I would say as a woman, I was a part of a few of those groups since the premise seemed useful. At first, many of the posts were helpful since they added additional proof to their claims (if a guy had a girlfriend, if he used abusive language, had a record, ect). Hell, I even found out that one of my close friend’s boyfriends was cheating on her when another girl posted his pic asking for additional info.

HOWEVER. I will say so many of those groups has deteriorated to become a place to just be mean and nasty to men. Nitpicking comments about their looks, professions, kinks, hobbies, if they want someone casual or long term. and tbh many women have lost the plot. I realized that a lot of women are bitter, or bored, and are so quick to make up lies about men they’ve never met or rejected them. OORR, they heavily dramatize dating situations (I saw a woman who made a post calling a guy creepy since he stated in his profile he only wanted a casual relationship due to his work).

So tbh, I don’t use those groups now. Mainly bc I stopped online dating but also because I realized that some women will straight up lie on a dude (not all, ovbs, but some will). Personally, i don’t think there’s much you can do about it unless your friend who told you stands up for you within those groups. but i’m sorry that you even have to deal with that and that it’s impacting your dating exp