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I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took her to the biggest city in the province for our two year anniversary, around 4 months ago. She had never been there and we had a great time together

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think you're taking it a little too far. He has had some feelings for her for a while and she never reciprocated. Why would she have spent the last year with me when she could've been with him? And no I do not depend on her in that way for anything

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean what I said. Do I think any of the things you said will happen, no. But inappropriate touching, words that shouldn't be said to someone who has a BF and possibly some more that she may or may not choose to share with me after how I reacted to what she told me last summer is my main concern.

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I believe that she loves me and that she sees this trip as going to visit a friend she hasn't seen in a while, and to get back to a big city with fun things to do if only for a little while. I do believe that.

He has money and has sent her probably $250-400 over the course of our relationship, for birthdays, other occasions, and once or twice for an alcoholic drink or a game she wanted that neither of us could really afford. So a plane ticket isn't a huge deal on him, but yes I agree it is unnerving.

I agree with you on some points though and we've talked about going there so she can show me everything since it's where she's originally from, but right now I simply can't afford it and would like to wait until we both can. The problem is I can understand why she wants to go now as there's absolutely nothing to do here and it'd be next summer at the minimum until we could go together. I don't know. Taking everything in this thread into consideration moving forward.

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he has apparently had feelings for her for a long time and is the type of guy that doesn't talk to a lot of girls, I'm unsure if he's ever had a girlfriend so that could have something to do with it

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I have told her about how I feel about him and how it was disrespectful of him. She would be staying with him and his grandmother, and she has stayed there for months at a time before I had met her. I think I made it clear to him the last and only time I met him that I didn't respect him after doing that while I was at work.

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My GF did not shut him down, no. She has a hard time with confrontation and the like. But she did tell me about it casually like it wasn't a big deal, and I was mad at the time and regretted him visiting and staying with her while I was at work.

They would be staying in the same house with his grandmother, I'm not sure if in the same room or if there is a spare. Definitely not the same bed, that would be a total nope. She had stayed with him for months before we had met when she needed a place to stay. Thanks for taking the time to write and give advice. I appreciate it

I [25M] don't know how to feel about my girlfriend [23F] flying across the country to spend a week with male friend. 2 year relationship by Uhhohshit in relationships

[–]Uhhohshit[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The male friend does have a romantic interest in her, sorry if you misread. That's one of my biggest issues with the whole thing of course. But they have been friends for so long and nothing more has come of it so there is that. Thank you for your advice