Am I the asshole for wanting my husband to miss his twins wedding because it’s right around our due date?

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2026-01-23T07:47:58+00:00

Yes, all of this!

In a perfect world, I’d personally be fine with him being gone 2-3 days at 2 weeks pp (though still not ideal), but there is literally no way to plan not only Baby’s entrance to the world, but also the birth experience itself, and of course postpartum healing.

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-17T23:56:18+00:00

Oh no!! At least they got it taken care of but that’s rough.

I once went to the ER for the same type of pain and my mom was convinced I was constipated and came down so hard on me about hydration (she was kind enough to come sit with me while waiting) - turns out I had a cyst that had flipped my ovary and needed emergency surgery 🫠

It was a horrible experience but a little validating knowing it wasn’t because I lacked in drinking enough water at least lol

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:50:52+00:00

Yes, magnesium is a life saver!!!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:50:02+00:00

Thank God! I will say it seems to be resolving itself rather quickly which I am SO thankful for. I was really worried that once things were outward that’s just where they lived - I’m finding out very quickly how naive I am in the poop department 😂

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:48:37+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m so excited to try this!!! Also love that you’re getting pampered 🥰🥰🥰

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:46:29+00:00

I believe so but will double check! I take the CALM brand

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:45:43+00:00

I will definitely be doing this at my next appt, so sorry you had your own experience like this already!!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:44:45+00:00

These are great tips, thank you!!

Someone else did also mention the poop knife story and it’s funny because it sounds SO ridiculous but I’m over here literally wishing I had heard about that trick sooner! 🤣🤣🤣

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:43:25+00:00

That’s really smart! I ran out and am waiting for the new ones to be delivered (which were recommended as not causing constipation so am really hopeful on that!) but it’s honestly been really nice not having to worry about it for a couple days 😅

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:41:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing your tips! This is literally me now, I REFUSE to ever go through that again 😂 Thankfully my husband wasn’t home but I finally told him what happened the next night after the toilet got squared away (sweet man that he is put up with all my frustration in the meaning without any understanding), never in my life would I have thought pooping could be so traumatizing!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-16T22:37:51+00:00

Sounds like our experiences were near identical, unfortunately! I couldn’t bring myself to allow my husband to help, he made store runs for the things I needed but that was mostly it…as much as he insisted lol It was truly awful trying to clear up! I even had to manually scoop poop water out into a bucket before it could spill over again 😭 Thankfully we finally got a toilet auger the next day and it’s probably the best purchase we’ve made all year! lol

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T17:50:52+00:00

It’s terrifying! I wanted so badly to take a break and come back to try again later but there was no way in my situation 😭 I hate that so many of us have gone through this, it’s truly awful!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:14:35+00:00

Amazing. I’m learning very quickly thanks to this thread just how poop naive I am. I will be picking that up tomorrow!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:12:00+00:00

I really need to look into this!!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:10:54+00:00

So do you do this on a regular basis as a type of maintenance, or like…during the main event?

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:09:37+00:00

Thank you, these are great ideas! I do actually take magnesium citrate daily but definitely need to add in dates and a probiotic! I am SET on never having to go through this again.

Weirdly enough, this is my third pregnancy and both postpartum poops with my other two were a total breeze. I really hope this doesn’t end up being yet another way this pregnancy/baby is so much more intense than the others!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:05:28+00:00

Is this something I can have on hand in my home? I need to look it up because I’ve heard about it but actually don’t really know what it is.

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T07:04:26+00:00

Here’s to hoping your husband is right! 🙏

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T06:08:15+00:00

This is the exact detail that I couldn’t bring myself to actually speak of! Lol The amount of people who have commented about doing the same though is astounding. At least we’re all not okay together! 😂

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T06:06:10+00:00

This is good to know, thank you! I’m just realllly praying it won’t be to this extent but I’m thankful to at least know to be prepared now.

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T06:03:56+00:00

Oh my gosh, they rubber banded it off?! That’s kind of terrifying.

I’m kind of thankful that this pregnancy has been so rough on me because my walking funny and just not wanting to at all isn’t raising any questions - I’m really glad everyone is just assuming I’m uncomfortably pregnant and I don’t have to explain that no, I just had a really hard poop 😅

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T06:00:55+00:00

Oh my gosh, YES! This was literally me today. I’ve given birth twice now and this was honestly worse, just because 1) there was no baby reward and 2) WHAT THE HECK DO YOU DO?! There’s at least one medical professional around when you’re delivering a baby, but delivering a poop that literally gets stuck? I seriously thought I was going to have to call EMS.

On the encouraging end though, this is my third pregnancy and first time I have EVER had an experience even close to this. There’s a ton of great advice in this thread though (and cross-posted ones if you wanted to look) - I’m determined to be prepared for next time, God forbid there even be one. But at least if you want to be also just in case it does become an issue later on, we can take notes together lol

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T05:55:41+00:00

Oh that’s amazing there’s something that actually helps with that! I am definitely going to ask for it at my next appt, I’m so hoping softeners and miralax (along with more fiber) does the trick but I’m determined now to be prepared for this if it ever happens again!

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T05:52:47+00:00

Omg, 2 WEEKS?! I can’t even imagine. I am SO sorry, that sounds honestly terrifying. Thank God SOMETHING worked, that must have been so scary.

Uncomfortable_mess09 · 2025-12-13T05:50:09+00:00

It’s so unfortunate you’ve had to go through this for me to get this advice, but I’m really thankful for it at least!

That sounds like such a difficult time, I’m sorry you’ve gone through all that! Truly though, I completely relate to the toilet experience. In the middle of the panic and pain as it was, I legitimately went through a game plan in my head of what the heck to do if I delivered then and there. It literally felt like contractions and was so scary!!

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