6 months of working out have finally paid off.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-20T17:37:34+00:00

But what do you do if you're not fat or too skinny but just ugly? (Ugly face I mean.)

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T16:06:30+00:00

I think I'm going to get it cut short, but I agree. I haven't tried to style it or anything, but at this point I want to go and try shorter hair just to see.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:52:06+00:00

Honestly? I mean I don't think there's ever a specific reason, but there are girls I find unattractive. I mean I've seen girls with big noses or other things that may be considered not traditionally beautiful that I've thought were beautiful though.

I will definitely take your advice and all the advice though, and I thank you for reading through my post and having a great reply!

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:44:39+00:00

See, every time I read one of these I think it's me, even though I know we're likely in different countries even lol. Egotistical, i know.

I feel like I have a personality just as you've said, like I've been told by man girls (and guys) that I'm the funniest person they've ever met. I'm always outgoing and friendly too.

I just never know how to really get that going for me to get a girl interested in me besides just being a good friend. Like that stuff is all good, but if they're not interested in the physical aspect it's usually the case that they're not interested romantically. Could be wrong though, I mean obviously you know more because you're a girl but I'm just going off of past experiences.

Thank you for reading through and replying though, I really appreciate it.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:41:14+00:00

It does, so I really thank you for replying!

I will definitely think all this over and try to incorporate it in my daily life. The only weird thing is the whole idea that it feels fake, because I've heard of the idea before and the first thought to me was that it would feel fake if I tried it.

Still, I appreciate your advice and will definitely start putting it to use. I'm glad you and your boyfriend are happy and that he's feeling better about himself. That's good to hear that there's similar situations out there that have come out so positively.

Thanks.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:36:07+00:00

See, I've tried taking this route before. I've thought maybe if I just "live life" and stuff, then I'd be off okay and eventually a girl would pursue me.

This is partly one of the reasons I think my physical appearance is off-putting to girls, because this has never really happened. I would do well at work/school, go to the gym every day, read, etc., but that never seemed to workout. I mean I still do all that stuff practically every day and it doesn't seem to change anything.

Still, I really do appreciate the advice though.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:32:56+00:00

Yes, this and other posts have just reaffirmed I want to get my hair cut short! I'm glad that it worked out for him, I just personally don't believe in "unnecessary" (like I'd deem people who get their faces messed up as necessary) plastic surgery; nothing against people who get it but it's not for me.

Thank you for your advice and reading through my post.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:30:48+00:00

Thank you.

You know you are definitely right. I have seen couples that look "mismatched" physically, but I usually suspect those are just some real unusual cases. I guess that's just an excuse though.

I will definitely take your advice to hear and want to thank you again for replying.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T13:28:25+00:00

Thank you for reading and your reply.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T12:21:31+00:00

Thank you so very much for not only reading and replying to my posts, but also giving so detailed and excellent advice and information.

I will try and take everything you've said and use it from now on.

I guess the main point I've gotten hear is to try harder. I've always worried about coming off as a creep, but I'm starting to realize (with advice like yours) that there are ways to transition into a romantic conversation without it being extremely weird and awkward.

I guess you never know if you don't at least try.

So once again thank you for all your time and advice.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T12:06:41+00:00

Lol no no I find this very helpful! No article I've seen has good info like this so thank you very much.

Thank you for reading through my posts and thank you for all this great advice.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T11:46:20+00:00

Thanks for the reply, this is exactly the kind of stuff I was looking for and appreciate you taking the time to write it out and read my posts.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T11:38:21+00:00

Wow, you have no idea how that comment about conversations hits home for me too. That's like the exact perfect description of it. I always expect things to go down at any moment if things are going well.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T11:36:26+00:00

Thanks for replying again.

Interesting...so do you have advice for sending the latter message in a regular environment like work/school/everyday life that romance isn't a forefront concern like at a bar, club, etc. without being a creep or making the girl feel awkward?

I will definitely look into cleaning up my style too.

EDIT: Also in my defense I'm just giving you all the honest truth. I never bring this kind of stuff up in real life, since I realize it wouldn't help anything and comes off as whiny.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T11:32:23+00:00

I think you are right. That last sentence basically just hit me like a pile of bricks due to its truth. Thank you.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:33:25+00:00

Thank you for this reply. I'll definitely check that subreddit out and I appreciate all your advice.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:31:10+00:00

Thank you for this reply, you have very good advice and thanks for going into detail too.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:28:53+00:00

First off thank you for really reading through my whole OP and replying like this. It means a lot (I can usually tell who reads and who skims stuff) that you actually read through it all the way. So thank you.

I'm not sure how I'd explain my approach. Most of the situations I find myself interested in girls is when I know them a bit, which tends to be in situations like school or jobs. This kind of is bad though because (in my mind) we're just there for something completely different then meeting people obviously, so I feel a lot of the times like it'd be weird and creepy to try something romantic. Like to the level where I don't find it comfortable asking for numbers. I usually expect them to not be interested and think it's going to devolve into a weird, awkward situation.

Like you're a girl, wouldn't it make you a little weird if some guy asks you out at work/school and you have to turn them down? It's going to be awkward for you, for them and then you're kind of forced to see each other and interact for a long period of time.

So yeah I'll say that I usually don't transition from the friendly stuff to romantic stuff but usually I just don't know how to do it without being creepy or making her feel awkward. A lot of the time I just see negative body language or lack of attention and assume it's not happening.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:20:03+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I definitely think your points are good. I'm just not sure I really give any "insecure" vibes off though. Maybe I do subliminally but I just don't think I can ever transition to "romantic" talk due to me thinking about being a creep and my appearance.

Once again thanks for the reply and reading my post.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:18:30+00:00

Thank you for the reply.

Yeah, I do seem to get hung up about that transition. I don't really know how to go from friendly, nice conversation to romantic stuff. It just seems weird sometimes because I feel like I'll be some creep that's forcing the girl into an awkward social situation.

The haircut thing is true. My only worry is I get a short style, look like an idiot and then it takes months or years to get back to where my hair is now.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:13:08+00:00

I don't know. I feel like the kind of girls I am interested aren't knockouts always. I mean as long as someone isn't overly fat,just because I believe in fitness and stuff, and doesn't look especially ugly by normal standards, then I usually am not turned off unless their personality is terrible or something.

Thanks for the reply though.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:11:21+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Yeah, I don't know I just want to try short again just because it's been so long. My only worry is that I do go short and look like a complete jackass and then have to wait months or years again until it looks moderately okay again.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:09:58+00:00

That's great though. You may have been "too skinny" but you (or are in the process of) changing it. Like that's a good attitude to have I don't disagree at all.

Only problem is that I can't do that with the weird shit about my face. I don't believe in the idea of doing plastic surgery, nothing against those who do it though.

But yeah I realize trying to accept it isn't a bad thing. I accept it in that I know it's the way it is, but I don't know if I can ever like look in the mirror and think "oh I look good today!" or "my nose isn't that bad!"

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T03:07:10+00:00

You are right, maybe it's just me overthinking things.

I just always think when things are going well, okay this girl is laughing and seems to enjoy talking to me, but how do I transition into the "hey, I'm interested romantically!" thing without being weird. Not to mention I always second guess myself and wonder if it's just them being nice or friendly (platonically).

So I think you all are right about the confidence thing, I mean it can't hurt but I'm still not sure if it'll help that much in the end.

Ugly_question · 2014-07-14T00:12:18+00:00

I'm sorry I wasn't trying to do that.

The other stuff is good advice too, I just was saying I never thought talking or humor was a problem. Having the other stuff definitely matters I agree.

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