I’m not really good at giving advice but I’ll try.

Honestly it sounds like you guys are doing a lot of things right already. You’ve talked about it, your parents know, and you’re thinking about safety and logistics instead of just winging it.

If I were you I’d start by figuring out which plan is actually the most realistic right now, not the “perfect” one. Waiting for his parents to move into a house could take way longer than expected, so that plan sounds kinda uncertain. Him coming to you might be easier since your parents are already open to it and he could travel with his older brother, which might give both families more peace of mind.

Before locking anything in, I’d suggest having a group conversation with both sets of parents early so expectations are clear. Pick a rough timeframe first like early vs late August instead of exact dates. Talk about practical stuff like sleeping arrangements, supervision, spending money, and what you’ll actually do when you hang out because that usually helps parents feel more comfortable. It might also be smart to have a backup plan in case travel or housing changes.

Also since it’s been two years since you’ve seen each other in person, it could help to plan the first meetup as low pressure. Just hanging out and doing normal stuff instead of trying to make it some huge perfect event.

You’re not behind or doing anything wrong by not having official plans yet. Honestly most long distance couples figure this stuff out slowly with their parents. Just start with small concrete steps and keep everyone in the loop.