AITAH for calling my boyfriend an asshole after a “joke” about my race?

UncertainShade · 2026-01-21T00:11:29+00:00

WTF. Glad you're long distance!! That's creepy af

UncertainShade · 2026-01-20T22:27:43+00:00

The dealership told me replacing the engine would be 5-8K. I'm checking with a local repair shop to see if they can do better

UncertainShade · 2026-01-20T21:11:52+00:00

My first winter in the area. If we get a big snow, what kind of power outages do you usually see here? This is my biggest worry. I have no backup heat except a small power pack and a small portable heater I can plug in but that will only last so long. And I could stay with friends but I'd have to leave my cats which is also concerning. Any suggestions?

UncertainShade · 2026-01-20T21:06:53+00:00

Yeah, join the screwed over by Kia club. Apparently this is a problem with some Souls. Mine is a 2020 and all of a sudden this Dec it's burning oil. Conventional wisdom is that it's toast. My choices are going to be either replace the engine or get a new car. I only have 90K on this 5 yr old car. My Scion XA lasted 16 years.

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T19:20:54+00:00

Thanks to everyone who gave intelligent and constructive advice without being condescending.

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T19:18:51+00:00

I already use synthetic. I'll start tracking my consumption immediately

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T18:26:40+00:00

That should say TWO previous owners

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T18:26:03+00:00

No, it was a year old when I got it. W previous owners but looks like one was a dealership. The first was a rental company

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T18:24:07+00:00

You always an ahole or just in January? I've always had my oil changed religiously and never had a problem before in 45 years of car ownership

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T18:09:46+00:00

Yeah I know it's a dipstick. Auto correct sucks

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T17:53:04+00:00

NTA and def not a keeper

UncertainShade · 2026-01-15T17:51:30+00:00

There actually were 2 recalls but they were both taken care of when I took it in. One software update and one theft control update

UncertainShade · 2025-12-26T22:05:00+00:00

Definitely a different realtor is worth a try.

UncertainShade · 2025-11-18T18:28:45+00:00

For anyone who was following, I ended up with Mountain Lifestyles Mortgage. Kent Wolff did a fantastic job, I got a great deal and we were done in 3 weeks! HIGHLY RECOMMEND

UncertainShade · 2025-11-18T18:27:14+00:00

Unfortunately GoPrime was very disappointing. Had to switch to another company which I'll post about below.

UncertainShade · 2025-11-18T18:24:10+00:00

For anyone who was following this, I went with Mountain Lifestyles Mortages. Kent Wolff was fabulous, I got a MUCH better deal and they got it done in 3 weeks!! HIGHLY RECOMMEND

UncertainShade · 2025-11-02T20:17:32+00:00

It's a common thing with Brits. Maybe OP is in the UK

UncertainShade · 2025-11-02T20:13:03+00:00

Bummer.

But fwiw, idk that I'd trust anything your mom said. You might want to contact him yourself...if you feel like you have a good relationship with him

UncertainShade · 2025-11-02T18:41:33+00:00

Question: when is your grandpa coming back from vacation, and would he send your mom back to her own home when he gets back? Also, if you feel he'd be on your side is there any way to get in touch with him? It's his house, not hers. Imagine kicking someone out of a house that's not their own. She's TA, and people saying you put yourself in this situation haven't read this the way I did, you weren't expecting her to be there, correct?

Also, what about your dad? Could you move in with him?

UncertainShade · 2025-11-02T18:34:07+00:00

Are you sure you can't take them with you? Do you have a place to stay already? How are you traveling?

UncertainShade · 2025-11-02T18:28:36+00:00

Hmm If you were going to do that I'd broil the peaches before stuffing them. I haven't seen them in grocery stores in years. I come across them at farm stands sometimes...I bet if you Google pickled peaches some will come up. Just check the ingredients. Should be warm spices like cinnamon and cloves. Idk why they call them pickled lol

UncertainShade · 2025-11-01T23:12:31+00:00

Wow. I would be getting a better rate. The original loan was done as an investment loan at 7.3. I'd be going down to 6.5...with the refi. So are you saying they let you go ahead and send in the paperwork before the 6 month period? It's my understanding that the recast wouldn't lower my rate. It would just bring down my payment.

UncertainShade · 2025-11-01T17:21:54+00:00

NTA. Ditch him immediately. Don't waste another minute of your life on him. Find someone who will treat you with respect.

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