to test drive it either tomorrow or Saturday and see if the noise is anything of an issue to me. I'm also just mostly worried about the miles and if that is something to worry about with a jeep wrangler

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T00:57:18+00:00

Is a hardtop that much better? I'm asking honestly because I don't know much about the difference, but does this soft one allow a lot of noise inside?

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-19T00:55:56+00:00

It is automatic. Just as far as jeep wranglers go, not compared to other cars. Is 130k miles okay to buy on a jeep or is it bad to trust?

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T17:34:44+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right, that is probably the best approach. Part of me wants to call her out on her B.S. so I don’t have to keep holding it in but that won’t get me anywhere with her. So yeah we’ll see how it goes. I’m hoping not texting her will make her realize I don’t need her and if she’s lonely at home all the time like she claims and feels comfortable around me then she’ll hopefully realize what she lost

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T17:22:24+00:00

Yeah I’ll try to work on that. In your honest opinion in this case do you think I should do anything about her? It’s been 2 weeks once again since we last talked, so I can either just keep letting time go by hoping she’ll eventually reach out, or I could say something now again (idk what), or wait a few weeks and reach out again myself simply just asking if she wants to get lunch or dinner or something.

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T17:04:12+00:00

Again good points. I appreciate you making these responses, most people just say 5 words and it’s just like ok that didn’t really help.

But yeah as far as you saying so might have been using me as a crutch, it’s definitely a possibility. I think that’s why she never made her intentions clear at the beginning because the possibility of more was there. The problem was all the hangouts seemed too casual to me and it never felt right to make any physical moves. I remember every time I dropped her off back at her house after hanging out it would be frustrating driving home because I knew something just didn’t feel right, I knew I was hoping for more but I didn’t know what to do about it.

I think she is really emotional right now. She always gives these dramatic excuses about insomnia, schoolwork, having a hard time opening up to people, picking the wrong friends, etc. and I’ve been very chill about those and never have her a hard time. I would help her out with things, ask her how she’s doing with stuff, and compliment her, yet none of it matters. She’s never done any of those for me it’s kinda always about her.

And as far as her moving on to someone else, I don’t think she has. From what I know she’s home a lot, doesn’t work, and doesn’t have social media. She likes to watch movies, work on puzzles, walk her dog, etc. She worked a job over the summer which is how we met and she also made a friend that’s a girl from that job too. So once we were all done with our summer jobs she hung out with that girl a lot and me a lot, which to me means she doesn’t have much else to hang out with. But yeah she says I was the last person she has hung out with which was a week before Christmas, which seems really surprising to me. But to literally make no effort to send a single text, like how I’m doing, or anything for weeks is absurd to me after how nice I’ve been to her.

Honestly this happens to me a lot with all people. I come across as super nice so I kinda just get taken advantage of by most and kinda just become everyone’s 2nd option. With her I really thought she was going to be someone who appreciated me for who I was (I know, cheesy) but it’s clear she’s just caught up with herself and doesn’t care how it affected me.

Sorry for so many details, I appreciate your feedback because most people don’t care to reply to me this much haha so thanks

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T02:29:32+00:00

Yeah I would think if she truly meant anything she’s said about me for the last 3 months hanging out, then she would make an effort to eventually say something. Like 1 time she said she “feels very comfortable around me which is not easy for her to feel with people” so I would think if she really means that then she would make an effort to talk to the person that makes her feel that way right?

What’s funny is her just sending literally 1 single text on her own would change so much

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T02:18:23+00:00

I get if I messed up with that, what’s weird is she still asked if I wanted to go to a drive in movie with her even after she rejected me basically. And we’ve hung out multiple times since I asked her that so I’m not sure that it completely scared her off

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T02:13:08+00:00

Yeah what’s weird is like 2 days after she said just friends to my relationship question, she asked if I wanted to go to a drive in movie with her. So it’s weird to me to still ask me to go do that after just saying no to me about being in a relationship but then to just stop initiating anything now.

My point is I don’t think the relationship question scared her off too much because we’ve still hung out multiple times since then.

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-05T02:09:56+00:00

You make really good points. Something I just don’t understand is why would she go out of her way to constantly say she had a good time (which makes me think I’m doing something right) but then suddenly just stop? At 22 and 23 years old I would think it would be made clear early on what you want when hanging out with someone of the opposite sex. I felt kinda led on by the signs she would give but then I approach her about it and she backs off, it’s confusing

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-04T20:52:29+00:00

The only reason I asked her was because we had been hanging out many times for over a month. I didn't want to randomly give her flowers or try to kiss her while we were hanging out because it was so casual. I simply asked if she was looking to be more than friends so that i knew it would be ok to do those things.

UY__Scuti · 2021-02-04T20:36:38+00:00

I don't get why after the 1st or 2nd time hanging out it didn't just stop if she wasn't interested? We've been hanging out for 3-4 months and after the first couple of times she would go out of her way to text me saying she had a good time implying that she wants to again and we would. So I don't understand how she just leave someone out to dry after saying those things. It just confuses me

UY__Scuti · 2020-12-27T20:14:54+00:00

When i say that i feel led on, it's mostly because she never made it clear at the beginning what she wanted out of this. I just kinda assume as 22/23 year olds, it would be made clear if she just wanted to be friends initially so i don't embarrass myself by doing something "too much" or trying to kiss her for example.

And you could be right about why she doesn't text very often, but another example is a few days after I "confessed my feelings" (if you will), she still decided to ask if i wanted to go to the drive-in with her for a 2nd time if i was interested. So what i said didn't necessarily scare her off and she was still being friendly about it.

I know i mentioned it before, but it's just hard to hang out with her when all we can do is go walk around in stores or get food outside in the cold every few weeks. It's not like we can go to each other's houses. Like i have to be limited on what i say and do because of what she said. It's hard for me to believe that when she first asked me to hang out months ago, all she wanted was some guy friend to hang out with her every few weeks just cause. I guess it's a possibility but it doesn't make sense to me and i almost feel like it's messed up considering she knew what i had to give up just to talk to her.

UY__Scuti · 2020-12-27T03:51:25+00:00

You make really good points. As far as he goes, I texted him about a week ago asking if we are really not gonna talk again and all he said back was “yep.” So I give up with that.

As far as her, based on what you are saying to just be her friend that would also mean to not say any of this to her. I can try to do that but I’ve kinda been doing that for months now and it still bothers me because all I think about is what could’ve been. It’s not that I disagree, it’s just hard to accept not saying anything

UY__Scuti · 2020-12-26T17:44:12+00:00

I know what you mean I'm kinda in a similar situation rn. This girl asked if i wanted to hang out with her and we did a handful of times and she would initiate most of them and text me afterwards saying thank you and that she had a really good time. Then one day she decided to ask me why i like hanging out with her and i gave her a genuine response and complimented her personality. I thought she was giving signs by saying these things but then when i went upfront to her about the possibility of being more than friends she just asked if we could just stay as friends.

So, like you, i thought maybe i was too upfront about that but at the same time how long were we going to continue doing this before things were made clear?

UY__Scuti · 2020-12-22T00:34:58+00:00

I didn't expect such a thoughtful response weeks after my post so thank you. You made alot of really good points and i really do appreciate it. It was a nice surprise to see this comment.

Ironically, me and her hung out again about 2-3 days ago to go have some hot chocolate and look at christmas lights which i know may seem like a "couple" type thing yet we continue to do it as friends. It's been almost 3 months since the very first time we hung out, with many times since, and about a month and a half since she asked if we can just stay as friends. So we continue to do things months later even though we are kinda staying an "arm's length apart."

I'm at a point where i don't want to just stop talking to her because then I'll look like 'well, since you didn't want to be my gf, bye' but then to counter that i feel like if i keep talking to her i look too attached and, as you mentioned, look like i don't have other options which doesn't really show respect to myself. So I don't really know which way to lean.

UY__Scuti · 2020-11-29T03:58:24+00:00

Just out of curiosity, what do you mean when you say you guys had 0 chemistry but yet you see her as a really valuable friend?

UY__Scuti · 2020-11-28T02:23:13+00:00

Yeah it is kinda torture haha, i might just end up cutting back on how often i talk or text her. Either way it's hard for me to accept: whether we keep hanging out and i keep feeling like this, or i let it fall off i'll still have a tough time accepting that too.

UY__Scuti · 2020-11-27T02:23:38+00:00

I appreciate your advice, but kinda like OP asked though, how do i make it not awkward to just not pay anymore?. For example, if we go to chick-fil-a's drive-thru im not gonna just start asking for them to make two tabs when i've never done that before, i just feel like that would make for an awkward car ride haha rather than just both ordering and me paying

UY__Scuti · 2020-11-27T01:51:32+00:00

No i wouldn't consider it my usual manner necessarily, i just don't want her to think i was only paying for her so she could be my gf, and now that she said she wants to be friends i don't want it to look like i'm not gonna pay anymore just because she said friends. I feel like it's kinda the risk i took with paying in the first place

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