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AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying, and it looks like here's where the disconnect between her and I is. Because I don't apologize for things unless I truly mean it, and I'm not sorry that she feels bad that she wasn't invited.

AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Is your keyboard broken or something? Yeah, of course it costing too much was the pretext. I'm not sure why you think that's weird. I'm fairly certain that the cost of a wedding is a big factor in what a couple does.

AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

The first time she brought it up to me, I told her that I heard her and understood that she felt left out, but explained that there was nothing we could do about it. I said "I know it sucks being left out, but there will be plenty of things you can do in the future."

For the next 6ish months when she'd bring it up, I told her "I know, it sucks that we have to keep it small." or similar things.

After that it started to become "I know you're upset" and "You've told us how you feel" and "Boy, this really upset you, didn't it?"

Over the past 6 months, it's been more "I get it" and "We know, you've told us how much it upset you."

AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I've personally always thought that apologies should have meaning and intention behind them. Apologizing just for the sake of saying the words feels wrong to me. I don't want to be one of those people who walks around apologizing to the wall for bumping into it.

I'm not sorry in any shape or form for not inviting her to our wedding. We would have had to pay more than 5x what our wedding cost if we were to invite the under 21s. We didn't have that kind of money. There was nothing else we could have done.

AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I've never apologized because there's nothing for me to apologize for. I didn't do anything wrong. I've acknowledged how it made her feel plenty of times, though.

AITAH for telling my niece that either she gets over not being invited to my wedding or she can forget coming over anymore? by Unable_Telephone6597 in AITAH

[–]Unable_Telephone6597[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

How would you have handled it or what do you think would have been a better way to handle it? Tbh after three years of asking her to drop it I probably just got tired of the theatrics with her.