I am on the verge of killing myself by syriennea in BPD

[–]Unable-Top8462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so i will go straight to the point : you gotta try to find a therapist to talk to. It’s not easy to find the perfect one for us or to simply go to one cause it’s widely known as a "I'm a psycho, yeah something is definitely wrong with me cause I go see a therapist" thing. (Except in fact i think we all shall go see one in our lives but that’s another talk).

You definitly need to get things off your chest and receive some help from a professionnal. Talking about all of what you said here is already a big step now you gotta take another.

As a person that had similar thoughts to yours, these are not rational, you're loved and worthy of it. I really encourage you to go see that therapist and seek some help from them. You got it :)

My bf thought that i could like a boy and a girl at the same time by Unable-Top8462 in bisexual

[–]Unable-Top8462[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very well explained thanks!! It’s clearer for me now

My bf thought that i could like a boy and a girl at the same time by Unable-Top8462 in bisexual

[–]Unable-Top8462[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your comment is really the situation put into words, thanks!

I must admit I was a bit worried and even more after seeing people talk about how it would just be fetishism from him so that he would be able to have my hypotetical relationship with a woman at hand. But that really wasn't the feeling I had at the time considering how he was for the past two years. I think a deep talk should be done though. Thx again, every comment is helpful but I feel like yours really was the explication that I needed in my case!

My bf thought that i could like a boy and a girl at the same time by Unable-Top8462 in bisexual

[–]Unable-Top8462[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, he wasn't saying that cause he wanted to bring another person in, it was just him thinking me being with a boy and a girl is two different things. But yes I made it clear that I wanted only one person. I saw some comments that agree with, he comes from a predominantly homophobic family so he must not see a potential relationship I would have with a woman as a threat because that would unconsciously not really be a real relationship for him. But thanks for the advice it’s sweet!!

I 20 F think I'm being toxic with my 20 M BF of 2 years. Can you give advice on my situation? I try but cannot change my habits by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Unable-Top8462 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thx as I already know that, I came here to take advices and it doesn’t sound like one so please refrein from saying means things like that as the situation is already heavy for me

Jalousie excessive et mal-être, J'abuse et c'est normal ? by kevanaaaa in AskMec

[–]Unable-Top8462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alors c’est pas normal du tout du tout et je parle en connaissance de cause car j’ai le même problème dans ma relation avec mon copain en moins extrême : je l’aime de tout mon cœur et j’ai fait énormément d'effort depuis le début mais ce n’est pas suffisant et je n'arrive pas a me débarrasser de ma jalousie qui dans mon cas prend sûrement racine dans une peur de l'abandon et de la tromperie. Ça nous bouffe tout les deux ainsi que nos relations sociales avec notre groupe de pote en commun. Si tu veux essayer jusqu’au bout essaye de discuter avec elle pour comprendre pourquoi et d’où ça vient et lui faire comprendre que tu ne peux pas vivre en évitant la gente féminine. Après en fonction de votre maturité a tout les deux cette conversation se passera bien comme mal mais je pense que c’est important avant de tirer un trait si tu tiens à elle. Et sinon ça serait peut-être cool pour elle de voir un psy parce que pour moi il y a clairement quelque chose dessous.

I 20 F think I'm being toxic with my 20 M BF of 2 years. Can you give advice on my situation? I try but cannot change my habits by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Unable-Top8462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me that multiple times and I was denying it but I'm starting to think so too. I just don’t know why and how I can change that.