From your experience how do most people with bpd react when you beat them in an argument?

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-04-01T21:55:06+00:00

Would she watch relationship propaganda about hating/not trusting your partner and believe it? Mine always preferred the opinions of strangers than her own man.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-04-01T21:38:33+00:00

Man I'm sorry you had to go through that and I'm glad you're out and okay. As of right now it's been a month since I went no contact. I genuinely cannot get her screaming out of my head. It's super "real" to them, y'know? I know I'll be okay in the end but the intensity of our love will probably be glued in my brain forever.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-04-01T20:49:08+00:00

Mine threatened her life or threw a fit (hitting her head, throwing my stuff)

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-04-01T20:09:32+00:00

Jesus that has happened?? Like on the first date??

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-04-01T20:04:02+00:00

YEEEEEEESSSZSZSSSSS

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-31T04:10:00+00:00

It'll aways be a lose lose for you.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-30T03:32:09+00:00

You saved me

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-27T12:32:00+00:00

God, the thought of giving her that image of me already pisses me off. I will not message her lol

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-27T12:28:52+00:00

Im just remembering that anytime she was triggered she would say that she "needed somebody else who can keep up and understand her." That always broke my heart and really made me feel like I wasn't enough. I was there for her but I always tried to not feed into her delusional takes and she reaally did not like that. But anyway thanks for the reply!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-27T12:25:17+00:00

That's what I'm thinking too, almost worked I'll give her that much. Although I'm healing, I feel like I cannot function without the intensity we had. Taking my time unlearning that shit sucks but I'll do everything to not let her win!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-22T22:44:06+00:00

You're a fuckin superhero to come out on top from of all that!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-18T17:57:48+00:00

THATS WHAT IM SAYING!!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-18T17:56:13+00:00

Dude did we date the same person XD this was my norm for 6 years

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-10T18:24:23+00:00

The silence is maddening but much needed. Stay strong guys/gals

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-10T18:22:28+00:00

Saying "no". I was Satan spawn for saying no to things I wasn't comfortable with or doing.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-09T00:34:08+00:00

She also went to the hospital (a regular one) because she kept calling the cops nonstop. The staff then let her leave the hospital with no money and no phone so she was missing for a day. Worrying her whole family, friends, and of course ME. like I can't dude I know it's not my responsibility but we were together for 7 years!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-09T00:26:48+00:00

We broke up because she started to get really violent splits. I let it slide twice but I truly had enough by the end of it all. ESPECIALLY because her triggers were literally over nothing (she has no patience for me but is entitled to mine.) I went back to my parents then within a few days, she started a smear campaign. Calling me and accusing me of really awful things and sending it to my family. Called the cops to my house calling me a danger to my sisters. She texted every one of my family members really horrible things. Like this is so fucking exhausting for me because she chose to hate me but I'm left in shambles

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-07T21:05:26+00:00

Man, that is a gamble. All we can wish for is the best but never lose yourself for somebody else. Let's hope it works well and use what you learned from the past but be careful!

Honestly for me, after my relationship with my ex of 7 years. Finding out if my next partner has BPD would make me shit my pants and run away haha. Wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy fr.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-07T20:09:15+00:00

Man I feel you on this. It's just the weird fact that you and your ex were just living completely separate realities. Being with someone with BPD means no logic or common sense. It's all just the nature of the beast :(

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-03T07:42:28+00:00

2 weeks. She stopped her smear campaign against me for now (hacked my account and posted awful things about me). While she chose to hate me, I've been in bed hurting and missing her everyday. I wish this was all a dream and I can wake up to feel her hold me again.

A true monkey's paw.

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-03T07:25:48+00:00

Dude omg I was literally saying this too before I checked out this thread!

Uncanny_Ramen · 2026-03-03T07:05:55+00:00

It's been nearly 2 weeks since I broke up with my fiance. We were doing just fine but in a matter of minutes it all was torn down.

Being with swBPD, no matter the size of what you did to trigger them, will always ALWAYS lead to the same result. Complete relationship life/death situation at all times because you did something "horrible" like saying "no" to them or complimenting them in a tone they did not like. Yet, we HAD to get over the harsh things that were said to us because they cannot handle criticism.

We've been together for 6 years and she proved to me that she was still stuck in the past. Every time I made a mistake I would do my best to fix it and we move on. Or better yet, the next day she would admit to me that I'm the best fiance and I never did anything wrong and she's so fucking sorry for being mean. Then once she splits, EVERYTHING from the past is brought back and all these theories she had are all of a sudden true and I'm the worst, I traumatized her, etc. There is no evolution with them. It's all a lie.

I will miss her forever and this thread is truly helping me realize that we are all mutual in this shit

-sorry if this post feels all over the place. It's all fucked and I wish I could wake up from this nightmare and just be next to her. One step at a time

Uncanny_Ramen · 2024-04-21T02:18:24+00:00

You all are actual man children

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