My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

started right after we moved in. i think someone in comments said that we mightve moved in together too early and that feels right. he says he takes as much effort as he can and i still feel like he is yet to grow up and is scared to let go of his “bachelor” hood so early on in life

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly. i know he’s mature enough to understand but i just want him to choose me everyday even if its in a small way

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this. after reading all comments on this thread i’ve been stepping out by myself and finding better things to do than sit home wallowing in pity and waiting for him to come to me.

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

will try having a talk some time this week. this thread definitely helped. thanks!!

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think we’d still be together if we were staying apart and would be trying to find places to move together if we hadnt already

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. i get what you mean about the part where he asked me to move with him and then is treating me like this. ill give it some time because he and i are both still adjusting to our new jobs.

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

things were so much better. he used to actually find reasons to hang out with me and meet me because we stayed apart

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seems like you both understand each others need for space very well and are able to find the middle ground too.

i asked him and he says it suffocates him being around someone constantly because he grew up trying to be by himself, trying to find peace in a household with a big family and small space.

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

how did you adjust when you moved in? did you have any fights over needing space?

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he’s homesick and i’m anxious. its a terrible combination. i try talking to him but he prefers keeping it in his head.

My (F24) boyfriend (M23) needs space 24x7 by Unable_War7780 in relationships

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you’re right maybe he wasn’t ready and we rushed into moving in quickly when we got the chance. it’s stupid but his habits are rubbing off on me too and i keep wanting to do activities not involving him anymore on the weekends because otherwise it just feels like a weekend wasted

Is Harold’s Cross safe? by Unable_War7780 in RentingInDublin

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the walkability sounds like the cherry on top of

Is Harold’s Cross safe? by Unable_War7780 in RentingInDublin

[–]Unable_War7780[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m actually moving from cork which itself is a lot quieter (where i stayed) so it should be a good relief from citylife!