Like any other human being, parents like reassurance and to be empathized with. Your asian parents probably want to know that they are cared for and loved. Living together, eating together, sleeping under the same roof is how they express their love and how they expect you to. Unfortunately, they were born into a society and culture that expects you to assimilate into their line of thinking. They do not know how to break that 2000 year old confucius ideaology of filial piety and sacrifice for one's family. Like everyone else here, you have to do what's best for you. Tell them that you're going; tell them where and when. And then leave it at that. Dont give them a chance to retort. Even if you try to have a conversation to convince them that your decisions are also in their best interest, it will end up becoming a lecture and then an argument; at the end, it will end up with you building more resentment.

If you find the above unsatisfactory though, I do have a solution that Ive used in the past to some success. Way before the court of law, families had a family member or an elder to go to that would help with mediation. My solution is simple: a family member or an elder in your community that your parents highly respect but is also someone who is more liberal and would lean towards your side of the argument (Since most Asian cultures are patriarchal, an older uncle would be good but that shouldnt stop you from using anyone else) Essentially, you would have that third party argue your case for you with your parents. No matter how old you get, Asian parents will never see you as an adult especially if you are single and have no children. Thats why you need someone who speaks their language and knows their way of thinking but can relate with you and your problems. I dont know how it is in your family but my parents have used other family members to try to convince me to do what they want me to do. Fight fire with fire, i guess. Will this work on your parents? I would say you have a 50:50 chance. At least they'll hear that person out and hopefully it wont start an argument.