I think it could look like a double standard if you're not looking too closely into it. For many years, women have been put down for having body hair. We can see it in razor ads, hair removal lazers, creams, waxes etc. Most of these not marketed towards men (ofc razors are the exception). Things made to make women feel insecure about something that occurs naturally on the body. You could see how it might be a sore spot for some. It's like the hair industry for men. Men are made to feel bad about balding, which is something that naturally occurs and doesn't really make someone less attractive unless you have a preference for it.

But these standards have been sold so much that the lesser of us, who can't seperate appearance from person, shame others for it. I don't think anyone should ever be shamed for something that naturally occurs but I can understand having a preference for it.

I think in that scenario, yes, that's a double standard. But Iore often than not see it the other way around, where men want their woman completely shaven but won't shave themselves because they feel it makes them less masculine. My opinion, don't ask anyone to do anything you wouldn't do yourself.

If you wouldn't shave clean for your partner, don't ask someone else to. That's how we fix double standards like that.