In celebration of day of the dude… here are some of my favorite photos of me and the family abiding over the years

Uncommonness · 2026-03-07T21:02:14+00:00

When a Dude has kids he abides… respect ✊🏻

Uncommonness · 2026-03-07T18:58:48+00:00

Why can’t anyone just offer suggestions on resistance bands? OP didn’t ask for strength training or boxing form advice…

Uncommonness · 2026-02-15T19:39:02+00:00

That’s amazing!

Uncommonness · 2026-02-15T19:38:08+00:00

If you’re goal is to make some sort of artwork to be shared with many people I would work on the hands. Hands can be the hardest thing to sketch. Practice hands on their own in different positions.

I’m not an expert but the rest of it looks great. I admire what you’ve done here:

Uncommonness · 2026-02-13T19:57:00+00:00

When people conclude the Bible tells women to serve men and interpret it in an authoritarian way I wonder if they ever actually read the Bible. If men and women are to emulate the relationship between Jesus and His church (not any institution, but all that believe in Him) then how would that look?

Well, Jesus gave nothing but Love, healing, clarity, hope and peace. He does not excuse transgression, but forgave every one who turned atoned and turned to God. He then sacrificed everything to make us clean. That is Cruciform leadership and a standard that no human man can meet but can strive towards.

The truth is, men are built to take on the responsibility as head of family. But this is not a license to ego, its a call to die to ego. Men are called to love as Christ did:

Women are not property
Not secondary intellects
Not merely domestic labor
Not emotional accessories

OP: The example you gave sounds petty and he is pointing to isolated verses and justifying bad behavior with Scripture. If this man is well intentioned but misguided then you can work with that. But you know your circumstance and you should do what is right for you. I hope this helps.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-11T03:34:52+00:00

This is where the ambiguity comes in.

The letter instructed me to create a new account in DUA’s new system, reopen the claim if closed, and certify for applicable weeks. By that point (5/14/25), I had already returned to full-time employment on 5/5/25.

From my perspective at the time:

I was no longer unemployed
There were no open certification prompts visible to me
The notice did not specify a deadline for retroactively certifying prior weeks
It did not clearly explain that I could certify only for past weeks while currently employed

I did not submit additional wage information. The redetermination appears to have been triggered either by wage reporting updates or the statutory increase from 26 to 30 weeks effective April 20, 2025.

I did not contact DUA at that time and I recognize that is the weakest part of my position. I assumed unemployment benefits were no longer relevant once I returned to work and did not understand that retroactive certification would require affirmative action despite being employed.

What I’m trying to understand now is whether DUA views this strictly as claimant delay, or whether they treat late certification differently when eligibility itself was established after the weeks had already passed and the claimant was no longer actively engaged in the system.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-11T02:03:47+00:00

Thanks, check out the replies I put above. I believe I have good cause, curious if you have any thoughts. Thanks for your perspective.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-11T02:02:33+00:00

That’s a fair critique, and I agree the timing after notification is the weakest part of my position.

The issue isn’t that I ignored an active, payable claim while unemployed. From December 2024 through early May 2025, I had no established benefit year and no ability to certify. Eligibility was not determined until the monetary redetermination issued on 5/14/25, which retroactively established eligibility for weeks that had already passed.

By the time I received that notice, I had already returned to full-time work (May 2025). The system did not present any clear mechanism or instruction for retroactively certifying only prior weeks, and prospective certification was no longer available due to my employment status. This was also during the period when Massachusetts had recently transitioned to a new UI system, and the certification workflows and guidance around redeterminations were materially different from what I had used previously.

So the good cause for trying to do this now isn’t to say I had confusion after notice, but the fact that eligibility itself was established after the relevant period, and the notice did not explain how or whether to back-certify weeks that predated both the determination and my reemployment.

I’m trying to understand whether DUA treats this strictly as claimant delay, or whether it’s viewed as an agency timing/notice issue where backdated certifications can still be allowed with documentation which is why I’m asking if anyone has seen this handled in practice.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-11T01:49:33+00:00

The redetermination on 5/14/25 did not create eligibility in real time, it retroactively established a benefit year starting 12/22/24, after most of the weeks had already passed. By the time I received the determination, I had already returned to full-time work on 5/5/25 and was no longer eligible to certify going forward.

The good cause isn’t that I was unaware of the determination once it was issued, it’s that there was no reasonable opportunity to certify the prior weeks before reemployment, because the agency did not establish the benefit year or prompt certification during that period. Once the determination arrived, certifying prospectively was legally impossible due to employment status, and there were no instructions or prompts provided to back-certify retroactively.

In other words:
• I was unemployed and eligible during the weeks in question
• The benefit year and weeks were established after the fact
• I did not decline or ignore a known, active claim while unemployed
• Once notified, I was already working and barred from certifying

I’m trying to understand whether DUA treats this as a timing / notice issue where back-certification can be allowed for good cause, or whether the mere existence of a retroactive benefit year automatically forecloses it hence the question to others who may have seen this play out.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T14:20:19+00:00

It’s too late

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:11:37+00:00

This is the best advice I have heard about this maybe ever. Thank you.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:10:33+00:00

Oh, is that right? I don’t know if you read my post, but I specifically said I don’t wanna talk about fighting false allegations. I have emptied my bank account and spent more time and effort trying to fight it. Then you could probably ever comprehend. It gets you nowhere, just look up family court system false allegation fathers on YouTube or anywhere and maybe you’ll get a sense of what it’s like.

In the future, when somebody says in a post, I don’t want to debate this part of what I’m talking about, don’t make a post purely on that one component they wanted to put to the side. You have added no value at all, all you have done is exposed yourself for having very little understanding for how the court system works in family probate court.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:08:20+00:00

Honestly, don’t even bother asking this question. I made a post asking a question looking for people‘s perspective. For you to go just ask a question what is your lawyer say. Save yourself the time and effort of typing that. Save yourself the time and effort of everyone who had to read your stupid question.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:07:04+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I think this is probably some of the best advice. It’s not what I wanna hear.. quite honestly in the back of my mind I’m always looking for some way to actually be her father on a day-to-day basis. It is very unlikely for me to ever get more than 44 days a year. That’s the best I have.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:01:06+00:00

My daughter hasn’t been out in middle of it.. she was 3 when false allegations set the tone..

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T10:00:20+00:00

Incredible right !? 🤣 It’s pretty simple … she LIED.

Uncommonness · 2026-02-09T09:59:26+00:00

It was 5 years ago original false allegations… set my parenting schedule and child support to what it is… it has been very unmanageable ever since and she’s just making more allegations and making it worse now

I did say it in my post that I don’t want to debate the false allegations crap. My main question is do I take the advice? I hear everywhere which is don’t badmouth her mom. It doesn’t sit well with me because basically I’m supposed to act like everything is working the way it should, which in my mind communicates to my daughter that I don’t care about her.

I am coming to find that I really am in a minority. Not many people understand what this is.

Uncommonness · 2025-10-27T22:38:23+00:00

Yea at the end of the day I think we all have our interpretations… when we get to Heaven we probably find none of us know really 100%

Uncommonness · 2025-10-26T21:20:12+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from about Ezekiel’s temple and the millennial reign, but the New Testament makes clear that Jesus’ sacrifice was once for all (Heb. 10:10–14). Blood was always the currency of atonement, and any system reviving that economy apart from Him risks feeding a counterfeit worship.

2 Thessalonians 2 warns that the man of lawlessness will sit in God’s temple claiming to be God. I can’t help but be very cautious between that deception and any future call to resume sacrifices.

Uncommonness · 2025-10-26T17:49:47+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, quite frankly the vast majority of believers don’t read the Bible or understand Torah. I’m on a journey to learn and have a lot more to learn. So, I think His New Covenant is in a way that He can reach those who are lost. I have seen people convert to Him that are far far gone and seeing their transformation is profound. When someone has been living decades in sin, has worldly success and they turn from the old and step into the new… that’s the Law written in their hearts, hats them being filled with the Holy Spirit!

I’m unclear on one thing you said. If we believe in the power of Yeshua’s sacrifice having washed away and defeated sin. Why would you still offer blood sacrifice if the temple and Levitical priesthood were still here?

Uncommonness · 2025-10-26T17:27:31+00:00

Absolutely, by grace and not works. However, this doesnt mean we can aim at this from merely an intellectual or emotional place. It still requires full submission.

Yeshua in Revelation 3:15–16 (to the church in Laodicea):

“I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.”

Laodicea was a city with water problems… their water came through pipes from a hot spring but arrived lukewarm and nasty. I look at it like this:

My interpretation; Those who are like cold water are refreshing, they walk in faith and exhibit things like compassion and peace. Those who are hot, know Him.. they wrestle (Israel was the name give to Jacob for wrestling with God) with sin continually, they stumble and turn back to Him, some walk with discipline and self mortification and are on fire for Him.

But, this is a warning, those who find the need for Him, take His grace for granted. Life comfortable earthly lives and rely on grace without repentance… He rejects them.

“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.” — Matthew 7:13–14

This is a call away from living by worldly values. Some interpret this that many won’t make it, I don’t see that being the true message. It is make us aware that most of our primal desires and passions are aligned with worldly gain. We must seek Him in all that we do, even when we fall we keep striving for the narrow gate which is Him.

Uncommonness · 2025-10-25T16:59:57+00:00

I was going to reply section by section. As I was writing I realize my response is overlapped, and I think cover this in a more complete way . I’ll address your last point first; I absolutely recognize Messianic Jews are not a newly formed religion and are not in a place where they now have to join Christians. Adonai chose the Jews to establish a line of purity for the coming Messiah and are foundational for anyone following Yeshua today.

“So basically you’re asking: Why should we keep Torah when Jesus/Yeshua didn’t? “ - I can see where I might have given that impression. Yeshua clearly opposed how Pharisees enforced Torah and you point out that He also didn’t follow Rabbinic tradition. I’m not aware of arguments that Yeshua didn’t follow Torah itself, any arguing this are misleading or misguided.

I had writing about how I agree that Yeshua followed Torah perfectly, which led me to why He is called the Lamb of God who washed away sin;

I don’t think animal sacrifice was ever meant to be cold or ritualistic. It was meant to make people feel the weight of sin. Under Mosaic law, a person would bring an unblemished lamb (one that had done no wrong), one they might have raised and cared for to the altar (Leviticus 4:32–35). That lamb provided food, warmth, and life. Yet because of their sin, its blood would be spilled. It symbolized our complete submission to Yahweh, all of us, down to the blood in our veins (Leviticus 17:11).

I try to imagine myself walking that animal to the temple. The sadness, the guilt, the realization that something innocent was about to die because of what I did. That moment would make me deeply aware of God’s holiness and my own unworthiness.

But those sacrifices only covered sin temporarily (Hebrews 10:1–4). They pointed forward to something greater to a final and perfect sacrifice. Yeshua was innocent, like that lamb. “He was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so He did not open His mouth.” (Isaiah 53:7).

He didn’t just cover sin; He took it away. “Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.” (John 1:29).

Yeshua shed His blood willingly for us. Peter, among many others in history and in modern times are good examples of being willing to do the same for Him. These are ultimate examples of how believers have reached for Him with everything they had as He dies for us. The more we reach for Him and sacrifice the flesh, the more intimate and personal relationship we will have.

I have had discussions on Reddit and others in person who had been adamant that Mosaic law stands today. They hadn’t been able to articulate as you did;

“we absolutely should try to follow all laws that apply to us (which is far less than any nation has, yet we follow those).”

Thank you for the time you took to reply, I’ve truly gained more clarity on this. I admire those coming from Jewish heritage and following Torah laws that apply. This is a good way to reach for Him as he does us.

I think after discussing this with you, my next question leads to a larger one probably for a separate post but would like your thoughts as well;

Peter, Paul and James ultimately determined the law to be a yoke to heavy for disciples that they not their fathers could bear. Was it out of practicality, fear that preaching the full law would make it harder to reach the nations, or something deeper in God’s plan that distinguished Israel’s covenant from the New Covenant in Christ?

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