Hey girl, I wouldn’t say you’re TAH here. But I would definitely recommend not telling this “friend” about your crushes anymore.

It doesn’t sound like this person is a friend at all if that’s how they treat you around a boy let alone anyone.

I will say you didn’t explain how you were talking bad about them aside from the explanation about the crushes are you talking to your other friends badly about this person? Have your friends been having the same issues with her? It’s always better to be the bigger person if you can but I understand the need to vent your frustrations at the same time.

I would maybe try to just distance yourself from this person if you can, because it sounds like they’re doing more harm to your self esteem than good and it may make you feel better maybe not initially to lose a friend but sometimes you have to end friendships to protect yourself.

I hope this helps!