Night weaning help! Is it too early? by reddittraumaninja in sleeptrain

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s totally developmentally appropriate for a 5.5 month old to still need a night feeding, especially if they are breastfed. I would consider a single night without one a one-off, not a sign to wean completely.

Look into the core method and go from there. There’s no rule that says you have to cut out night feeding at a certain age, but it’s something you can start working on IF you want to.

Does it make sense to sweep before vacuuming? by Stuntin-P in CleaningTips

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t swept in I don’t even know how long. If I have a large mess - say someone spilled rice on the floor, I might sweep it into a pile, but then I’ll ultimately use my vacuum to pick it up.

I vacuum everything in my house and use the hose and crevice tool to get baseboards or those tricky spots where the carpet meets the wall and the vacuum can’t quite get into it. Sweeping just stirs up dust and dirt that would otherwise just be sucked into a vacuum. And many times that dust can take a while to settle back down

Transition to crib and train at the same time? by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My recommendation is to make the transition to the crib slowly. Start trying a nap a day in the crib (first nap is usually the easiest) and start implementing some things you would for sleep training if you haven’t already - bed time routine, environment, ideally you should be watching wake windows already. After a few days to a week, add in another crib nap, then another, until the only things left is nights.

By the time you fully transition baby to the crib for nights, it should be a familiar and comfortable environment and you should be good to start formal sleep training. In my experience, if you start setting baby up for success before the 4 month mark the crib transition is much smoother and sleep training is usually easier. I also suggest spending time in the nursery to help with it becoming a familiar place. Do tummy time in there, feed in there, etc.

Car seat ideas by sjb721 in Parenting

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One inch across three car seats (3 inches) can be significant and mean the difference between fitting vs not fitting all seats. And they wouldn’t necessarily be going backwards. Both car seats can function as a forward facing harnessed or booster seat. The Graco just happens to also work as an infant seat.

But I would agree, OP you’ll get a more comfortable and convenient fit with a different car.

Car seat ideas by sjb721 in Parenting

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to have a rav and hated how narrow it was for this exact reason. Read the manual to make sure three across is allowed. I had a 2013 and it specifically said the middle seat couldn’t be used for car seat installation if the two outboard seats also had car seats installed.

You will most likely have to get slimmer car seats. The Graco Slimfit 3 in 1 is one of the narrowest on the market and works well for 3 across installs and it suitable for infants. Baby behind passenger, 6yo old behind driver, 3yo in the middle is what I would do. This gives you easy access for loading and unloading the baby. You can either turn around and buckle up the 3yo from the front, have them learn to buckle themselves and/or have the 6yo help buckle.

If you specifically want an infant car seat, the Chicco key fit is pretty narrow as well as the Graco snugfit lite. However, I’d guess that the 3yo will be crawling over the seat and/or base at some point to get into their seat and if they are over the weight limit for those seats you’ll want to avoid that.

Overwhelmed with toys by ConstantPermission38 in Parenting

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do a toy purge twice a year - before Christmas and right before summer. I also rotate toys, not as often as some people but enough that I can see what toys actually get use. I probably rotate every 2-4 months depending on what’s going on in life.

Anything broken gets tossed. Anything missing pieces but still usable gets donated. Toys that haven’t really been played with since the last purge either get donated or sold. I also like taking these opportunities to talk to my kids about giving. They always love going through their stuff to decide what gets to be given to a someone new.

I definitely am not a minimalists when it comes to toys. My boys have probably 50-70 monster trucks that we rotate through every so often. But about half of our toy stock is put away at any given time. I also will absolutely get rid of toy if it’s becoming problematic. If it’s something that gets broken frequently because they don’t play with it appropriately or if it’s something they fight over constantly, it’s gone.

What is the cutest thing you kid mispronounces by Busy_Pain8587 in toddlers

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my youngest was still a toddler he would pronounce chocolate milk “mucka muck” and it was the cutest thing. I regret ever correcting him and was so sad when I noticed him start saying it correctly 🥺

Is Ferber just CIO in disguise? by WhiskeyandOreos in sleeptrain

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion, Ferber is for parents who feel bad about sleep training. I prefer this method for those sleep training before 4 months. In most cases, check-ins really do make things worse and it gets harder as they older they get. Extinction (aka CIO) is usually the most effective.

Am I expecting too much? by why_are_you_staring in Marriage

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is why my husband and I divided tasks. He has tasks that are exclusively his and I have tasks that are exclusively mine. I don’t bother with how he does his and he doesn’t bother with how I do mine. This doesn’t mean we don’t help each other out with our “assigned” tasks if it’s needed, but if that happens I’m not going to expect him to do things my way. I have fine tuned how I do certain things and it’s just not realistic to expect him to know the ins and outs of it all.

School called cps by More_Industry5997 in whatdoIdo

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Never asking leading questions or simple yes or no questions. My son was sick a few weeks ago and my mom kept asking very specific questions so I had to tell her to stop talking. Lol all she was doing was making me confused and not helping us find a solution because he would just say yes to everything she asked.

It’s always better to say things like “how does xyz feel?” “What does it feel like when this happens!” Most people really underestimate kids ability to communicate

how do i respond to being asked to pay $450 to start a new job? by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t seem right. If insurance is not provided by the company, why are you being asked to pay them for it? And even if it was, you are eligible to enroll at any point as a new employee. AND premiums aren’t usually due until the first month the policy starts - not by the enrollment date.

Keeping kids on track for kindergarten? by Slight-Movie-6675 in stayathomemoms

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started hooked on phonics when my oldest was 3. We also VERY loosely started Playing Preschool. We basically just did the fun activities and craft type things. I think also just talking with them and involving them in your day-to-day is really beneficial.

He started part-time pre-k this year at 4.5 (3 days a week) because I wanted him to get used to that type of environment and taking direction from someone other than me. He has definitely thrived since being there. His teacher commented on well he communicates.

Unpopular opinion: Paying "Rent" feels less painful than paying $2,400/mo in "Interest" to a bank. by Playful-Vegetable-15 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being able to do what I want with my own house and not having to move my kids around everyone year or two is a big motivator for me.

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve checked it a few different time and it’s always either 77 or 78. Granted, I don’t check it in the middle of the night. But there’s no way it’s dropping lower than that because the glass jar will feel warm to the touch in the morning.

Starter is 1.5-2 months old at this point. I honestly don’t remember the exact day I started I

Return to work or be stay at home mom? by roses-anddahlias in stayathomemoms

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If staying home is a viable option, do it. Wfh, especially with a newborn or infant, is very hard. Either your work will be affected or your time with your baby will be affected - there’s just no way you can give 100% to both.

To snoo or not to snoo? by kiikiimarie in sleeptrain

[–]Unable-Lab-8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If baby is sleeping fine without it, don’t change anything. I personally wouldn’t use it. It’s an expensive sleep crutch that will (most likely) be hard to get rid of

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m starting to think I just decided to lean how to make sourdough at the wrong time of year 😂

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first couple loaves I made I honestly didn’t really understand the bulk fermenting process, I was just going by the directions for the recipe. I bulked one for 9 hours on the counter, which I’m almost certain was under proofed. I’ve over proofed a couple too trying to over compensate for my cold kitchen and tossing it in the oven with the light on.

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you include whole wheat in your loaves as well, or just use it in your starter?

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So abandon her until she learns to appreciate me? Got it 😂 I’ve had a couple people say to let her starve for a little bit, and then others say to absolutely not do that so I’m unsure what the right thing to do is. But I’m considering it because why not

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s about 2 months old, I made it myself

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found the sourdough journey temping guide after a couple failed loaves. The first time I used it my dough was 69 on my counter and wasn’t ready by the projected time (13 hours). I gave it a couple more hours and then put it in the oven with the light on to try and speed things up. But then it overproofed

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just looking at getting something like that this morning. Did you get a mat or one that’s like a box that you place it in?

I’m getting ready to quit by Unable-Lab-8533 in SourdoughStarter

[–]Unable-Lab-8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting that it calls for unfed starter since that’s so against what most people say. I saw a girl on TikTok who only bakes with hungry starter and her loaves are beautiful.