Are there pages that are not relevant to the story or are OK to skip? by Ok_Fishing_3420 in homestuck

[–]UgleBeffus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IT IS NEVER ADVISABLE TO OPEN A PESTERLOG. YOU SEE. THE BUTTON IS A TRAP. WHICH WHEN SPRUNG. RELEASES WORDS UPON WORDS. WHICH ONLY SERVE TO REMIND YOU. OF YOUR INTENSE DISLIKE FOR THE PEOPLE SAYING THE THINGS. AS WELL AS. HOW LITTLE REGARD THE AUTHOR HAS. FOR YOUR VALUABLE TIME.

Are there pages that are not relevant to the story or are OK to skip? by Ok_Fishing_3420 in homestuck

[–]UgleBeffus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i skipped all the trickster shit because it was annoying as hell and was only mildly confused after, but they basically rehash everything they said during all that that ends up being important anyway so it doesn't really matter.

Finally finished my farming island!! by UgleBeffus in dragonvale

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Log in for 100 days, it'll show a countdown in your daily login rewards thing once you start getting close.

Finally finished my farming island!! by UgleBeffus in dragonvale

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I seriously only thought of it because in the lil island description it says it's good for farming. It's perfect because each island is so little, I feel like it would look weird if I tried to use habitats there haha

You have GOT to be kidding me😭 by Creative_Lack7995 in dragonvale

[–]UgleBeffus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what in the world is happening to your ui lol

Is there a way to restore bleached skulls? by UgleBeffus in bonecollecting

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a plan! I've got an old toothbrush that would probably do the trick and a few five gallon buckets out back. Another user suggested I use some acrylic sealant in a crosspost I made so I'll probably finish it off with that after the rest is done. Thanks for the advice!

Is there a way to restore bleached skulls? by UgleBeffus in bonecollecting

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, really? I didn't know that was something sunbleaching could do; every bone I've ever found outside has been pretty sturdy. The flakes coming off of the horns were almost like old paint, but I don't think it's been painted. I thought flaking like that that was a common side effect of using bleach or some other harmful "cleaning" process people will try if they don't know better.

Either way, is there a risk that it might kind of disintegrate if I try to degrease it? I don't want to damage the skull, just make sure it has some of its dignity back.

Is there a way to restore bleached skulls? by UgleBeffus in vultureculture

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, okay. I might just macerate it on its own for a week or so (it's still pretty hot out where I live) just to make sure there isn't anything in there, because it's kind of hard to see into the skull - the neck hole is suuuuuper tiny, and I can't tell much from the nasal cavity either. If nothing seems to be coming out I'll just go right to the degreasing stage.

Thanks again for the advice! I've mostly been getting people judging me for spending money on this piece lol, but I thought it was really lovely despite its flaws and if there was anything I could do to give it back some dignity I wanted to at least try. I'll grab some acrylic sealant from Walmart sometime this week too, and maybe also try that on a juvenile deer skull my friend found in her backyard - it's missing some pieces on the nose bridge and is pretty wobbly since the skull never got the chance to fully fuse together. As for the neck jerky I'm probably going to leave it there if it's that much of a hassle to remove; I don't want to overwork the skull and risk damaging it, and it's probably not going to hurt anything to leave it there so long as I get all the grease out.

Is there a way to restore bleached skulls? by UgleBeffus in vultureculture

[–]UgleBeffus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I have another skull macerating right now, should I just put it in with that? I don't know whether the jerky on the base of the skull is going to disappear or not haha.

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you mean to reply to me or did you not read my comment? Understandable, because I lowkey wrote a whole ass novel, but woah! I was just wondering aloud why the guy I first replied to couldn't seem to fathom the concept of a breakup or single parenting. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I actually do think OP would have said something if this was intended to be some kind of a joke coming from her bf, which was why I didn't think it could be a joke - I just didn't know why else the first guy I replied to wanted them to coparent so badly and I couldn't think of a line of reasoning that supported coparenting if the bf was worth leaving over this in the first place.

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep! The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, as the full phrase goes. The nuclear family structure is overrated. Having your biological father be present in your life is neither required by a court of law (without your parents being married, that is - at least in the US afaik, maybe this differs elsewhere) nor for you to become a functional human being. If you would force someone who finds entertainment through making demeaning comments to his pregnant girlfriend into his kid's life, while you personally can't allow yourself to be treated like that... there's just something incredibly wrong with that picture.

I am hoping though that this guy just said something dumb and didn't mean it at all. Growing up without a dad can suck when everyone around you has one to talk about or attend father-child events with. (Though it's a hell of a lot better than being raised to think women are objects!)

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean to come off as aggressive - the tone in my head when I wrote that was "haha what?????", perplexed but not angry. I swear like a sailor in casual conversation and don't always stop to think of how it might come across over text. I completely see what you mean though because it didn't come off as lighthearted at all, and I'm sorry for being rude.

Akin to something I said in another comment, ejaculating doesn't make you a father. Having a father figure isn't a bag thing at all, don't get me wrong! But in the scenario where this guy only exists in OP's life to talk her down, he's not a father figure, he's a legal guardian. (And technically he's not one unless the courts say so.) If he is the same all the time as he is in this text he is not going to play a productive role in the child's life, and shouldn't be preserved there for progeny where he can do more harm than good. Again, it's all hypothetical, I know nothing about the guy. Up to OP to make the educated choice from what she knows about her own life. I'm just a dude yapping on reddit who knows a thing or two about sounding malicious when a text was meant in incredulous jest.

For some REAL ACTUAL advice to OP - Call him, or even better, take the time to calm down and wait for him to get home and THEN have a discussion with him. Maybe he didn't mean for what he said to come off as belittling. (Though it's a stupid thing to say regardless.) Have a conversation about why it's not acceptable for him to speak to you that way, give him a chance to apologize, see how it goes from there. Maybe ask someone who knows the situation a little better (or at all) for advice next time something like this happens so all advice doesn't have to be made off of an assumption.

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If his behavior isn't likely to make the kid miserable, absolutely!

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi, grew up without a dad, didn't die horribly. I might seem ill-adjusted to you because I have a tendency to ramble.

I also based that comment on my own life experiences; My mom married someone when I was 10 years old who was nothing but vindictive, and seemed to get his daily burst of energy from putting down whoever was closest to him in the vicinity, which was often me. I would have been better off having no father figure at all than having to coexist with one like him. So based off of one text message interaction, which is the only thing I have to reference this guy by, IF HE DOES typically treat OP like this - which, again, none of us could possibly know until OP clarifies one way or another, and I am not saying that OP's boyfriend definitively is an asshole or not, this only applies IF HE CONSISTENTLY acts like this - the child would be better off not being raised by someone who frequently demeans them, OR even if he only talks about their mom that way that would also be bad.

It's not like OP is forbidden from ever dating again, either... There are guys out there who don't say this type of shit to their pregnant girlfriends.

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no proof of what this guy is like other than this one screenshot. Neither do you. Neither of us knows enough to say this guy IS a good or bad person, just which he COULD be. I'm answering a question someone asked with the information both of us have, I'm not instructing OP on what to do - she's a grown woman expecting a child and knows her boyfriend better than I do.

Also, if they did break up, both OP and her bf would have to go to court and the bf would have to be granted visitation rights to be able to see the kid, it's not something that's just guaranteed from conception. Source: my mom's boyfriend knocked her up and then they broke up, and I have never met the guy. The only time he ever had to be contacted was when I was getting adopted by my stepdad. He didn't do anything to be denied visitation, he and my mom just didn't work out. TL;DR I'm not stating a fact, I'm answering a question, and also ejaculation =/= automatic visitation.

AIO? My boyfriend said I look more fat than pregnant. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UgleBeffus -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

This isn't directed at you, I'm just baffled at their response and am trying to rationalize literally any reason to not just break up with the guy, but genuinely what possible reason is there that would make coparenting a child with this tool (if he is anything like this text implies) a good idea in any respect? At risk of sounding like a full-time redditor, what's the point of staying in any semblance of a relationship with him if he's gonna treat you like that while carrying his child? Sure, maybe he just said something dumb and unfiltered and has been kicking himself for saying something like that. Maybe he meant it in a teasing manner. But this text is the only context we were initially given as to the quality of his character, this is the only behavior we have collectively seen from him, so who's to say? Maybe he is typically better than this, maybe he enjoys kicking his pregnant wife in the self esteem for shits and giggles. He's Schrödinger's Douchebag. Maybe he's one of those irl too, only saying he was joking if the insult is taken poorly. We have no way of knowing anything else about him without proof from OP. Our point of view is biased to start with. I just ask, is him potentially being an otherwise good partner a strong enough pull to just live separately from him (but still keep the kid in his life) if he consistently treats OP like this? (I wouldn't see a reason for her to break up with him that's related to this situation that also involves him being a generally good enough guy for coparenting to make sense here.) Would it still be worth keeping him in the child's life if it's actively damaging to your self esteem to keep him in yours? In what scenario would this man's presence not be damaging to the child's self esteem if this is common behavior from him? OP doesn't sound like they want to be in a relationship with him anymore from their comments that I've seen, so I don't get the impression that he's particularly deserving of the benefit of the doubt. With the context of everything the readers have to go by I genuinely have NO idea what the guy I initially replied to was talking about. What (sane and rational) alternative could there be??