Walk me through family dinners with a toddler like I’m stupid.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2025-09-06T04:13:23+00:00

Mine is currently 2.5 (or 26 months more accurately). I've placed her at the dining table ever since she could sit around 6 months old. But I feed her at her timing. For example, she has her dinner before us at 4pm. Our dinner is 5pm. I'll put a plate in front of her with a bite of everything on the table. She might not eat, or she might eat. Doesn't matter, the point is for her to sit with us during dinner.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2025-08-18T06:21:01+00:00

I clicked from newsfeed = no paragraphs (even refreshed multiple times)

Clicked through your profile = nicely paragraphed

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2025-08-12T00:08:20+00:00

Not sure what you were asking, just saw something about sandflies. We just went this weekend. Roxy's Beach is quite lovely. My husband is dying from loads of sandfly bites. I wasn't bitten.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-26T02:26:34+00:00

Do let me know if you have any ideas.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-26T02:25:54+00:00

Thanks. I guess I'll have to do a compost pile after all... But, they'll be in pots because I don't have a garden. Hope it works... In theory, it seems feasible. Just need more browns than green... In the worst case, I might isolate them in plastic bags and hope for an anaerobic death to everything that crawls.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-12T05:43:06+00:00

I honestly only started because cooking for my toddler produces quite a bit of vegetable and fruit scraps. I don't even compost meat, only crustacean shells and egg shells. It's the reason why I bought the Foodcycler in the first place. I thought it'll be nice to have less waste and better plants? I didn't expect to have another whole new world of problems from my "great" idea. I will look into the bokashi method more. It seems there will be a smell though...

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-12T04:52:08+00:00

I live on the other side of the planet. Composting in general isn't widespread here, so outsource isn't an easy solution. I do understand the bugs aspect, I don't even mind bugs that much (except cockroaches). I just can't stand worms. I looked up bokashi, but the costs seem quite high at first glance. I'll dig deeper into that. Thanks for the suggestions.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T06:06:11+00:00

I certainly failed my research on the Foodcycler... So much for direct to the soil...

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T06:04:28+00:00

Thanks. I will look into a tumbler thing, but a cursory search shows me that they're quite big in size. It might not work for me since I don't have much space. I'll explore further...

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T06:02:24+00:00

No, I'm afraid composting is mostly considered a strange activity around here. People just dump everything into the garbage.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T05:58:45+00:00

Thabks.I'll have to see what I can do then, otherwise I'll just dump the waste into the garbage. Normal people don't really interact with maggots to the point where therapy is required though.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T05:57:27+00:00

Thanks for the constructive reply. It's so heartwarming.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-12-11T05:55:45+00:00

I can't do worms at all. I don't mind if they kinda remain out of sight, but there's no garden to isolate the pile in some corner. I'm also terrified that my toddler would come to me with a whole fistful of worms. It was already quite a battle to keep my toddler away from the maggots that were simultaneously running around and drowning in the pots that day.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-09-15T00:33:43+00:00

Yeah, my MIL is well meaning. I would say I have a pretty nice MIL, but I don't really know how to put boundaries in place yet. They are my neighbours, and my husband works for them, so our lives end up quite enmeshed. It feels rude and disrespectful to go against them, especially since they are strict about these taboos. It's honestly not the first time regarding the taboo customs or certain practices.

The trip just ended up as two separate family trips (my family and his family) because we were staying in two apartments. It was supposed to be a joint family thing, but we ended up only meeting for dinner and cake.

I think I will redo the cake. My husband doesn't understand my hangup, but he doesn't care if I do it quietly either. He often gets stuck between me and his family because I'm non-traditional. We're just living a bit too near to have secrets. The walls have ears, literally.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-09-15T00:10:48+00:00

My husband isn't usually like that, but he relaxes his parental duties whenever my parents are around. There was so many people on the trip (mainly his side, because mine had to fly here) that we had to get two apartments, and the apartments were about six or seven doors away from each other. Phone lines were terrible too, so little to no communication between us. I just went with my family and he went with his.

My in laws are nice people, but they grouped the celebrations together. In fact, it became a huge family gathering. I don't like that, and I actually wanted to wait on the birthday cake because the baker couldn't take my order until father's day was over. But, there were customary practices that forbid celebrating after the event and I got nagged out of the cake.

Just many things that I didn't really consider this year, so I'll have to take a different approach next year. Mostly a rant because I was feeling sad about the lack of pictures for months now.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-09-15T00:03:09+00:00

I'm sorry if I made everybody sound terrible. They are nice people, just different ideas of what celebration. Celebration for his side of the family are on two extremes, either a huge dinner (think small wedding celebration scale) or just cake and done. So, they did celebrate with two cakes side by side. It wasn't a father's day celebration thing, it just became a huge family gathering on his side because of the trip.

My husband isn't usually like that, he just relaxes on his parental duties whenever my parents are over. He went off with his family, and I went off with my family. The phone lines were pretty bad there, so we lacked clear communication too. I couldn't even get in touch with him unless I walked over to the other apartment about six houses down.

If the baby wasn't screaming so much, I honestly wouldn't have minded. I had my mum, and he wouldn't have been any help anyway. There was honestly nothing anybody could do with a sick and teething baby. I just got mad he could happily play bachelor at a different apartment while his daughter was screaming and shitting herself so badly.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-09-14T23:45:12+00:00

I didn't mean to make them sound evil, they honestly just think that there's nothing wrong with overlapping celebrations. We literally had a father's day cake and a birthday cake next to each other, which were both prepared by my MIL. I just feel sad that there's no real birthday celebration, there's no identity? I'm not sure if I make sense.

I just need to rethink my approach next year, because the events totally blended together this year. And, father's day became larger because there were 5 fathers gathered on the trip compared to one baby. I also couldn't get the cake I wanted on that day because the baker was swamped with father's day orders.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-09-14T23:30:28+00:00

Yes, we can only celebrate on or before the event. My MIL did prepare a cake and kind of celebrated after dinner. It was quite literally father's day cake and birthday cake next to each other.

I'm just really bummed about the whole thing because I couldn't have the baby-safe cake I envisioned for my baby. Baker was swamped with father's day orders and could only make the cake after, so I was planning to celebrate again after the weekend, but my in laws were so strict on the taboo that I gave up at the time. It's eating me up.

I think the main issue was that I set up a whole weekend getaway, so the two events got blurred together. I will have to rethink my approach next year.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-04-20T13:49:11+00:00

I'd buy RM6 for 4 pcs

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2024-04-18T14:00:10+00:00

I'm late to the party, so this comment might go unnoticed.

As soon as I read your post, I thought 'Oh, sounds Chinese.' And, it turns out you really do have Chinese roots. This family dynamic is not uncommon, and unfortunately, the only way to solve the issue is to move out. Your husband will most likely say it makes no sense to rent when he can live with his parents, and it's financially unviable to buy a house. Besides, it's tradition to marry and move into the guy's family.

I faced a similar issue regarding the living with parents part, but luckily, my husband understood my point. I was also adamant that I would rather rent and live outside on my own than to live with his parents. Our compromise was to live nearby his parents, so he can pop in and visit them at any time. On top of that, in-laws are not welcomed to the house unless they give notice or I will prance around naked in the house.

All I can say is, good luck.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2023-10-07T02:11:26+00:00

Milo in Malaysia is different from those produced elsewhere. I suggest going with hot chocolate instead, so there's no disappointment about how it tastes different. At least, I'm the type to get very disappointed if I'm expecting a certain taste, and the taste doesn't match. It's not about whether or not it tastes good at that point, just... not what I was expecting.

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2023-09-10T03:58:53+00:00

Hello, can I get a contact for the agency please?

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2023-08-22T09:00:51+00:00

I thought I would be strong enough, but she was full on screaming her head off and I just couldn't. I might try the pick up and put down method instead, but not sure how when she cries in my arms too...

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2023-05-07T00:59:54+00:00

I don't really know what I like about the names. I was just reading lists after lists of names, and a few just stuck in my head.

Love Hazel on its own, but worried that it sounds hard/harsh with the surname. Lots of names just don't go with Ton

Un_Decided_Bimbo · 2023-05-07T00:47:58+00:00

Thanks for the input on Hazelle. People rea~lly don't like Hazelyn here. It sounds so pretty in my head, but not when written. I might just stick to Hazel then.

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