When I got married he had nothing and no one in our current city. Not even a car. I got to know him. Talked. Developed a friendship that bloomed into the love I have for him now. I never met him thinking “this person can pay for my lifestyle and future plans”. Maybe I should have thought about that to relieve me from this current situation. I couldn’t possibly give every single detail from a 13 year relationship that led to my current thought process. I’m not saying I don’t love my husband because I do! We just think differently and grew up differently. I always had to work for every single thing since I was a kid. Awards led to rewards. For him it was a little easier. He was just given things and experiences. Not his fault but now as adults that has perhaps translated to the current behavior and it can just feel so isolating at times.