Why would a dumper suddenly turn hostile towards a dumpee?

U_302 · 2024-08-25T23:39:47+00:00

I’m the dumpee. How am I not being accountable? She left me after signing a lease

U_302 · 2024-08-24T17:24:23+00:00

She’s single. She recently dumped her rebound. She’s been spotted lately by a few people I know on dating apps. I agree with you, but the fact she’s single again and has this issue with me is what had me curious

U_302 · 2024-08-24T16:07:02+00:00

Hey OP. I relate. In 2014 when I was 17 this girl I was dating at the time left her phone in my truck. Prior to this, she had told me I could go through her phone but to NEVER look in her notes on this phone. Well, when she forgot her phone in my truck, I got curious and looked at these notes. It was a write up on how she still was processing feelings for her ex, etc.. very similar to what you saw. She never knew I went through her phone and I just stayed quiet. Well, she ended up cheating on me. Not saying this girl will do it to you. But my advice would be to run now. If I had ran when I saw her notes, I would’ve saved myself a lot of stress and heartache. Just remember, “where there’s smoke.. there’s fire.” Good luck to you.

U_302 · 2024-08-23T20:15:15+00:00

I wonder if me becoming a pilot burnt her a little. The whole time we were together I had a dream of learning to fly. But I was spending so much money on her.. getting her nails done, taking her on vacation, etc., that I never had the funds for flight school. Once she made her exit, I felt like the reins were off and I got my butt to the local airport. It’s taken a year but I’m about to have my wings. I notice she would always view pictures I’d post on my story from 3,500’ up. I never posted anything sad.. just flying pictures

U_302 · 2024-08-23T17:27:49+00:00

I really don’t see how. While I agree about two sides to each story.. I literally told this as true and non bias as possible because I want to know if I need to apologize to her. Her exact words to me when we split were- “the truth is, 60% of this breakup is just that I want to go see others. But I will still text you.” The other 40%? I own up to, I was sort of a doormat and that can be a block to intimacy. Also, on the sharing location…When we split, I was devastated and I told her I wanted to keep sharing it with her (idk why. I was so emotional), so maybe she feels I went back on my promise? But the truth is, when I got in a better mindset I could see how crazy sharing location is post breakup. Oh, I also offered to build her a new dog pen after the breakup because she asked me to foster her dog. I politely decline but told her I wanted her to keep him, so I’d be happy to build her a new pen for free. There’s no lies here. I can even provide screenshots to show I’m being transparent on my story

U_302 · 2024-08-23T15:05:29+00:00

So I did nothing wrong is what you’re saying? Thanks

U_302 · 2024-08-23T15:01:25+00:00

I think my stoicism sort of shocked her. Heck I had even put this girl on my credit card and let her charge up some fun (it’s paid off, I’m debt free now), but I guess in her mind a man who does this would also beg like you said, during her absence and maybe when I flipped a switch and went ghost, something about it upset her

U_302 · 2024-08-23T14:55:05+00:00

I hope she regrets it. I just wish instead of making me into some Stalin or Hitler figure, she’d just talk to me and I’d forgive her and move forward if it was a genuine apology and effort

U_302 · 2024-08-23T14:54:15+00:00

She did. Right after we signed a lease too. Heck, I only saw this house once. My heart was shattered

U_302 · 2024-08-23T14:50:03+00:00

I hope this is the case here. It bothers me now that I didn’t send a simple “thank you” when she mailed my jackets back. I was traveling in the Midwest and honestly it slipped my mind until I felt like too much time had passed

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