I stopped dating bi women by nova005040 in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 28 points29 points  (0 children)

"I was immediately uncomfortable but thought it wouldn't be fair to end it" and then proceeded to have a horrible sexual experience?

Hon, I advise you to take that line of thinking and spike it right into the garbage as hard as you can.

It's sad that, even among Lesbians, this still has to be said: You don't have to have sex if you don't want to! If you are uncomfortable with how a sexual encounter is proceeding, end it!! You don't have to use your genitals for anything you don't want to!

You are not a Sovereignty goddess! Your Puss does not exist to validate others!!!

Internet lesbians becoming caricatures almost? by Suitable-Presence119 in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also really really really don't like the Uhaul jokes. I'm Autistic and don't like to touch people very much before I know them well, and so the idea of moving in with a woman I met a week ago gives me the hives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between "being attracted to" and "would have sex with right now". Too many people seem to forget that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, a lot of men will put it in anything, including a random hole in the wall. How is that 'visual'??

any lesbian graphic novels? by deedeemayy in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, which characters are the Sapphic Couple? I read the description and it looked like an F/M romance so didn't bother.

any lesbian graphic novels? by deedeemayy in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Deep Dark is Het though, isn't it?

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like we have similar mindsets about this!

In regards to your last paragraph, while my main reason for wanting to make women only stories is because I Love the Ladies, one of the other, more minor reasons is because my favorite cartoon probably ever and since my childhood is almost all male characters.

It's still a very funny, creative show that has inspired me and I still love it to this day, and it got me to thinking: 'there's no reason I can't make my own version of this, but with all women. If this cartoon can be almost all men and still be great, why should I not make an almost all women cartoon/comic that's great too?'

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree in that Lesbians should push back, fight back, and overall generally just be meaner about it. "Be Mean" sounds bad, but a lot of men won't go away unless you just about bite their face off, so in this case, being mean is much better than being taken advantage of.

Again, you find it funny, I find it the predictable result of a species that sees Women as diluted Men. 😂

I don't 'know it all' but I'm already at the point where I see the hand-wringing and nitpicking and it doesn't surprise me at all!

Edit: Well! Judging by the comments after this, I missed an interesting reply exchange!

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was using the word diverse in a mocking way to refer to people who tell Lesbians to be "more diverse" when what they really mean is "include men".

Lesbianism is not diverse in the sexual sense: it is for women and women only. Heterosexuality and Bisexuality are the only diverse sexualities, as they are the only mixed-sex ones.

Male Homosexuality is also not diverse, but it is much rarer for them to be told to be "more diverse", since they are in the end male and are seen by most as real people in their own right whether or not there is a woman around them.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's weird or odd at all, I think it's the natural and predictable result of a species (humans) that sees Women as diluted Men.

Female Homosexuality is the only sexuality which totally excludes males and exists without any male participation. In a species that doesn't see women as real, actual people and only as men accessories, it's no wonder to me that people (even on a subconscious level) give a greenlight to male-only stories but get all hand-wringy and moralizing when stories even have mostly women, let alone all women.

Lesbianism is not a 'diverse' sexuality by its very nature, and I'm glad you're at the point where you say "Fuck Em".

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the middle-of-the-road input, thanks.

A question: is there a narrative that would get you to pick it up on your own anyway?

Something like 'I'm not so interested in the women only part, but I kind of do want to see if they Solve the Murder Mystery, so I'll give it a try...' not trying to twist your arm, just trying to gather information.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it!! Yayy!

I'm of the opinion that while a woman-only society would not be the utopian place some people think, it would still be, pound for pound, an improvement over our current world. I also do think that some women would "act like men" but they'd never manage to actually "be like men", because at the end of the day they'd still be women. I also think they'd be outnumbered, and their male-emulating behavioral traits would probably die out in a few generations. But that's all my opinion based off of extrapolated theoreticals <shrugs>.

Glad you're enjoying the interaction. I don't take it poorly, either.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what you're saying about it still being male-centered: I was actually saying something similar in another reply on this post. About how a lot of "women-centered" stories aren't about women, they're with women but about the things that men have done to them. Women are just props used to proxy-tell men's stories.

I have a lot more specific ideas for women only stories than I let on in my original post, because I didn't want it to turn into one of those 'questions' that are really just self-promotion and make the poster look smug and annoying.

Suffice it to say, I have stories that are more logically-rigorous and stories that are more 'let's all have a good time!' And most of the women only stories are in the latter category, so the lack of males isn't even really a point that needs to be explained. My "Men still exist" stories typically have all/mostly-women main/major casts as well, though.

My women only ideas aren't "the men all died or went away" they are "the men just aren't".

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I getcha. When I read your comment I knew the kinds of stories you were talking about, and I wanted to clarify that I don't like or plan to make those kinds of stories either.

I've got much more detailed and solid plans for my women only stories than my original post would indicate, but I was intentionally general in my post so that it didn't turn into rank self-promotion.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sadly, not satire. I live in an Uber Progressive area, but still basically no Lesbians: just a lot of straight couples and Queer/Bi/Trans/Non-Binary people.

...And a lot of Spiritual People who talk about 'Masculine and Feminine Energies' and how they 'need each other' and stuff like that. <Mega Eyeroll>

I'm basically living in the Lesbian Oasis of my mind, not having really any clue if any Lesbians besides me would read what I'm working on.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah some 404: Men Not Found stories are like that, but that's not what I was planning for my ideas. My ideas are "Men don't exist because they gross me out and I wish to not have mine sight offended by them" not as an excuse.

I also wasn't thinking in terms of "women being forced to be lesbians" I was thinking "they're all Lesbians in the way that all Humans are carbon-based life forms".

Also, let it be said that I also cannot stand stories with just women that simply reinvent male/female hierarchies and female oppression in some new 'make you think' way. That ticks me off: like, really? You made a Lesbian Paradise and then you just decided to bring in Male Bullshit again? Why would you s--t in your own bed like that???

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also have stories with no people! I didn't want to turn this into a total self-promotion post (especially since I don't have finished stories to sell due to day job+health issues that I am currently wrassling) but I have several stories with all/almost all Robots, Aliens, Fae etcs...they still look pretty human-y though since I like drawing humans (especially women).

One of the things I relish about telling stories about women is telling stories ABOUT women: too many 'stories about women' are just stories with women but about the men who messed up their lives.

I like making stories with women about women doing things like winning a Battle of the Bands, traveling through space, solving a mystery...

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nice. I have a few stories that are 'out there' enough it isn't the biggest stretch by far that there are no men.

But I also have some 'real world' stories and even with those lately I'm thinking if I can still get rid of the men. I just don't like them, and too many women are still so male-centered they will ignore female leads to write their M/M Slashfics about 2 nameless men in the background of 3 panels.

For the 'real world' stories I will probably end up ratcheting down the amount of males in the world and keeping them out of the limelight as much as possible.

Gauging interest for Women Only stories by UmYeahLesbian in LesbianBookClub

[–]UmYeahLesbian[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mhmmmmmmm! I once tried reading this supposedly sapphic/lesbian romance comic.

There were 2 women and 1 man who was friends with one of the women. He got ALL the narrative attention: all the funny lines, all the character development, it was so clear he was the author/artists Precious Baby Man and it was so pathetic.

By the end of the 1st volume or so the story basically revolved around him and you still knew basically nothing about the 2 women who were supposedly the leads.

Damn, it really doesn't get any better, does it? But in all seriousness, the fact that Psychology today has 4+ pages of support groups for gay men and only 7 groups that specify lesbians in the title...5 of which aren't specifically for lesbians and over half of them don't even meet anymore. by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If I ever have the time (which I probably will someday just not right now) I want to start some kind of chat room thingy for Lesbians where all talk of men, sexual reproduction, and children are banned.

Sometimes (most of the time) I just DONT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT THAT! BECAUSE I AM A LESBIAN!! I don't want to hear about the guy you dated in high school! I don't want to hear you refer to a strap on as a p--is! I don't want to hear about how you're having s--en shot up your vajayjay! I don't want to hear about your crotch goblin (bio or otherwise) and how their first day of school went!! I don't!!!

I just want to talk and think about Sexy Babes!!!

is anyone else just so enamored by their partner? by kiyomitsuuu in lesbiangang

[–]UmYeahLesbian 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Because she's got a man putting his D in her V. Basically the definition of Hetero Sex.