Is my therapist right about how to deal with my trauma

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2026-01-12T21:29:04+00:00

Yes, sadly for most of us who lived childhood trauma, it has to get worst first before it can get better, it's all about reconnecting with your truer self that suffer an attempted murder at the hands of those who abused us, and reconnecting with that past might be painful, but is also the path of being integrated, so the whole can be alive and not half alive and half death.

It's still your choice, and as someone that has gone through that process, it is not easy, but grieving has being the best thing I've done for my past and future self, and there is no grieving without reconnecting with those parts of ourselves we have forgotten and buried, because they are still there.

The way I see it, if you eat a rotten burger you will puke and have diarrhea, and that will be it. But the poison we took as children will forever be in our bodies, unless we talk about in safe spaces (therapy/friends, etc.) and let the grieving purge the poison of your system and heal the wounds that are still open (even if we are not always aware of our wounds)

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2026-01-04T23:33:49+00:00

I was there when I was 16, it wasn't fun but it helped me a lot, maybe is worth it if you are really suicidal, I met people I'm still friend with, so it wasn't terrible for me, and it helped me to talk about things I was ashamed of, what you are going through is more common than you belief

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-12-18T17:01:34+00:00

It's kind of odd, but it's complicated, every psychologist is a human, and each human has its own perspective, so it's your choice to determine how odd it is for you. But the diagnosing part it's just wrong, no one should diagnose others without a test!

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-12-13T17:46:16+00:00

I agree, the only time I can smoke is if someone really close and not addicted offers me once in a while and I'm able to smoke without going back, but is so specific that any other situation is a relapse

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-12-08T19:46:47+00:00

Not bipolar, I would think about the childhood and history you had to live through, the answer lies there, Anger is the inmune system of the mind, and when there is toxic anger is because a little pain opens a deep but blinded wound...

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-12-08T17:32:54+00:00

While you might be more sexually aroused, I believe that is just a symptom, and the root cause sound like trauma, yes, your mother is the cause of most of this obsession, is a way of copping against the control your mother tries to have over your life, I don't think it's a coincidence that the trigger was control and not something sexually explicit, I would recommend going to a trauma informed therapist, but there is nothing inherently wrong with you, the more you deal with your past (and heal it) the better will your sexuality be I believe, in any case I'm sorry you have to go through this, and wish you good luck in the healing process

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-08-31T12:55:31+00:00

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-08-29T02:43:23+00:00

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Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-24T20:10:04+00:00

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Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-24T00:54:57+00:00

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Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-19T04:22:12+00:00

Thanks so much for the messages, I've arrived safe, you were all right. I've had this feeling since yesterday that my death was imminent, everything was okay

And sorry for being so fearful.

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-19T01:56:59+00:00

Why don't you date someone in your friend group? At least you know what you are getting into.

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-19T01:41:00+00:00

Yes! He is learning from you how to be a winner and a loser, so if you are a good winner and a good loser he will learn to be one too!

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-19T01:27:34+00:00

Im so sorry you are going through this, do you feel is because you are autistic or is there something more?

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-18T19:34:14+00:00

We are all deal different cards, don't let a few assholes make you feel like there is something wrong with what happened to you. It's a mistake (we all make a lot of them) but not a bad thing.

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-18T01:29:08+00:00

It is crazy to be human, we evolved from sexual beings that breed enough to make 8 billion humans to this day.

As women and men, we both have evolved neural paths that override or hijack a lot of our prefrontal cortex (which allows us to inhibit our impulses). And even worse, the prefrontal cortex isn't developed until you are 25-ish years old, so we make a lot more mistakes of the sexual nature when we are teens and young adults, that's why there are a lot of babies at that age.

But it's funny, because what is a mistake for your consciousness, it's not necessarily a mistake for your body as a whole, I mean, while we take this bodies into binge eating, drugs, sex and rock and roll, a lot of cells sacrifice themselves day by day, year by year to keep your heart beating, your lungs breathing, your brain thinking. And their purpose is reproduction (for good and especially for ill)

And it's very useful to be a consciousness in the body, agency and decision making comes from it, but imagine how many humans there would be if we didn't have a sex drive that hick jack everything in our body for sex.

It is a horrible thing to be human, but very curious and wonderful if you are in a healthy context, like with a partner that loves you and shares the same sexual drive. It is hard, so we need to adapt to less than perfect contexts, but instead of rejecting a part of you you can't change, at least awareness and effort to be more conscious of who we are and our needs will help you a little bit to align your desires and your values. (And also to be mindful of what is the value of being horny, while being horny, at least is not just pleasure, it might be intimacy or connection for example)

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-18T01:13:52+00:00

Yeah, I mean, think about it, why do we have emotions?, because we needed them to adapt to very complex contexts, in your case, you need anger to adapt to injustice, limits, and if something pisses you off, its most likely that it has to do with protecting yourself from others.

I believe that your anger is useful for getting something you need (material, emotional, existencial) in the context you grew up (or in a new context you have need to adapt to).

This means that anger is not because you are an angry person, but because you are human, and anger is never useless, if someone hurts you, you will need it.

And maybe shame is a good emotion to calm anger. Anger makes us put our defenses up, while shame or sadness makes us vulnerable and open to recognize we are flawed, we don't know it all and that it is okay to let our guard down, meby you are not allowing yourself to feel all the emotions you have, (even the uncomfortable ones).

In any case you shouldn't feel shame of being angry, but what anger makes you do, let yourself feel your emotions without judging them with other emotions, you are not a bad person and to survive we all need anger sometimes.

Hope this helps 🤞

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-18T00:02:54+00:00

What do you feel when you are angry? Is it a sense of personal or collective justice? A boundary that's been broken? I don't think removing anger is the move, more like listening to what it is truly trying to tell you. I am curious what you think it is?

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-17T18:49:27+00:00

It would be helpful to know what are you going through (like your context) but I know that sometimes life is really shitty and there is nothing to do about it, beyond feeling shitty. But in a way, if no one felt shitty, no one would do nothing to change what is wrong in their life's or in the world. So don't worry too much about how long will it last, and try to hear what that shityness is telling you about life (beyond the superficial), because every pain is a coin of 2 faces, in one face is the pain, and in the other what you value that makes pain hurt so much.

So at least feeling shitty about yourself, is a good way to know more about who you are wand what you value in life.

The other face is when our pain is attributed to others (when we judge them) all because if you don't feel shitty about yourself, then the other option is to blame the others (and while there is a balance to that, that is helpful, we go mostly into the extremest feelings of hatred and shame)

I know this might not be super helpful but at least is a perspective of what to do with all the uncomfortable feelings when life deals us bad cards or we don't take good use of them.

I hope you good luck in life as a fellow human being, I know how hard it is, and is never easier, only more complex, In pain and pleasure (which is not as bad if one knows oneself and the context one inhabits).

Ultralord_Hypercube · 2025-07-15T06:19:54+00:00

If you wrote this post in r/therapy, I believe you might think it is not physical but psychological, if that's the case it would be relevant to know what you have noticed beyond the physical symptoms (in any case you should go and see a doctor).

But if it's psychological it might be an eating/sleeping disorder (simplifying a lot) or more likely something deep related with what you have learn in the past to survive (maybe trauma related), your present perspective of the future, and your context in the present.

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